Dating your cousin??

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Dating your cousin??

Gongsta Gongsta
Okay so my friend has a cousin who came to visit his family from new york and she is gorgeous. but everytime i hang out with them together it seems like they have a connection. they are really flirty and touchy together and i know my friend likes her. Do you think it's okay for cousins to date each other??
09/17/2012
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Khanner Khanner
There is actually a phenomenon called "Genetic sexual attraction" in which meeting relatives for the first time when you're adults or have been separated for a long time since childhood results in sexual/romantic attraction. I think that might be what's going on with your friend. Even if they ethically consider it to be ok, though, they might not want go for it because it can cause drama. And even if YOU notice it, he may not want you to.
09/17/2012
indiglo indiglo
When I was younger, I had a friend and something similar happened between her and her male cousin.

I'm not in charge of whether or not it was "ok". I wouldn't do it personally and I found it strange. But I think with her it was just a one time hook-up.
09/17/2012
Ansley Ansley
It's probably more common than any of us are readily willing or wanting to believe.
09/17/2012
sexytileena / absolutely love sex sexytileena / absolutely love sex
I guess if there 1st , 2nd or 3rd cousins its not right.
09/17/2012
Beck Beck
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Originally posted by sexytileena / absolutely love sex
I guess if there 1st , 2nd or 3rd cousins its not right.
I believe in some places you can marry your third cousin?
09/17/2012
John E W John E W
I guess everyone has a different thought!
I'd have to say as long as its not close cousins like first or second cousin.
09/17/2012
deltalima deltalima
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Originally posted by Gongsta
Okay so my friend has a cousin who came to visit his family from new york and she is gorgeous. but everytime i hang out with them together it seems like they have a connection. they are really flirty and touchy together and i know my friend likes ...
I know it's less acceptable here but when I lived in Asia and Europe, it's not a big deal there.
09/17/2012
MistressDandelion MistressDandelion
My grandparents were first cousins. It's totally legal to marry, and the consanguinity won't hurt the offspring all that much unless you both carry rare genetic diseases.
09/17/2012
edenguy edenguy
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Originally posted by Gongsta
Okay so my friend has a cousin who came to visit his family from new york and she is gorgeous. but everytime i hang out with them together it seems like they have a connection. they are really flirty and touchy together and i know my friend likes ...
I wouldn't date mine. But I don't really care about other people
09/17/2012
Gongsta Gongsta
haha yeahh i always think about what his parents would say if they found out
09/20/2012
SavingMyself SavingMyself
I wouldn't date my cousin, but I have no problem with those that do.
09/28/2012
WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
I think of all of my cousins as brothers and sisters....but that's me. I don't care what other people are up to.
09/28/2012
Major Panda Major Panda
Funny story I had a friend who met this girl at a dance. They were bumping and grinding, even kissing. A Week later they found out they were cousins. Luckily it was by marriage.
10/08/2012
Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
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Originally posted by sexytileena / absolutely love sex
I guess if there 1st , 2nd or 3rd cousins its not right.
On a genetic level, 2nd cousins are far enough apart that they're no more likely to have children with birth defects than two unrelated people. Even 1st cousins are reasonably safe. It all has to do with how likely two people are of being carriers for genetic disorders.

Now morally it's another story, and depends on what you believe and where you live. In many places marriage between 2nd cousins is allowed, and even 1st cousins in some places.

I had a crush on my cousin when I was a kid, but that's about it. I no longer feel that way and wouldn't pursue a relationship even if I did. I'm on the fence about whether or not I completely disapprove of other people doing it. The short answer is that I'd prefer not to see it, but probably won't call anyone out on it, either.
10/09/2012
nova2014 nova2014
I feel like that's weird to me personally, and it might not be good if they have kids together, but who am I to judge them?
12/05/2012
Chilipepper Chilipepper
One of my cousins just reminded me that I proposed to him when we were four ... I don't remember it, but he thought it was hilarious. It's cute at that age. (In all honestly, my male cousins fall into two categories - rednecks on my dad's side, and gay on my mom's side.)

Technically, I understand the genetics involved. It would depend on what both carried, etc, if they intend to marry and have offspring.

The rest of it is societal mores and expectations. I regard cousins as brothers and sisters, so there isn't any "attraction feeling" going on (their kids call me "Auntie" even). With others, I'm only iffy about genetic problems between first and second cousins. Third cousins onward is pretty much safe.
12/06/2012
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