Developing feelings for a new boyfriend question...

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Developing feelings for a new boyfriend question...

edeneve edeneve
within the 3 1/2 months I was dating a guy, I found I was developing feelings for him after 1 1/2 or 2 months. it's not love I know that for sure. I'm not sure what I could be feeling other than fondness. but somehow it feels like it's more than that.

if you have had a similar experience & were able to identify those specific feelings you experienced, please share so I can make sense of this.

I've already spent quite a bit of time thinking about this & am unable to find an answer, hence, my desire to hear from others about a similar experience.
09/21/2013
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nanamondoute nanamondoute
Quote:
Originally posted by edeneve
within the 3 1/2 months I was dating a guy, I found I was developing feelings for him after 1 1/2 or 2 months. it's not love I know that for sure. I'm not sure what I could be feeling other than fondness. but somehow it feels like it's ...
Maybe a mix of infatuation and attachment? I don't think it's too important to specifically identify the feeling -- more just realize it's the next step in the relationship.

I was different with my current relationship (of almost 10 months). I was abroad, so I looked at the relationship as just an abroad thing and didn't really allow myself to develop really deep feelings, even though I was spending every day with the guy. I bottled up all my frustrations. It wasn't until I came clean about my frustrations (after 7 months) and saw that he was most definitely willing to change for me that I just fell for him in a matter of 2 weeks. We say we love each other -- I don't know what love is though, so I can't tell for sure. But I do know I have a strong attachment.
09/21/2013
edeneve edeneve
Quote:
Originally posted by nanamondoute
Maybe a mix of infatuation and attachment? I don't think it's too important to specifically identify the feeling -- more just realize it's the next step in the relationship.

I was different with my current relationship (of almost ...
good point about attachment - hadn't thought about that.
09/21/2013
edeneve edeneve
I've thought about attachment like nanamondoute said. not sure that's what's going on. any ideas out there?
10/03/2013
HannahPanda HannahPanda
I would agree - attachment or infatuation probably fit the best.
10/18/2013
edeneve edeneve
would like more thoughts here.
11/30/2013
Oriental husband and wife Oriental husband and wife
Could it be you like his company ? Since there is no hurry, time will tell.If you are happy then that is good for something. Hope all goes well for you.
11/30/2013
RonLee RonLee
Quote:
Originally posted by edeneve
within the 3 1/2 months I was dating a guy, I found I was developing feelings for him after 1 1/2 or 2 months. it's not love I know that for sure. I'm not sure what I could be feeling other than fondness. but somehow it feels like it's ...
Google Limerence.
In my experience it is simultaneously euphoric and torturously depressing.
Though to some degree, I actually miss the visceral feeling that it evoked.
12/01/2013
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