Why don't women tend to watch porn?

callsignhusker callsignhusker
I've been thinking it way be more social repression of women, a deep seated discouragemnt of anything resembling non-monogamy in women, interior sex organs rather than exterior etc.. Personally I think it may be many factors..
04/01/2011
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Ansley Ansley
One woman I know stated she felt it was tasteless and she was embarrassed by seeing such intimate acts. She doesn't feel you can have sex without love.

Another woman I know finds it laughable at best and would rather mock it than use it as a sexual aid.

I love porn and watch it in some form every single day.
04/01/2011
kendra30752 kendra30752
Or maybe some of them truly have a reason to not like it? I won't go into the deep, boring facts again, but a lot of women have been abused with porn being a big part of it. I hate to be the one to say it, but some women are actually truly hurting over matters that involve porn. It's not as innocent as some think. Some women have been divorced, families torn apart, some women have been raped and nearly killed all because the man wanted to "Act out a scene from a porno." Believe me, it's not fun being on this side of it. I want to know why women who don;t like porn are constantly being belittled, beat down for it? I get that so often and it is not easy! Also, do you know how many women feel like they aren't good enough because of having a selfish partner who only wants to look at fake women rather than her? There are bad sides too. I thankfully, have a partner who agrees on this matter with me so that is a good thing, but thousands of women are silently hurting so badly with porn issues and not feeling good enough. We hide it well though when we want to.

Also, some women such as myself, do find it degrading, distasteful, morally wrong, etc. I think it's way overrated. Somehwhere around 80% of rapes committed were in some way related to porn. I promise you, when you're being raped and nearly killed just for a stupid man to act out his precious little fantasy porn scene, you can't see porn as great and wonderful. It becomes your worst nightmare and a pretty little reminder every time you see it
04/30/2011
tigerkate tigerkate
I think you are generalizing when you say women don't watch porn.
I do, and I know quite a few others who do too.

I know other women who choose not to, with good reason as well (like kendra has stated in the previous post).
04/30/2011
SexyLilPixi SexyLilPixi
I Porn.
04/30/2011
Persephone Nightmare Persephone Nightmare
I watch porn and I am a woman. Granted, I am rather picky about it and alot of times I turn into a sort of "Porn Critic" when I watch it (i.e: "Holy Crap! The acting is *terrible!*. Someone teach these people how to act!"), but I do watch it and I don't see anything wrong with it.

And honestly, I don't see anything wrong with Synthetik watching it either. I figure that as long as it does not negatively affect our relationship or the sex we have (for example: it wouldn't be acceptable if he sat there and watched porn and neglected our relationship, or left me "high and dry" and basically chose porn over actual sex. *Then* that would be a problem). However, I have not seen this happen.

If anything, I find that us watching porn gives us great inspiration for when we have sex. If I see something I kind of like (and I'm sure this applies for him, too) then I make a mental note to try it out. Nothing wrong with that in my book, and if anything, I find that, because of the inspiration, that porn has added to our sexual 'repertoire' I guess I could say, lol.
04/30/2011
CadmiumKitty CadmiumKitty
It personally just doesnt excite me. I find most of it to be terribly fake and boring. To each their own.
05/25/2012
pix pix
I watch porn. But I only watch the free stuff, haha. I can see how for straight women, it wouldn't be worth watching since the male actors are all really unappealing unless you look really hard or shell out some money for it.
05/31/2012
Maximusx Maximusx
My girl LOVES porn....guy on guy mostly...llol
06/01/2012
Maximusx Maximusx
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Originally posted by pix
I watch porn. But I only watch the free stuff, haha. I can see how for straight women, it wouldn't be worth watching since the male actors are all really unappealing unless you look really hard or shell out some money for it.
unappealing is putting it lightly! LOL
06/01/2012
Love Obsessed Love Obsessed
I think more women watch porn then admit to it.I watch porn but,I'm starting to hate it because really porn is for the straight/bi man and the lesbian/bi woman.All porn shows the woman far too much like the woman is the star of the show and I'm just tired of seeing close ups of pussy.
06/01/2012
Khanner Khanner
For me, I'm just too picky. I haven't found many that actually succeeded in turning me on. It just doesn't compare to my imagination and memories.

I also don't like people assuming I'm immature or prudish when I say I don't watch it, or that I'm just female so it means I'm "not visually oriented."
06/01/2012
BoobCopter BoobCopter
Male gaze. However, I love porn that doesn't cater to the male gaze.
07/04/2012
Bodhi Bodhi
I think it's because porn doesn't really consider women at all, their needs are generally visible.

I believe if the porn aimed at women are more mainstream a lot more would watch.

I personally don't watch porn, I feel like it's sort of a sexual mcdonalds, it just makes me feel bad, and unsatisfied.

Though, mainstream porn doesn't seem to appeal to women, Yaoi, which is basically manga/anime guy on guy porn has a big fanbase. There is lots of it, and it's all pretty much aimed at women, and it's popular.

Theres this game, Enzai, it's kind of like picture book and such, you read it, make a choice. It's really graphic, and not so much vanilla, and it's really popular among women.

To say porn in general doesn't appeal to women would be really incorrect, to say that the mainstream porn that you find on typical pornsites, like redtube, and on dvd don't really appeal to women, i'd agree with that.
07/05/2012
Roz W Roz W
For starters, I want to see people I find attractive. Often, mainstream porn doesn't have attractive guys because it would be too intimidating to guys who watch porn! That sucks.

Mainstream porn has big beefy guys, which I don't like unless they're gay.
Mainstream porn has money shots, and I could care less.
Mainstream porn's version of "girl on girl" includes mugging for the camera and doing whatever the guy wants. I want porn that isn't so male-gaze-centric, and involves the women actually enjoying themselves and getting off. This isn't some ideological thing. It's what I like.

I like looking at naked people, a lot. But most porn doesn't cater to me. I usually have to sift through so much stuff I don't care about that I don't really watch video porn. I *do* like fetish photography, though. And, like, fanfic. So whatever.

How does "interior sex organs" affect what women want to watch? That makes no sense.
07/18/2012
Experiment Experiment
Most porn is made for men. I like watching porn, but about half of the video is close-ups of her different orifices and that doesn't do anything for me. If I wanted to look at vaginas and ass I'd just go look in the mirror.

That said, I've read a lot about the subject. Women are more likely to want to engage in the experience, while men want to engage in the visual of it. Thus why women read porn and men tend to watch it.

But I do enjoy porn.
07/21/2012
Billie Bones Billie Bones
Its not as socially acceptable for women to say "I love porn", though there are many who do. Also, I think a lot of women see the male gaze kind of stuff, which is the majority of what's out there, and are unaware of or do not have access to other kinds of porn (feminist, queer, etc). And, hey, some people just aren't into it. I bet there are a ton of guys who would have trouble admitting that they hate watching porn.
07/21/2012
hall5885 hall5885
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Originally posted by Roz W
For starters, I want to see people I find attractive. Often, mainstream porn doesn't have attractive guys because it would be too intimidating to guys who watch porn! That sucks.

Mainstream porn has big beefy guys, which I don't like ... More
Exactly, I think I spend more time sifting through porn than actually watching it. But I do watch it sometimes. Also personally for most part I rather be having sex than watching it. But I'm like that with most things, I guess that's why I don't have a TV. lol
07/23/2012
YouAreMyFetish YouAreMyFetish
There isn't enough diversity in the industry. I'm a woman and I love porn, but have a hell of a time finding things I like. I don't want to see cumshots to the face and to feel like someone in the video is only doing what they're doing because they're paid to or because they weren't told they were going to have to do THAT only this. There is, of course, that small sub-category of feminist and queer porn, and there needs to be more like it. Perhaps if there were, more women would feel comfortable watching porn, or learn to like it. I think a lot of times they just assume it's something for men and that they shouldn't like so they don't even try it out--and then when they do, they discover a lot of the bad stuff instead of stumbling upon the little bit of good stuff out there.
08/10/2012
Rory Rory
It doesn't do anything for me but if its on during sex it helps the mood.
11/04/2012
deltalima deltalima
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Originally posted by callsignhusker
I've been thinking it way be more social repression of women, a deep seated discouragemnt of anything resembling non-monogamy in women, interior sex organs rather than exterior etc.. Personally I think it may be many factors..
I think more women do but they're not as open about it.
12/22/2012
RavenInChains RavenInChains
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Originally posted by callsignhusker
I've been thinking it way be more social repression of women, a deep seated discouragemnt of anything resembling non-monogamy in women, interior sex organs rather than exterior etc.. Personally I think it may be many factors..
For me, I don't watch porn because I know it isn't an accurate representation of what sex is like. I think the fact that most men essentially grow up on porn gives them unrealistic expectations of what sex will be like and that causes a lot of dysfunction in relationships.

On top of that, I just don't find it attractive. I don't find most of the women in it attractive either.

I am guilty of reading smut however.
12/22/2012
wildshores wildshores
most porn is super misogynist tbh. while the idea is fine, it doesn't exist in a cultural vacuum and i don't feel comfortable with a genre of film that dominantly depicts and celebrates women as weak submissive and abused. it's made FOR men. lesbian porn doesn't look anything like lesbian sex because it's all performance for the male gaze. no different than any other social sphere. performance performance performance. it's a quiet kind of violence.
that and we're taught all our lives to be ashamed of our sex drives so we don't talk about it as much.
12/22/2012
Experiment Experiment
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Originally posted by callsignhusker
I've been thinking it way be more social repression of women, a deep seated discouragemnt of anything resembling non-monogamy in women, interior sex organs rather than exterior etc.. Personally I think it may be many factors..
I feel like girls are simply more private about their sexuality. With guys, it's a given that they masturbate to porn. But I know several people who have denied watching porn and then admitted, as I became closer to them, that they had in fact watched porn recreationally.
01/19/2013
Experiment Experiment
I'd just like to add that every time I have looked into or watched something that's considered 'woman friendly' porn, I end up not liking it. I don't know who they're aiming that porn at, but it's certainly not this woman.
01/19/2013
dks210 dks210
It's mostly social repression and the fact that porn is marketed more toward men, so it's mostly lame, fake, and unappealing to women.
02/10/2013
novanilla novanilla
I'm really not interested in watching people have sex, so it's not of interest to me. But beyond that, it's also not generally designed for women.

Like Kendra said, there are also a lot of women who have been hurt by porn. I know of several women whose partners were porn addicts who stopped wanting to sleep with them because they were watching so much porn and jacking off all day long. Maybe we can recognize as outsiders that that is the addict's problem, not a problem with their partner, but for a woman in that situation with ever-lessening self esteem due to her partner preferring porn to her and possibly even making comments about her body versus a porn star's, it is not that easy to see that it's not a problem with herself.
02/11/2013
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