Are you really inlove even though your fucking someone else?

shySEXXaddict shySEXXaddict
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Personally if I love someone there is no way I could fuck someone else,but I unfortunately know alot of guys that are in relationships and have someone on the side.Is it different for a guy?The way he thinks?Or is it that they think they are in love but really aren't?
11/13/2011
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Ryuson Ryuson
I think that women are just as likely to cheat as men psychologically, our society just makes it seem more expected for men to. As for why there's a whole slew of reason far too complex to generalize! I believe that you CAN be in love with the person you are dating and still be unfaithful, but again, it really needs to be assessed on an individual basis.
11/13/2011
FaerieLove FaerieLove
I don't believe human beings like many other mammals are meant to be monogamous. I believe there is a deep subconscious primitive drive that a lot of people try to ignore in order to keep the one they love. I think it's the main reason people cheat on the ones they claim they love, and the reason that even though they may hate doing it cannot help it. In the end aren't we all just animals trying to pass on our genetics before our time runs out?

Check this out if you have some time:link
11/13/2011
aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by shySEXXaddict
Personally if I love someone there is no way I could fuck someone else,but I unfortunately know alot of guys that are in relationships and have someone on the side.Is it different for a guy?The way he thinks?Or is it that they think they are in love ... More
i dont think men and women have different ways of thinking in this area, at least not one that can be applied across the gender board or used as an excuse to cheat.

i think you can be in love and still cheat. some people are not as 'good' at monogamy as others. that doesn't mean they're not in love. and some people 'love' in different ways. some are not as good at it as others. i say that because i myself have been what i felt like was incapable of really loving someone. i cheated on him. i loved him to the best of my ability, but it wasn't enough.
11/13/2011
dayne dayne
I think if you are in love then you wouldn"t fuck other people..... maybe some human can't be monogamous, but I know TONS of people who are and wouldn"t want it any other way..... I am, and love that my husband and I are all eachother need or want.......
11/13/2011
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
i think this is an incredibly unfair generalization of both men and women. studies show that cheating is about the same when you compare the two sexes.

as for cheating, you can be in love and still cheat. sometimes a partner might want something new or they may be looking for someone to fill a hole in a struggling relationship. there are lots of reasons why people cheat. remember, it's never fair to assume or judge someone unless you're in their shoes and know exactly what they're going through.
11/13/2011
GonetoLovehoney GonetoLovehoney
I'm in love with my Boyfriend and I still have sex with others. The friends with benefits just sate my carnal needs as I'm lucky if I get to see him more often than once a month (or every other month). He knows about this and is completely fine with it, as I only have safe sex with others.
11/13/2011
Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
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Originally posted by shySEXXaddict
Personally if I love someone there is no way I could fuck someone else,but I unfortunately know alot of guys that are in relationships and have someone on the side.Is it different for a guy?The way he thinks?Or is it that they think they are in love ... More
I'd say it's different on a person to person basis. A lot of the stigma around cheating, etc stems from the heavy push for monogamy by the church and government. For some people this is feels more natural and they are happy with it, meanwhile others can't do monogamy. It doesn't mean their feelings are any less genuine, only that their perceptions of the cultural norm are different.

If you are more interested in this topic in general you should read up on evolutionary psychology.

here is a link that you might find interesting:
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11/13/2011
thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
I am a polyamorous genderqueer person, and I am with two people, one of whom I love and one of whom I can see falling for but who I just like in a close friendshippy kind of way at the moment. I don't love my first partner any less because I have a second one.
05/29/2012
reinkaos reinkaos
I've been in this situation before and yes you can really be in love and fucking someone else
05/29/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
You can be in this situation regardless of gender.
06/01/2012
Bex1331 Bex1331
You can be in love and still have sex with other people, It doesn't even have to be cheating, many couples have successful polyamourous relationships and there has even been argument that it is not within our nature to be monogamous.
06/01/2012
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