How much sex education is enough for our children in the school setting.

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How much sex education is enough for our children in the school setting.

catastic catastic
I'm a strong believer in sex education. My high school had a terrible sex ed program and there was a lot of pregnancy. Some girls had double strollers.
05/04/2012
Faeya Faeya
We already have sex positive books about puberty and reproduction in the house for my children (10,8, and 6). However, we live in Indiana, which is an abstinence only state, so I mostly started early because I wanted to make sure they learned trufax before their heads got filled with whatever negative BS the school decided to teach. In a perfect world, comprehensive sex education, including birth controls and at least a mention of masturbation and alternate sexualities/gender identities should be standard in school. If there's a time issue, there should at least be a good selection of books on those topics available in the school library for students with questions. When I was younger, that's how I learned about sex and reproduction. I was lucky...if I hadn't found the book with the diagrams in it, I might have never heard of my clitoris, let alone found it.
05/12/2012
indiechick indiechick
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Originally posted by MnWolf
With times changing like they are, we have controversy in what should and shouldn't be taught in school to our children. It is common knowledge that the schools are still pushing for abstinence and that sex should wait till marriage. We know ...
We are taught about boys and girls in school and basic sex ed. but 1: Abstinence only education doesn't work 2: we are not educating our kids enough about STIs and how to protect against them 3: there are more than 2 genders and not everyone is straight and that should be addressed at school in open environments
05/12/2012
Sex Positivity Sex Positivity
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Originally posted by Annemarie
I think it should be left at home for each parent to decide how they want their kid to find out about it. The choice is simple.

If I had a kid, I would tell them everything and let them make up their own mind. My parents pushed abstinence, ...
The only point I want to bring up is that the parents should be punished for being shitty, not the child who was unfortunately born to them, you know? But I totally see where you're coming from. I'm sure someone has already jumped on you for this post, though, so I'm not going to further it.

I think there needs to be significantly more education in schools, starting at younger ages, about sex and sexuality. Parents and schools should work together to create individualized plans for each child, whenever possible, so that the proper amount of teaching is done and so parents feel comfortable.

But, as it currently stands, teenagers are learning from pornography. They're not taught about condoms or female sexual pleasure or even what a vagina without reconstructive surgery looks like. Because, I don't know about any of you female bodied people here, but my labia are certainly bigger than Sasha Grey's.
05/12/2012
pitona pitona
if the parents isnt there to talk then someone else will be
05/14/2012
indiechick indiechick
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Originally posted by El-Jaro
I'm a big proponent of Charter schools. I'm not a fan of morals and beliefs taught in schools, those belong outside of the curriculum.
thank god for people like you
05/18/2012
badk1tty badk1tty
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Originally posted by MnWolf
With times changing like they are, we have controversy in what should and shouldn't be taught in school to our children. It is common knowledge that the schools are still pushing for abstinence and that sex should wait till marriage. We know ...
More. Absolutely more than they do now. And this "abstinence only" thing disgusts me.
05/21/2012
CadmiumKitty CadmiumKitty
the sex education given to kids at school is awful.
05/25/2012
theavocadopit theavocadopit
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Originally posted by MnWolf
With times changing like they are, we have controversy in what should and shouldn't be taught in school to our children. It is common knowledge that the schools are still pushing for abstinence and that sex should wait till marriage. We know ...
Agree!
05/30/2012
EdenUser EdenUser
Hiding sex from kids can be dangerous, what about teen pregnancy? I doubt that happens because the people involved really knew what they were doing. If you don't want your kids to be overly sexual teach them to control their urges, don't act like their genitals don't exist.
05/30/2012
pasdechat pasdechat
As someone who went to a liberal private school and was STILL pretty clueless, I really doubt most kids get enough in the way of sex ed.

To be fair, I knew about menstruation, and safe sex practices, and the basics of PIV intercourse, but...I don't think that's really enough. I lost my virginity relatively late (20-ish) and still, at the time, knew virtually nothing about my own body. My mom had given me books to read when I was younger that had given me some idea about the clitoris, G-spot, etc, but I didn't really get it. And since I had masturbated when I was younger, but never to orgasm, so I didn't think I was really missing out on much; I thought female orgasms were these rare, magical things that could only be achieved through partner sex. It wasn't until a friend finally told me about her experience with vibrators that I started to look around online.

I know from having talked to other women that my experience is not unique; there is so little emphasis placed on female anatomy and sexuality, and I think it's a shame--even a sign that something is wrong--that so many girls start having partner sex before they know anything about pleasing themselves.
05/30/2012
Maximusx Maximusx
My kids will be well informed with or without school teaching it, but a lot of kids won't be.....I'm for them teaching more.
06/01/2012
Maximusx Maximusx
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Originally posted by Owl Identified
If a kid's parents are lazy and don't deal with the situation and the kid ends up pregnant/with an std/whatever, it's the parent's fault. You teach your kids not to put their hands on the hot stove, you teach your kids not to stick ...
Agreed
06/01/2012
Bex1331 Bex1331
I they should cover everything, they should discuss everything a little bit, explain how to safely engage in oral, anal, and vaginal sex. Explain that these are all types of sex (a common misconception in schools). Talk about the LGBTQ society and everything that includes (especially trans* issues which everyone seems to ignore). They should also talk about relationships surrounding sex and explain that porn is not an educational resource.
06/01/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by pitona
if the parents isnt there to talk then someone else will be
Who? Most kids have NO ONE except other kids, who usually have improper information.

Who were you referring to, when you said "then someone else will be"?

Because if the school isn't doing a good job, most kids have nowhere else to go.

When I was a kid, I took books out of the library to fill in the nonexistent information that both my parents and my school failed to teach me. But, I'm learning most people NEVER take the initiative to teach themselves things.
06/01/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by NuclearTeapot
I don't think schools need to cover everything, that is what parents are for. However, I think schools should cover in a very factual matter STDs and various forms of contraceptive.

I went through my sex ed in Texas where we were taught ...
Jeez, that is absolutely disgusting. Texas? Why am I not surprised? (Let's just look at the Governor Alumni.... )

When you tell kids contraceptives "don't work" (as opposed to "every method may have drawbacks, but they are better than teenage pregnancy") kids think they will just forgo the contraception and then you end up with a high teen pregnancy rate and high abortion rates.

Good contraceptive information is linked to LOWER abortion rates.

Why are the Fundies so concerned about trying to make everyone live the way they say they do? (But, usually are just as or more twisted than everybody else.)
06/01/2012
Beck Beck
Someone needs to be there for the child. If parents choose to have there heads in the sand, then the responsibility does end up falling onto the school. Because children don't have anyone else to go to. Except for other children. We all know that is not a good idea because other children tell each other things like "oral doesn't count", "you can't get pregnant if....", and so on. This is because they don't have the correct information.

Sex education is something that should be on the parents to discuss, however, if the parents aren't discussing it with their child someone needs to. They have questions that need answered.

Schools need to keep morals out of it. Sex education isn't about saving yourself for marriage. That is a moral/religious belief, not a valid teaching of sexual education. Child need to know what can happen if you have sex. How you can protect yourself and what are your options should you have sex and end up pregnant or with a STD. Cover all the information about STD's too. If parents want to cover the morals of sex that is one thing, but the school should NOT!
06/01/2012
SilverMinxxx SilverMinxxx
I think there needs to be more education. I mean...look at our countries teen pregnancy rates. I know they say that it has been going down, but we rate right up there with third world countries...
06/01/2012
Do emu Do emu
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Originally posted by MnWolf
With times changing like they are, we have controversy in what should and shouldn't be taught in school to our children. It is common knowledge that the schools are still pushing for abstinence and that sex should wait till marriage. We know ...
If you look at the patterns of countries where sex education is broadened, the teenage pregnancy rates are actually lower, along with STDs. It can only bring good things.
06/01/2012
Roz W Roz W
It's not just that teens are going to have sex anyway, and should know what their body parts are called or what risks of pregnancy and disease actually are. If people are going to have sex anyway, it's very important to be able to talk about sex and CONSENT. Kids have problems with this and adults have problems with this. If you can't talk about sex you can't consent to it fully. A more open culture around sexuality -- that is, talking about it, openly and honestly -- would also help prevent sexual assault/coercion.
06/18/2012
Claire-Bear Claire-Bear
Accurate, positive teaching should be given every year in high school. Some kids are bashful to really listen and understand, so maybe it will seep in one of those years. It's also good to have myths and rumors debunked on a somewhat routine basis.
06/18/2012
Nirelan Nirelan
Although my children are and will be as well informed as possible, I think there are a LOT of children that WON'T get educated at home, therefore it should be taught in school as well. And I mean TAUGHT....every detail...every ugly detail...lol
06/19/2012
Nirelan Nirelan
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Originally posted by Owl Identified
If a kid's parents are lazy and don't deal with the situation and the kid ends up pregnant/with an std/whatever, it's the parent's fault. You teach your kids not to put their hands on the hot stove, you teach your kids not to stick ...
I agree wholeheartedly!
06/19/2012
JennSenn JennSenn
I believe that some sex ed should be taught. At least anough for kids to be safe. I was apparently kind of inquisitive as a child and my mother gave me a few books to read on puberty and sex so I mostly got it from her and media/internet. I was in private schools for kids with learning disabilities which focused more on other subjects and only had sex ed once I was in a public high school. And that was some little off shoot of phys ed I think. Anyway, I didn't really need it, but other kids might and should have the opportunity.
08/21/2012
HouseWench HouseWench
My sex ed wasn't HORRIBLE, but just completely devoid of any sort of pleasure for the women. Damn you texas
09/04/2012
Missmarc Missmarc
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Originally posted by MnWolf
With times changing like they are, we have controversy in what should and shouldn't be taught in school to our children. It is common knowledge that the schools are still pushing for abstinence and that sex should wait till marriage. We know ...
Schools should provide more education on sex and sexuality
09/05/2012
Passion plum Passion plum
Parents should be the first ones to educate their children however a large percentage of the adult population are themselves not educated. A well rounded education should come from both the parents and the school systems. Sexual education, should be about sexual health, std and pregnancy prevention and abstinance.
09/07/2012
Kenneth Fort Kenneth Fort
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Originally posted by MnWolf
With times changing like they are, we have controversy in what should and shouldn't be taught in school to our children. It is common knowledge that the schools are still pushing for abstinence and that sex should wait till marriage. We know ...
It should strike a balance. Provide needed information, but with heavy emphasis on the risks, especially for unprotected. There's a way better than just the extremes people often gravitate to.
09/18/2012
RebelRebelJen RebelRebelJen
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Originally posted by MnWolf
With times changing like they are, we have controversy in what should and shouldn't be taught in school to our children. It is common knowledge that the schools are still pushing for abstinence and that sex should wait till marriage. We know ...
With many schools cutting back what they are teaching in that type of class, they could really use to go back to the way things were when I was in school. However, kids are going to try things no matter what, if their parents are more engaged and open or not. I still think parents should be more open with their kids, though.
10/03/2012
Rory Rory
Kids reach puberty younger all the time. Lets get them educated enough that they aren't having kids while they are kids.
11/03/2012
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