Cheating Partner

Badass Badass
If you found out your partner had been emotinally cheating on you with an ex, would you...
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kill him/her.
Teacookie , northstar , lustylusty
3  (8%)
leave them.
Coralbell , MeliPixie , TitsMcScandal , punkstar283 , deltalima , jeangel246 , angel142stx , The Geek , BlooJay , lilys , Lickable Lollie
11  (30%)
cheat on them.
Other.
Jaimes , P'Gell , SMichelle , unfulfilled , BobbiJay , Ciao. , Ryuson , Beck , Zombirella , Ms. Spice , froggiemoma , ~LaUr3n~ , sweetiejo , Diabolical Kitty , Alan & Michele , Eliyahu , js250 , Terri69 , TofurkeyBerserky , mlmac , dragonn , bayosgirl , humblepie
23  (62%)
Total votes: 37
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02/07/2012
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Jaimes Jaimes
You know, I only chose other because I'm not sure what my answer would be. My husband have an agreement that if we break up, I get to stab him at least once without him pressing charges. I'm kidding of course.

For us, emotional cheating is just as bad as physically cheating. It seems like the one case where I would be really torn about whether or not I could forgive and try to fix the relationship, versus being too hurt to move past it. I honestly don't know, but really hope I don't have to go there.

My sympathies if that's where you are right now. BIG HUGS.

What a great question!
02/07/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
I honestly don't know how I'd respond. Big to you if you're the one in this situation.
02/07/2012
Ciao. Ciao.
I don't think there is an easy answer to this at all. While I know there are some people who draw the line in the sand over any sort of cheating I am just not that kind of person. If I found out my spouse/partner was cheating it would certainly take a lot of good conversations and some serious trust building to restore things to a good place, but trust me it can happen (we've gone through that).

If things happened again I might feel differently now, but to me I am willing to have those conversations before I outright abandon a relationship (especially since we've been together for nearly a decade).
02/07/2012
BobbiJay BobbiJay
I was in that situation, with the father of my son. We broke up because of that and other things. But it was very hard on our relationship. We became strangers to each other because we no longer talked or shared anything with each other and that led to no sex and that really sucked.

On the up side we are good friends now even though we are no longer together.
02/07/2012
Beck Beck
I would have to talk and see just how emotional the relationship is, if he wants to be with her then that is it, but if he wants to be with me then I would forgive and check his phone every so often. If I caught him doing it again that would be it, he would be gone.
02/07/2012
Zombirella Zombirella
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Originally posted by Badass
If you found out your partner had been emotinally cheating on you with an ex, would you...
Well since murder is a felony punishable by death here, I would probably leave. Lol no, I could only do that in a life or death situation. I guess it depends on the facts. I hope I'm never in that situation because I truly believe I've found my someone. I wouldn't want to leave I would want to try to work it out but I was cheated on before with a guy I was with for a couple of years I stayed a nd he didnt change. I also was never able to trust him but little did I know I had a reason not to. Things just never were the same again and I was constantly wondering what he was doing and make myself literally sick stressing about it :/
02/07/2012
MeliPixie MeliPixie
In my book, cheating is the one thing he could do that is unforgivable. ESPECIALLY if emotions are involved. If he wants to have sex with someone else just for the sex, be man enough to invite me along (which he wants to do anyway, so yeah) or be man enough to discuss his needs with me and we can go from there. But if he loves someone else, he damn well better talk to me, get everything out in the open, decide what he wants, and include me in the process until we get past it, together as a couple or breaking up so he can be with her. I deserve at least that.
02/07/2012
Jul!a Jul!a
I've seen a lot of what happened between him and his exes, and heard even more stories. If he were to end up cheating on me with someone new, that would be one thing and I may be able to build trust there again. But if he were to go back to an ex that he was miserable with for years over me, then it would be done. Fortunately, I don't foresee this ever being a problem.
02/07/2012
js250 js250
For me, physical cheating is more anger and betrayal related, emotionally. I would get enraged and come undone but it wouldn't leave as many emotional scars as much as just metal roadblocks. Forgive him? I don't know but I am not as closed off to it as I am with the emotional cheating.

Emotional cheating would be devastating, heartbreaking and very scarring for me. I could not handle him creating or harboring an emotional tie with someone else. That would be a deal breaker and would scar me emotionally. The pain would be incredible.
02/07/2012
sweetiejo sweetiejo
I can't handle cheating well it destroys me emotionally and kills my self esteem. For me i think that emotionally cheating would do this to me also. It would make me feel as if in some way I had lacked something my other needed.
02/07/2012
Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
I say other because we're poly. I think that we'd have to discuss it first.
02/07/2012
TitsMcScandal TitsMcScandal
Emotionally cheating (to me) is worse than physically cheating. I've had it done to me before and I know I'm worth more than that. It is something that I absolutely will not tolerate.
02/07/2012
Teacookie Teacookie
I'm flexible so I want honesty =P is that to much to ask for when my partners have a greenlight to go play with who ever? also come one emotionally cheating, wtf why'd did you break up with them in the first place then? Are you so ignorant of your self that you feel the need to back peedle? If yes there's your road to your honey (points to a newly painted road that just happens to have a blind coner which leads to a clif over a lava pit.)
02/07/2012
Teacookie Teacookie
Side note it's only illegal to kill off your properity and not in defence of your self. This being said get off of people properity if your going to be stupid. Actually wait no go to texas make my life better.
02/07/2012
Teacookie Teacookie
whoops I hate it when it double posts. people's...
02/07/2012
punkstar283 punkstar283
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Originally posted by Badass
If you found out your partner had been emotinally cheating on you with an ex, would you...
Leave
02/07/2012
Terri69 Terri69
I would have to discuss it and set some mutual rules and if I didn't like the new rules or situation, I'd leave
04/18/2012
mlmac mlmac
Emotionally cheating, not sure what that really means, but if I was to guess, I would think it means that your partner is getting involved with someone else through emotions and no actual physical contact. Well, if that was the case, I would sit her down and have a long talk with her and determine where we stand with each other and then make a decision.
04/18/2012
lustylusty lustylusty
I said kill him, but we all no that wouldnt be true. BUT i would go balistic, and freak out
04/18/2012
dragonn dragonn
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Originally posted by Badass
If you found out your partner had been emotinally cheating on you with an ex, would you...
I guess I would try to understand what had just happened.
04/19/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
I would at least talk with them about it before making a decision. But likely, if they were cheating in any way, it would probably be the end of the relationship.
04/19/2012
BlooJay BlooJay
I would probably leave. I feel like the trust would be broken.
04/19/2012
lilys lilys
cheating is cheating
04/22/2012
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