I have a spouse and I did have "requirements& ; ; ;quo t; although I never talked about them with the men I dated.
They needed to have a job, be well educated with either a college degree or working on a college degree (and I mean NOW, not "Welllll, I might go back to school when.....")
They needed to have the ability to be articulate and to be able to commit, if I was the right person for them. I need a man who is willing and able to support a family and who wants a family. A man with good hygiene, although he doesn't have to be a fashion plate, is necessary. Also, he needs to be able to be polite and kind (My Man needed some work in that area, he was raised by two people with no manners whatsoever.) Loving me is, obviously, a necessity.
A vehicle was obviously necessary (as I lived in the suburbs and going our required a car.) One of my first boyfriends, I found out after starting to date him, had no car, no job, was a high school drop out and loved to snort Angel Dust. (Thus, NO money.) He was summarily dumped, as nicely as I could do so. Good looking alone (and, WOW, he was a good looking boy) doesn't do it.
After breaking up with this boy, I realized I needed some standards. I realized I didn't want to end up living in a broken down trailer, with drug leavin's and roaches all over the place, working the midnight to 8 AM shift at a convenience store, to support our kids, while he laid around, got high and played video games... which is where I would have been if I had stayed with this first boy.
I have a friend who married a young man who dropped out of HS, didn't have a job and who was always "gonna" do something new and fantastic (at one point he wanted to be a Jet Pilot. No training, no experience, just wanted to be a "Jet Pilot." WTF?" and she ended up in the preceding nightmare, midnight to 8 AM job, trailer, kids who ran rampant, filthy and unsupervised while she was at work or sleeping what little she could, while her husband slept off his drunk or his high, and no money and everything. Nightmare. I cried at her wedding, and not because I was happy.
She got married right out of High School (and was a very pretty, well put together and intelligent woman) her looks went down the drain (as he prevented her from wearing make up or pretty clothes) and she ended up in a living hell. A man needs to step up and be a man, IMO. Yeah, it's old fashioned, but unless he was actually really fully disabled, through no fault of his own, I'm NOT supporting a man under any condition.
I wanted a family and a traditional home life. It took work to find the right man, but they are out there, you just have to be discriminating and careful and know what to avoid.
OOOOPS, I forgot to vote "must love sex." Obviously, that's a deal breaker. I didn't realize it at the time I started