Guys, if you say your aren't ready for a relationship, do you still date?

edeneve edeneve
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I don't even know what's behind that statement "not ready for a relationship" when someone shows interest in me. if you say you aren't ready for a relationship, do you still date?
01/17/2013
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Originally posted by edeneve
I don't even know what's behind that statement "not ready for a relationship" when someone shows interest in me. if you say you aren't ready for a relationship, do you still date?
Omg...I've gotten this response a couple of times. Then like a week later they are dating some skanky girl. It never lasts though, then they come back to me to hang out.
01/17/2013
CollegeFun2014 CollegeFun2014
I do. Saying we're not ready for a relationship right now just means we aren't sure if we want responsibilities that come with a relationship right now, so therefore (at least in my opinion) we date to see if you are worth the extra attention and care that is "required". From experience I can say a few weeks can change this mindset and we are ready if we think you're amazing. In the cases like Lickable Lollie stated where the guy starts dating some skanky girl that just means that guys a douche. There really is no way to tell what each guy means by the statement "I'm not ready to date".
01/17/2013
js250 js250
It can be a factor of many things. I am one of those people--I do not want a relationship, but would like to socialize and see what happens. It means to take it slow, do not push and go for friendship that may turn into something deeper. Do not be afraid to date others, though while you are seeing where this may go--it could honestly be a friendship.
01/17/2013
Claire-Bear Claire-Bear
If that person says they aren't ready, take them at their word.
01/17/2013
LoooveMonkey LoooveMonkey
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Originally posted by Claire-Bear
If that person says they aren't ready, take them at their word.
I agree with this. Also I don't date if I'm not ready, simple as that. If I say that, it means I'm not happy with myself mentally or emotionally, and I need to worry about myself and get myself in order before I have someone running through my mind all the time and distracting me from what I need to do to be better. Being healthy myself is something that's extremely important to me and it can help you avoid making the same mistakes over again because you didn't resolve a problem with yourself before you jumped back into things.
01/19/2013
RonLee RonLee
Doesn't "not ready for a relationship" really mean that person is trying to be a little bit nice but is really saying that they are not interested in a relationship with you? That's how I've always interpreted that statement when it was made to me.

There's even a song "I Can't Make You Love Me" with lyrics of "can't make you love me, if you don't".

I've been there and felt that sting, it still hurts.
01/19/2013
edeneve edeneve
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Originally posted by RonLee
Doesn't "not ready for a relationship" really mean that person is trying to be a little bit nice but is really saying that they are not interested in a relationship with you? That's how I've always interpreted that statement ... More
I say I'm not interested in a relationship right now too but that doesn't meam I'm not interested in the guy.
01/20/2013
Lavender*Moon Lavender*Moon
I have heard this more times than I can count. It is then usually followed up a week or two later with "you wanna have sex?" From my experiance when a guy says "I'm not ready for a relationship" he knows I want a relationship, but he wants a FWB or a fuck buddy. He just doesn't have the balls to say so. So while I may be wrong...this is the impression guys have given me. Hence, the skanky girl (but you gotta love when they come whining to you cuz the skank cheated on them!)
02/14/2013
Eugler Eugler
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Originally posted by Lavender*Moon
I have heard this more times than I can count. It is then usually followed up a week or two later with "you wanna have sex?" From my experiance when a guy says "I'm not ready for a relationship" he knows I want a relationship, ... More
I think that's what it means. If I would say "I'm not ready for a relationship" means friendship with benefits.

But I don't see it that negative, maybe because of language difficulties.
02/14/2013
lillmiss5054 lillmiss5054
How about when a guy says, I like you but you are just not long term relationship material? WTF does that mean?
03/10/2013
edeneve edeneve
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Originally posted by lillmiss5054
How about when a guy says, I like you but you are just not long term relationship material? WTF does that mean?
yeah, ditto. that really sounds like a put down, doesn't it?
04/19/2013
unicorn64 unicorn64
I'm not ready for a relationship but a date is not a relationship, its trying to figure if you might want a relationship with a specific person. I think.
05/12/2013
edeneve edeneve
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Originally posted by unicorn64
I'm not ready for a relationship but a date is not a relationship, its trying to figure if you might want a relationship with a specific person. I think.
yeah, that's what I think too. I need to get to know a person to a certain point, at least, before I can make a decision whether I want a relationship w/ them.
05/24/2013
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