Dating younger

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Dating younger

shepegs shepegs
So I met this beautiful young girl (19). We can talk for hours. There's something charming and indulging about someone so delightful. Is it wrong to be in your 40's and just loving the company of someone so young? Why do women see this so awfully wrong? It's just a friendship, but given the chance it would easily develop to something else, but that's not the goal or the point. Comments?
05/22/2010
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Sir Sir
Nothing wrong with it at all. If the two of you are interested in each other, then by all means, go for it! Even if she just ends up being a friend, why not? And even something more, that's good too!
05/22/2010
Dame Saphir Dame Saphir
My boyfriend has the rule that if you take your age and divide it by two, then add seven, that's the youngest age you should date. But I say screw it. There is nothing wrong with enjoying the company of a younger woman and feeling any sort of attraction to her either. Whether this remains a friendship or develops to anything more intimate, as long as there's -reciprocation-, age makes no difference.
05/22/2010
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
I have had quite a few older guys say they have fallen in love with me just through conversation. I didn't even have any interest in these guys and had no idea they had any interest either. I don't think it is wrong in most circumstances. In your case, I don't find anything wrong with it. A breath of fresh air!
05/22/2010
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
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Originally posted by Dame Saphir
My boyfriend has the rule that if you take your age and divide it by two, then add seven, that's the youngest age you should date. But I say screw it. There is nothing wrong with enjoying the company of a younger woman and feeling any sort of ...
I've heard of that rule too!
05/22/2010
shepegs shepegs
Interesting feedback.
05/26/2010
Sammi Sammi
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Originally posted by Dame Saphir
My boyfriend has the rule that if you take your age and divide it by two, then add seven, that's the youngest age you should date. But I say screw it. There is nothing wrong with enjoying the company of a younger woman and feeling any sort of ...
Someone told me once that that was the definition of a "cougar".
05/27/2010
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
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Originally posted by Sammi
Someone told me once that that was the definition of a "cougar".
Cougar I think is 40+ dating half their age or less. Puma is 30-40 dating 2/3 their age. That is what I heard...but my source is VH1...haha.
05/27/2010
Sammi Sammi
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Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
Cougar I think is 40+ dating half their age or less. Puma is 30-40 dating 2/3 their age. That is what I heard...but my source is VH1...haha.
I get so confused by all the cat names
05/27/2010
Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
Quote:
Originally posted by Sammi
I get so confused by all the cat names
I'm a tabby cat! * meow * =3

Ahem. Anyway. Age difference factors into a relationship about as much as other things do, like religion, politics, family background, et cetera. So there's a bit of an age difference between you (shepegs) and the woman you're interested in. You should take it into consideration and not ignore it, but at the same time, it's not a make or break thing. It has a lot to do with the person's mental age, as was brought up before in a similar thread. So it's case by case. Just be sure you're communicating and on the same page.

And there is NOTHING "wrong" about dating someone significantly younger than you, as long that person is above the age of legal consent and the relationship is an honest one.
05/28/2010
Naughty Student Naughty Student
For my part I think age is just a number (and I am talking about friendships or fooling around...which I dont do since I am in a relationship). I don't care how old a person is as long as we have common interests.

However, when it comes to serious relationships there can be some issues when you take into account the two peoples priorities in their life.

For example, it might not work here but it is an example to explain my point. I know someone who is slightly younger than his girlfriend (about 10 years) and right now in her life, her priority is financial freedom and children, while the person I know is still in school and cannot save all his money as he needs it for expenses related to school. So there is a riff in the relationship.

So, I guess as long as both people in the relaiotnship have common interests and very similar priorities then it shouldnt be a problem.

My two cents
05/28/2010
Annemarie Annemarie
I think there's more to being in a relationship than just age. That said, my current significant other is 18 years older than I am, so I'm rather biased.

I think maturity matters more than one's birthday, and as long as both parties are willing to do anything to make it work, it will work.
05/31/2010
Chilipepper Chilipepper
Quote:
Originally posted by Dame Saphir
My boyfriend has the rule that if you take your age and divide it by two, then add seven, that's the youngest age you should date. But I say screw it. There is nothing wrong with enjoying the company of a younger woman and feeling any sort of ...
It was a formula created during the Regency-Victorian eras for the appropriate ages of suitors and young ladies to find marriagable happiness. Say if the gentleman were 30, his best chances of marriage were with a young woman of 22. I suspect the rule was created as filler for etiquette books.

I was married to an older man (10 years my senior) and he had the same mental maturity as I did when we first met (I was 21). I matured over the ten years of our relationship and he didn't. It was disturbing to be with a 40-year-old man who still acted like a child so I left.

Like the other forum says 'Age ain't nothing but a number' - just make sure you're on the same page on everything else, and you'll be fine.
05/31/2010
kck kck
My partner is 6.5 years older than I am. I'm not going to lie, at times it has been really tough with the age difference. We're different places in our lives, experiencing different things, expecting different things... etc. But it has been worth it. I really do think age is just a number and that people can connect on levels not thought possible by conventional expectations.

However, that being said, I would be extremely careful. Even though 19 is a legal adult, there is a major difference between young adulthood and adulthood. Unfortunately, even if you don't "believe" in societal restrictions, they exist. Dating someone so much younger is taboo and could backfire on you.

I'd say this is a potentially sticky situation. Take it slow.
05/31/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by shepegs
So I met this beautiful young girl (19). We can talk for hours. There's something charming and indulging about someone so delightful. Is it wrong to be in your 40's and just loving the company of someone so young? Why do women see this so ...
LOL Arch laughs at people who assume that 40 year olds have nothing what so ever to give to 20 somethings...he's 25 and I'm turning 40 so ya the only problem is Sigel keeping up with us sexually! (He's 40 and giving me a most dirty look right now....)
06/01/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
Cougar I think is 40+ dating half their age or less. Puma is 30-40 dating 2/3 their age. That is what I heard...but my source is VH1...haha.
Hmmm so I is Puma...rawr
06/01/2010
MnWolf MnWolf
Well, my current S.O. is 14 years younger then I am, there is the thrills and amusment of her lack of knowing things in the world that keep things interesting. We have been through a lot in the almost 4 years that we have been together, not by either of our choices but still the same we have been and that has made the relationship that much stonger. I get a kick out of helping her out and pushing her, she is now just started taking classes online as I am, she wanted to be a teacher and now she is on her way to making that happen. Sexualy she is a sponge, with her growing up in a home where it wasn't taked about, other then a short, this is why your bleeding, here are some pads,and some asprin you will be fine....! UGH...

Now on the other hand I have been in relationships where we were the same age as well as the woman being 14 years older. In all I look at things like this.. We meet people when we meet them for a reason, weather it is to help that person with something, or that person helping us with something, there is a lesson to be learned from all that we meet. I don't look at a chance meeting as just something that happens, even more so when they have a impact on your life.
07/14/2010
Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
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Originally posted by Dame Saphir
My boyfriend has the rule that if you take your age and divide it by two, then add seven, that's the youngest age you should date. But I say screw it. There is nothing wrong with enjoying the company of a younger woman and feeling any sort of ...
That's a funny method and according to your boyfriend, my boy and I are just barely acceptable - he just turned 42 and I'll be 28 in a couple weeks. So 42/2= 21. 21+7=28

In my mind though, as long as it's legal and consensual, it's OK.
07/14/2010
Harlequin Harlequin
interesting
12/12/2010
CaliGirl CaliGirl
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Originally posted by shepegs
So I met this beautiful young girl (19). We can talk for hours. There's something charming and indulging about someone so delightful. Is it wrong to be in your 40's and just loving the company of someone so young? Why do women see this so ...
I always date younger men. I have a fear of getting old.
06/25/2012
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