Wow, some really excellent posts here. My own experience with birth control has been unpleasant. I was shocked after about a year on a low dose hormone pill when I started realizing that suddenly I didn't like sex. My experience isn't typical, but it also isn't really disclosed how radically a hormone can affect your sex drive (though in retrospect, it does seem kinda obvious). I had also noticed some subtle but troubling personality changes - rare but intense and really disturbing mood swings (the man got out of the apartment before I started throwing things at him, and I literally had to go lock myself in the bedroom for an hour to calm down - I knew my emotional response didn't make sense, but I couldn't calm down, and that was scary), and a general listlessness and major drop in energy. I just didn't want to DO anything, and I slept a LOT. Ever since I was a kid, I've been a natural insomniac - going 100 miles an hour and sometimes not sleeping. It was decidedly weird that I suddenly needed 12 hours a night and could never feel fully awake.
When I'm "normal" I have no problems lubricating or dilating naturally and I can go at least twice a day. On the pill, my sex drive dropped to zero, I couldn't get aroused enough to lubricate or dilate, and as a result sex was painful and I literally could not pee afterward unless I had a very full bladder. Likewise, I got more bladder infections and was popping two giant cranberry pills every time we'd have sex. Not especially fun.
I was so scared that I wouldn't be able to get my sex drive back and that I wouldn't really be the same again, but I finished my last pill pack and about a month later, I started returning to normal. Three months in, and ... well, I joined edenfantasys and I bought a shit load of toys. That should sort of give you some indication
This is such an interesting topic to me as an open and sexual woman. It's bizarre that the medications available to prevent child conception do so effectively in more ways than we bargain for. It's great to see so many women talking about it in a forum setting.
We're currently using male condoms which aren't great, but certainly a LOT better than a hormonal solution.