You know, I only chose other because I'm not sure what my answer would be. My husband have an agreement that if we break up, I get to stab him at least once without him pressing charges. I'm kidding of course.
For us, emotional cheating is just as bad as physically cheating. It seems like the one case where I would be really torn about whether or not I could forgive and try to fix the relationship, versus being too hurt to move past it. I honestly don't know, but really hope I don't have to go there.
My sympathies if that's where you are right now. BIG HUGS.
I don't think there is an easy answer to this at all. While I know there are some people who draw the line in the sand over any sort of cheating I am just not that kind of person. If I found out my spouse/partner was cheating it would certainly take a lot of good conversations and some serious trust building to restore things to a good place, but trust me it can happen (we've gone through that).
If things happened again I might feel differently now, but to me I am willing to have those conversations before I outright abandon a relationship (especially since we've been together for nearly a decade).
I was in that situation, with the father of my son. We broke up because of that and other things. But it was very hard on our relationship. We became strangers to each other because we no longer talked or shared anything with each other and that led to no sex and that really sucked.
On the up side we are good friends now even though we are no longer together.
I would have to talk and see just how emotional the relationship is, if he wants to be with her then that is it, but if he wants to be with me then I would forgive and check his phone every so often. If I caught him doing it again that would be it, he would be gone.
If you found out your partner had been emotinally cheating on you with an ex, would you...
Well since murder is a felony punishable by death here, I would probably leave. Lol no, I could only do that in a life or death situation. I guess it depends on the facts. I hope I'm never in that situation because I truly believe I've found my someone. I wouldn't want to leave I would want to try to work it out but I was cheated on before with a guy I was with for a couple of years I stayed a nd he didnt change. I also was never able to trust him but little did I know I had a reason not to. Things just never were the same again and I was constantly wondering what he was doing and make myself literally sick stressing about it :/
In my book, cheating is the one thing he could do that is unforgivable. ESPECIALLY if emotions are involved. If he wants to have sex with someone else just for the sex, be man enough to invite me along (which he wants to do anyway, so yeah) or be man enough to discuss his needs with me and we can go from there. But if he loves someone else, he damn well better talk to me, get everything out in the open, decide what he wants, and include me in the process until we get past it, together as a couple or breaking up so he can be with her. I deserve at least that.
I've seen a lot of what happened between him and his exes, and heard even more stories. If he were to end up cheating on me with someone new, that would be one thing and I may be able to build trust there again. But if he were to go back to an ex that he was miserable with for years over me, then it would be done. Fortunately, I don't foresee this ever being a problem.
For me, physical cheating is more anger and betrayal related, emotionally. I would get enraged and come undone but it wouldn't leave as many emotional scars as much as just metal roadblocks. Forgive him? I don't know but I am not as closed off to it as I am with the emotional cheating.
Emotional cheating would be devastating, heartbreaking and very scarring for me. I could not handle him creating or harboring an emotional tie with someone else. That would be a deal breaker and would scar me emotionally. The pain would be incredible.
I can't handle cheating well it destroys me emotionally and kills my self esteem. For me i think that emotionally cheating would do this to me also. It would make me feel as if in some way I had lacked something my other needed.
I'm flexible so I want honesty =P is that to much to ask for when my partners have a greenlight to go play with who ever? also come one emotionally cheating, wtf why'd did you break up with them in the first place then? Are you so ignorant of your self that you feel the need to back peedle? If yes there's your road to your honey (points to a newly painted road that just happens to have a blind coner which leads to a clif over a lava pit.)
Side note it's only illegal to kill off your properity and not in defence of your self. This being said get off of people properity if your going to be stupid. Actually wait no go to texas make my life better.
Emotionally cheating, not sure what that really means, but if I was to guess, I would think it means that your partner is getting involved with someone else through emotions and no actual physical contact. Well, if that was the case, I would sit her down and have a long talk with her and determine where we stand with each other and then make a decision.