Do you think that 50 Shades of Grey will make BDSM more of a mainstream thing, and less taboo? Do you think it will make people more open to that lifestyle (maybe not trying it, but at least accepting it)?
What do you think 50 Shades will do for the mainstream?
06/29/2012
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To be honest, no. I mean I don't think there will be a major change. It did spark my interest in things like light restraint and sensory play but that's as far as it goes for me. Plus, it doesn't really explain what it's REALLY like to be in a REAL BDSM relationship, this book puts it nicely because they really aren't in one. Christian doesn't treat Ana like he did the other women...so...yeah, it gives the wrong idea.
06/29/2012
It has put some spark into otherwise dull, sexless bedrooms.
(Not mine, I didn't find the book to be all that scintillating and my bedroom is perfectly sexful.)
(Not mine, I didn't find the book to be all that scintillating and my bedroom is perfectly sexful.)
06/29/2012
I think it could take away some of the shock value of BDSM, which is ultimately a good thing. I don't think it's a good enough book to actually educate people, though.
07/01/2012
I think it might encourage some people to dabble in BDSM that otherwise wouldn't have. Some of them might try it and like it and others won't. There have been kinky movies and books that have been in the mainstream before. I don't think it will make a huge cultural shift or anything like that.
07/01/2012
It might have some people trying things that they would not have before, but it might be that they don't know enough to do these things safely, so in some individual cases, it may do more harm than good.
07/01/2012
I don't think it will do anything good, since it's a poor representation of BDSM relationships. Not sane, not safe, and not consensual.
07/02/2012
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I agree with this. From the articles I've been reading, people are growing more and more aware of BDSM relationships and more and more misunderstanding of what they really are. All anyone talks about in conjunction with BDSM thesedays is abuse and women "thinking its what they want" and how horrible that is.
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BoobCopter
I don't think it will do anything good, since it's a poor representation of BDSM relationships. Not sane, not safe, and not consensual.
07/02/2012
It's a poor introduction to BDSM, but hopefully when people want to try it, they'll do some basic research and get some better advice. It's still a porn novel, so hopefully people don't take it as a perfect representation of actual BDSM
07/02/2012
Not at all, I hoped it would but when I read it I realized it wouldn't at all. The book portrays BDSM as freakish, the same way people view it already. They act as though the only reason Grey acts that way is because he's damaged, it's not something Ana accepts but instead an obstacle for their relationship to overcome.
07/02/2012
MissMori made a thought provoking post on this subject in one of the other Fifty threads.
07/02/2012
Damn. I've had some bad experiences with people who've read these books - coming to me and asking me why I'm into BDSM when it's such an abusive thing etc. - thoughts gained from these books. I'd hoped that was a thing that was happening in the minority, and that these were isolated incidents. Now, with five others stating the same thing consecutively, these hopes have been dashed. My conclusion is that these books are not good for making BDSM more mainstream.
07/03/2012
PS. Thanks, Petite, for the link .
07/03/2012
Thanks! I love it when my internet rantings can benefit someone! I didn't have such hard feelings until I read all the way through the blog recaps I linked to in that post, but damn, that is some hackles-raising stuff right there . . . .
07/03/2012
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i read all three books and they were torturous to get through. One individual i know who is and has been for many years in a Master/slave relationship said that reading the books are so awful that being forced to read them could be a BDSM punishment scene. It really is that bad. Many people in the lifestyle are reading it for the express purpose of being able to do damage control when people stumble their way into our parties, meetings, munches, and other events with no background or knowledge except the gross misrepresentation in these books! i picked it up to find out what the hype was about, i continued reading to understand the damage they could do, and the implications are terrifying. People could really get hurt, besides the fact that these books put us as practitioners of BDSM living in that lifestyle in such an awful light. It intimates that we are freaks, damaged, possible child molesters, incapable of real love or affection or loving relationships, and/or simply need a loving, vanilla relationship with the right parter to rescue us from our "darkness". Well, thank you so much, but i'll keep my darkness and enjoy it. The only reason we hide in the shadows is because of images, myths and stereotypes like these, propagated by books like these, that make vanilla people so unwilling to accept BDSM/leather/kink as a valid, healthy, sane lifestyle choice. It aggravates me and angers me to no end. These books are, all at once, an affront to feminism, BDSM, D/s relationships, anti-domestic violence and anti-abuse causes, literature, erotica and the list goes on. Oooooooh, i could rant for pages i'm so mad!
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MissMori
Thanks! I love it when my internet rantings can benefit someone! I didn't have such hard feelings until I read all the way through the blog recaps I linked to in that post, but damn, that is some hackles-raising stuff right there . . . .
07/25/2012
I don't think the books themselves are anything worthwhile but I do see it as a great opportunity to open conversations. If someone has a budding interest or is too shy/not sure how talk about it, I see the books as being a great starting point. Sorta like what Secretary did for me as a young adult.
07/25/2012
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