I haven't had to worry about it in a longggg time but I can't help thinking about it after this article. These days we're ALL connected via our blogs and Twitter and messengers and Facebook and...
What the hell do you do when you break up with someone? Or even decide you don't really like someone you "friended". It's not like you can just stop talking to them and they (mostly) cease to exist in your world. It's all interconnected. Even if I unfollow JohnnyBoogerPicker on Twitter (or MySpace or Yahoo or whatever), I'm still going to have to deal with his friends DustyAssWiper and PinkyPeeSniffer or else I end up unfollowing half my friends list.
How do you get unconnected with the least amount of damage? Or do you stay connected?
I rely on the rules of Bitchery 101. Everything is HIS fault- I'm innocent, I'm perfect, and I deserve a medal for staying with him for so long.
Now, I keep him on my list but I then create a fake profile to harass him with, or to flirt with him in order to get the juicy details about his relationship with me. If he says bad things about me then I'll write blogs about him describing his small penis or post his phone number on craigslist asking to suck dicks for free. Also, if he starts dating someone new I will create a fake profile as an unidentified female and email her about how he impregnated another girl and is refusing to pay child support or how he goes to the Meth clinic every Tuesday morning for his fix. If he however, says nice things about me, then I'll just ignore him and move on.
This is how the Universe works for psychotic women and men need to start learnin' some respect, for sho!
I rely on the rules of Bitchery 101. Everything is HIS fault- I'm innocent, I'm perfect, and I deserve a medal for staying with him for so long.
Now, I keep him on my list but I then create a fake profile to harass him with, or to flirt with
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I rely on the rules of Bitchery 101. Everything is HIS fault- I'm innocent, I'm perfect, and I deserve a medal for staying with him for so long.
Now, I keep him on my list but I then create a fake profile to harass him with, or to flirt with him in order to get the juicy details about his relationship with me. If he says bad things about me then I'll write blogs about him describing his small penis or post his phone number on craigslist asking to suck dicks for free. Also, if he starts dating someone new I will create a fake profile as an unidentified female and email her about how he impregnated another girl and is refusing to pay child support or how he goes to the Meth clinic every Tuesday morning for his fix. If he however, says nice things about me, then I'll just ignore him and move on.
This is how the Universe works for psychotic women and men need to start learnin' some respect, for sho!
I'm damned near crying over here, laughing so hard
Depends on the relationship. If it was meh, we usually just drift apart and ignore people, but act polite when we meet up again. If it was good, I usually stay on good terms with the person.
I've only had one relationship that ended really horribly, and in that case, I give her a cold shoulder so cold it's like the arctic and hope she gets hit over the head with lots of heavy objects. =)
I rely on the rules of Bitchery 101. Everything is HIS fault- I'm innocent, I'm perfect, and I deserve a medal for staying with him for so long.
Now, I keep him on my list but I then create a fake profile to harass him with, or to flirt with
...
I rely on the rules of Bitchery 101. Everything is HIS fault- I'm innocent, I'm perfect, and I deserve a medal for staying with him for so long.
Now, I keep him on my list but I then create a fake profile to harass him with, or to flirt with him in order to get the juicy details about his relationship with me. If he says bad things about me then I'll write blogs about him describing his small penis or post his phone number on craigslist asking to suck dicks for free. Also, if he starts dating someone new I will create a fake profile as an unidentified female and email her about how he impregnated another girl and is refusing to pay child support or how he goes to the Meth clinic every Tuesday morning for his fix. If he however, says nice things about me, then I'll just ignore him and move on.
This is how the Universe works for psychotic women and men need to start learnin' some respect, for sho!
I say, why need to stay connected with people that you're no longer going to have a friendly relationship with? It's pretty immature for people to think, "OMG she unfriended me, how lame..." because no one is benefiting from knowing the shit one another does after a break up. I'm with Sleeping Dreamer, just know that you're better off without him and he can go fuck himself. Badly.
As Backseat Boohoo said, it depends on the relationship. If it ended badly, then fuck it, fuck him, fuck whomever wants to try to make me see differently. If it ended okay/well-enough, then sure, I'll stay friends. Might not be the closest of friends right after the breakup, but within a few months, things settle down and get a little more normal.
I almost clicked the "You're dumb..." option just to fuck with you, Carrie Ann.
Hmm...I dunno, I have stayed friends with my two major break-ups in life. Now, there was that guy in college who lived in the frat house next door (I know, i know, wtf was I thinking). We dated briefly until one day someone mentioned to me he had gotten engaged and this coincided with him just no longer taking my calls or speaking to me.
For not being man enough to break up with me or even dare to speak to me again, his precious camero mysteriously and regularly had all the air let out of its tires for about 2 weeks afterward. Just enough to make his life difficult but not enough to be charged with vandalism.
Hmm...I dunno, I have stayed friends with my two major break-ups in life. Now, there was that guy in college who lived in the frat house next door (I know, i know, wtf was I thinking). We dated briefly until one day someone mentioned to me he had
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Hmm...I dunno, I have stayed friends with my two major break-ups in life. Now, there was that guy in college who lived in the frat house next door (I know, i know, wtf was I thinking). We dated briefly until one day someone mentioned to me he had gotten engaged and this coincided with him just no longer taking my calls or speaking to me.
For not being man enough to break up with me or even dare to speak to me again, his precious camero mysteriously and regularly had all the air let out of its tires for about 2 weeks afterward. Just enough to make his life difficult but not enough to be charged with vandalism.
Oh, i suppose I do initially blog (a week or two, or just once even) about breaking up (Carrie Ann knows so I have to admit it) but the men in my life do not read my blog and the friends who do are always on my side anyway, so its really just cathartic to dump it all out on my screen and then move on.
As Backseat Boohoo said, it depends on the relationship. If it ended badly, then fuck it, fuck him, fuck whomever wants to try to make me see differently. If it ended okay/well-enough, then sure, I'll stay friends. Might not be the closest of
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As Backseat Boohoo said, it depends on the relationship. If it ended badly, then fuck it, fuck him, fuck whomever wants to try to make me see differently. If it ended okay/well-enough, then sure, I'll stay friends. Might not be the closest of friends right after the breakup, but within a few months, things settle down and get a little more normal.
I almost clicked the "You're dumb..." option just to fuck with you, Carrie Ann.
Oh, i suppose I do initially blog (a week or two, or just once even) about breaking up (Carrie Ann knows so I have to admit it) but the men in my life do not read my blog and the friends who do are always on my side anyway, so its really just
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Oh, i suppose I do initially blog (a week or two, or just once even) about breaking up (Carrie Ann knows so I have to admit it) but the men in my life do not read my blog and the friends who do are always on my side anyway, so its really just cathartic to dump it all out on my screen and then move on.
I've probably done all those things.
I actually considered putting an option for "I pretend I died, make up a new screen name and lurk to see what everyone says, then reincarnate myself a few months later as "angelbabypookiebear" or something, cuz it's probably the one thing I haven't done. But we know folks who have!
I'd like to point out that I don't think you're dumb Carrie Ann, I just don't add lovers on things like LiveJournal (learned from the past) or twitter. I have them on facebook, yes, but I tend to ignore them.
I'd like to point out that I don't think you're dumb Carrie Ann, I just don't add lovers on things like LiveJournal (learned from the past) or twitter. I have them on facebook, yes, but I tend to ignore them.
Heh. I hear ya. And, honestly, I wouldn't put a "you're dumb" option on there if I was going to be insulted and really think folks think I'm dumb.
I had an ex (who has been an ex for 6+ years due to abuse) send me a friend request with a creepy borderline stalker/obsessive tone to it & I freaked out and deleted my page immediately! It felt like he had been "watching" me & my family through my page...eerie. Can we say "move on".
Doooood, I have you all beat - my hubby's ex stalks him *and me* online! Hahaha...and after 3 years, she still "blogs" on her myspace about him/us (as recent as TODAY). WTF? Even better is that she writes in the most error-ridden illiterate fashion (like, srsly, so badly written). Ugh. People are fucked sometimes! Let's just say that I have fucking patience - because that shit makes me want to fight a bitch.
This kinda spawned a crazy idea for me though - a one-off zine (printed, xerox style or whatever) of stalkery letters and batshit blogs that exes have written - anyone can submit their stalker ex artifacts (with some kind of intro or something) and it would be a compilation zine of funny stories and crazy exes called "Things not to do when you're dumped".
Anyway - if you think the idea is interesting, let me know bc, hey, I might just do it now.
Doooood, I have you all beat - my hubby's ex stalks him *and me* online! Hahaha...and after 3 years, she still "blogs" on her myspace about him/us (as recent as TODAY). WTF? Even better is that she writes in the most error-ridden illiterate fashion
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Doooood, I have you all beat - my hubby's ex stalks him *and me* online! Hahaha...and after 3 years, she still "blogs" on her myspace about him/us (as recent as TODAY). WTF? Even better is that she writes in the most error-ridden illiterate fashion (like, srsly, so badly written). Ugh. People are fucked sometimes! Let's just say that I have fucking patience - because that shit makes me want to fight a bitch.This kinda spawned a crazy idea for me though - a one-off zine (printed, xerox style or whatever) of stalkery letters and batshit blogs that exes have written - anyone can submit their stalker ex artifacts (with some kind of intro or something) and it would be a compilation zine of funny stories and crazy exes called "Things not to do when you're dumped".Anyway - if you think the idea is interesting, let me know bc, hey, I might just do it now.
I totally want you to do that. I would find it endlessly amusing. My boyfriend's ex still haunts him too, via text. She is freaking hilarious.
I think a lot of people would read it, its relate able.
I'm friends with some exes - have one on my facebook/myspace. I have another I occasionally speak to via AIM but it can be awkward. It really depends on the situation. Even bad break ups can lead to friends.
I totally stalk... My ex has Twitter, so she broadcasts the mundane facts and I can view them and be secretly relieved I ended up safely married to somebody sane, upbeat, mature and enthusiastic about being sodomised on a regular basis.
I had a messy breakup with my first girlfriend, and we were friendly for a while. We saw each other a while ago, and haven't spoken since. I have no real hard feelings, but I found out recently that one of my friends keep running into her and the two exchange some not so nice words. I guess it goes to show that even though I have no virtual social network(no facebook, twitter, myspace, nothing), I managed to block a friend and start a flame war.
Doooood, I have you all beat - my hubby's ex stalks him *and me* online! Hahaha...and after 3 years, she still "blogs" on her myspace about him/us (as recent as TODAY). WTF? Even better is that she writes in the most error-ridden illiterate fashion
...
Doooood, I have you all beat - my hubby's ex stalks him *and me* online! Hahaha...and after 3 years, she still "blogs" on her myspace about him/us (as recent as TODAY). WTF? Even better is that she writes in the most error-ridden illiterate fashion (like, srsly, so badly written). Ugh. People are fucked sometimes! Let's just say that I have fucking patience - because that shit makes me want to fight a bitch.This kinda spawned a crazy idea for me though - a one-off zine (printed, xerox style or whatever) of stalkery letters and batshit blogs that exes have written - anyone can submit their stalker ex artifacts (with some kind of intro or something) and it would be a compilation zine of funny stories and crazy exes called "Things not to do when you're dumped".Anyway - if you think the idea is interesting, let me know bc, hey, I might just do it now.
I want to see this. It'll be like trainwreck blogging, which I totally read just for the amusement. Like Rush Limbaugh's blog, or other white people saying Native Americans bring it on themselves. It's like my soap operas online.
lol! At first I thought I was kidding but then as I reread what I wrote I was like, "damn, those are some good ideas!"
No they are great! I would totally do these things but I should probably clarify that I don't have a history of it. It's just the relationship that I am in now and the level of devotion we have for each other. We also have kids together so....yeah...I'd stalk him! I wouldn't go so far as to destroy his life but I'd definitely bug the crap out of him!
Also, I'd definitely love to read Victoria's "Things not to do when you're dumped" and I'll for sure keep her posted in the event that me and hubby split! =P
Personally, if I were to end things (again) with my current partner, it would be hard for both of us. I'm the "stalker" type - or at least she calls me that - and I monitor everything that she does from that point on. But aside from that, when we have (because we have many times), I don't really tell anyone. Only her and I know. She usually makes it obvious on her profiles though since she's a little girl, but for me, I never make any of my personal matters obvious on profiles, because I like to keep my personal life separate from things where anyone can see them.
We broke up once before for a period of two weeks. I didn't want to touch our facebook relationship status because I was upset about it, but he broke it off on fb... and then later on he changed it to "it's complicated"... Nowadays I have him trained to stop messing around with facebook and not defining our relationship like that.
Doooood, I have you all beat - my hubby's ex stalks him *and me* online! Hahaha...and after 3 years, she still "blogs" on her myspace about him/us (as recent as TODAY). WTF? Even better is that she writes in the most error-ridden illiterate fashion
...
Doooood, I have you all beat - my hubby's ex stalks him *and me* online! Hahaha...and after 3 years, she still "blogs" on her myspace about him/us (as recent as TODAY). WTF? Even better is that she writes in the most error-ridden illiterate fashion (like, srsly, so badly written). Ugh. People are fucked sometimes! Let's just say that I have fucking patience - because that shit makes me want to fight a bitch.This kinda spawned a crazy idea for me though - a one-off zine (printed, xerox style or whatever) of stalkery letters and batshit blogs that exes have written - anyone can submit their stalker ex artifacts (with some kind of intro or something) and it would be a compilation zine of funny stories and crazy exes called "Things not to do when you're dumped".Anyway - if you think the idea is interesting, let me know bc, hey, I might just do it now.
They're dead to me. No Facebook, no IM, no Twitter, no Myspace, and on one memorable occasion, I changed my locks and all my phone numbers.
Victoria, my boyfriend has a similarly psychotic ex-FWB (not even a girlfriend!) who has created a few dozen new screen names and fake Facebook and Myspace accounts all in the name of trying to keep tabs on us. In the name of bitches we all want to fight, I think you should totally do the "things not to do when you're dumped" zine.
Doooood, I have you all beat - my hubby's ex stalks him *and me* online! Hahaha...and after 3 years, she still "blogs" on her myspace about him/us (as recent as TODAY). WTF? Even better is that she writes in the most error-ridden illiterate fashion
...
Doooood, I have you all beat - my hubby's ex stalks him *and me* online! Hahaha...and after 3 years, she still "blogs" on her myspace about him/us (as recent as TODAY). WTF? Even better is that she writes in the most error-ridden illiterate fashion (like, srsly, so badly written). Ugh. People are fucked sometimes! Let's just say that I have fucking patience - because that shit makes me want to fight a bitch.This kinda spawned a crazy idea for me though - a one-off zine (printed, xerox style or whatever) of stalkery letters and batshit blogs that exes have written - anyone can submit their stalker ex artifacts (with some kind of intro or something) and it would be a compilation zine of funny stories and crazy exes called "Things not to do when you're dumped".Anyway - if you think the idea is interesting, let me know bc, hey, I might just do it now.
As far as the original question, it depends on how the relationship ended and why and what happens afterward. I had one ex go ape shit psycho, so I blogged about how crazy he is (he didn't read it and it didn't mention him specifically). I deleted him from everything, but I am still friends with his friends. My most recent ex, well, we still talk a lot and get along quite well. If I didn't want him to be my friend on Facebook or whatever, I'd tell him why and then do it, but I have no reason to do that now.
