If your man cheated on you...

CaliGirl CaliGirl
Ladies, if your man cheated on you would you rather it be with a man or woman?
06/28/2012
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bh253 bh253
My man would never cheat on me. XP
06/28/2012
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by bh253
My man would never cheat on me. XP
Never every say never. That makes it much more difficult to address the situation if it ever does happen. The devastation is somehow worse.
06/28/2012
Ansley Ansley
Should my husband ever stray, I would hope that the person he was having an affair with was a man. There's nothing he can't ask me for at home, and being with a man is about the only experience he hasn't had in his life so it would somehow be a little easier to take.
06/28/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
I think there would be less jealousy and 'im not good enough for you' feelings if it was with a man.
06/28/2012
Claire-Bear Claire-Bear
Both would be equally horrible.
06/28/2012
Peggi Peggi
It wouldn't matter if it were another man or a woman, either way it would still get him single status REAL fast lol
06/28/2012
Tart Tart
I don't think either would make me feel "better." Ooh, he cheated on me with a man, that doesn't matter because he needs penis and I cannot provide for him in that way... Uhmm... fuck that.

The deceit, the lies, the drop in communication between partners is what hurts when a partner cheats.
06/28/2012
asphyxia asphyxia
I have to agree with Claire-Bear. Cheating sucks, no matter what. However, if he wanted to let me watch him with another guy... that would be okay with me. I have to be involved in the decision to involve another party though. If it happens without my consent, that's cheating and completely unacceptable.
06/28/2012
js250 js250
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Originally posted by Tart
I don't think either would make me feel "better." Ooh, he cheated on me with a man, that doesn't matter because he needs penis and I cannot provide for him in that way... Uhmm... fuck that.

The deceit, the lies, the drop in ...
I agree. It would not matter...the outcome and pain is still the same.
06/28/2012
hot lil momma hot lil momma
either man or woman would be devastating
06/28/2012
Bodhi Bodhi
Honestly.

I'd probably prefer that it'd be with a man. I'm incredibly insecure, and him cheating on me with another woman would just wreck me.

It's hard to compare myself to a man, so it kind of lessens the blow.
07/12/2012
nova2014 nova2014
I'd rather he not cheat at all and I'd rather it be neither female or male, cheating is cheating no matter the gender
12/07/2012
closed account closed account
the gender would be irrelevant.
12/10/2012
imperialyellowdragon imperialyellowdragon
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Originally posted by Claire-Bear
Both would be equally horrible.
well said
12/28/2013
Aesenthia Aesenthia
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Originally posted by Claire-Bear
Both would be equally horrible.
Agreed 100%

There's no justification for cheating. If my partner is thinking about relations with another person to the point where he wants to act on it, I would rather he just tell me so we can end the relationship amicably.
10/08/2014
HemilaJecolin HemilaJecolin
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Originally posted by CaliGirl
Ladies, if your man cheated on you would you rather it be with a man or woman?
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10/16/2014
Nashville Nashville
He did cheat. With a 23 year old. I don't care if it was a girl or a guy, I just want someone that isn't younger than me! And she was.
10/19/2014
CS2012 CS2012
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Originally posted by CaliGirl
Ladies, if your man cheated on you would you rather it be with a man or woman?
Both would be bad but I would prefer with a man. At least if it was a man I wouldn't have to worry if he was prettier or not.
10/22/2014
ZiaDe ZiaDe
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Originally posted by Ansley
Should my husband ever stray, I would hope that the person he was having an affair with was a man. There's nothing he can't ask me for at home, and being with a man is about the only experience he hasn't had in his life so it would ...
Take it from me Ansley... it isnt any easier to take. My husband of 7 years decided he wanted to be with a man and had an affair for about 6 months before i found out.. I dont think this is easier to take than if he was with a female. Its by far the hardest most awful thing ive ever gone through.. Maybe if he had asked for a divorce and THEN got with him... maybe it had been easier.. but they flaunted it all over our small town. Heres to hoping you dont get experience in this crap.
12/19/2014
TexasBrat TexasBrat
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Originally posted by CaliGirl
Ladies, if your man cheated on you would you rather it be with a man or woman?
After reading some of the responses, I find it fascinating how some think that having sex with the same gender would be easier.

Not that I am criticizing, because my ex husband told me that if I wanted to be with a woman, he would've been OK with it. I just find it interesting that the whole thought of being with the same gender doesn't seem like infidelity.
Jul 6, 12:55 pm
Inquisitor Inquisitor
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Originally posted by TexasBrat
After reading some of the responses, I find it fascinating how some think that having sex with the same gender would be easier.

Not that I am criticizing, because my ex husband told me that if I wanted to be with a woman, he would've been ...
It's a perspective kind of thing. Yes it is still cheating, however, that might have been a fantasy of his. That scenario might have been much easier to deal with from his perspective and rational. He also might have been able to pass it off as 2 women exploring their sexuality. I think I remember reading in my Human Sexuality class that Lesbians might have an "easier" time in society than gay males. I don't mean to trivialize the repercussions of being gay in American society: I realize that there are still MANY hurdles to overcome until homosexuality can be recognized as a non issue for many people. I'm not trying or hinting that being a Lesbian or Gay male in America is any type of cake walk. Please understand this.

Did you ever probe him about it? Ask him why you with another woman's touch is much more acceptable with him than you with another man? I have a feeling it might have had something to do with another male's penis and the lack of one with a woman.

It's funny, I view this situation as a "What is better?" situation. Would you rather break your dominate arm or your non dominate arm? Either way, you have a broken arm...
Jul 6, 2:22 pm
Vnessa Vnessa
Mine would leave me before he ever broke our marriage. He's just that way--he would never cheat. But, if I had to choose, I don't know. I guess it would hurt my feelings less if he cheated with a man. There's absolutely nothing I can do about that lol. I can't compete in the man department. I'm as girlie as they come so if a man does it for him more...go on and get it. And, yes, it would still be cheating in my eyes. Sex is sex
Jul 6, 5:18 pm
TexasBrat TexasBrat
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Originally posted by CaliGirl
Ladies, if your man cheated on you would you rather it be with a man or woman?
With my ex husband, if he would've cheated, I think I'd be more accepting of his cheating with a man. I feel after having a child, and other issues, him cheating with a woman would be a slap in the face. I knew he liked anal sex (though that does NOT make him gay), but I think him being with a man, for the experience of it, would be easier to take.
Jul 20, 9:48 pm
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