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Do you believe in "soul mates"
I used to, but I thought I had found mine and that was not the case. Thinking about it reminds me of the dialogue in Ever After...
Henry: Do you really think there is only one perfect mate?
Leonardo da Vinci: As a matter of fact, I do.
Henry: Well then how can you be certain to find them? And if you do find them, are they really the one for you or do you only think they are? And what happens if the person you're supposed to be with never appears, or, or she does, but you're too distracted to notice?
Leonardo da Vinci: You learn to pay attention.
Henry: Then let's say God puts two people on Earth and they are lucky enough to find one another. But one of them gets hit by lightning. Well then what? Is that it? Or, perchance, you meet someone new and marry all over again. Is that the lady you're supposed to be with or was it the first? And if so, when the two of them were walking side by side were they both the one for you and you just happened to meet the first one first or, was the second one supposed to be first? And is everything just chance or are some things meant to be?
Henry: Do you really think there is only one perfect mate?
Leonardo da Vinci: As a matter of fact, I do.
Henry: Well then how can you be certain to find them? And if you do find them, are they really the one for you or do you only think they are? And what happens if the person you're supposed to be with never appears, or, or she does, but you're too distracted to notice?
Leonardo da Vinci: You learn to pay attention.
Henry: Then let's say God puts two people on Earth and they are lucky enough to find one another. But one of them gets hit by lightning. Well then what? Is that it? Or, perchance, you meet someone new and marry all over again. Is that the lady you're supposed to be with or was it the first? And if so, when the two of them were walking side by side were they both the one for you and you just happened to meet the first one first or, was the second one supposed to be first? And is everything just chance or are some things meant to be?
11/10/2010
I believe that we all -- as human beings seeking affirmation, acceptance, and companionship -- have a great deal of potential in finding a good match for ourselves with MORE than just one person. After all, when you get right down to it, we all have more in common with each other than we have differences.
I don't subscribe to the notion that there is only one perfect match out there for any of us. (I.e., that if you don't find that one perfect match for you in the whole wide world, then you are doomed to a life of "incompleteness." Your relationship with yourself -- how in touch and accepting you are of yourself -- is what makes you "complete." No relationship with another person can ever do this for you.)
I think that when you do find someone with whom you click -- someone with whom you find an easy camaraderie and shared smiles, then it is of a supreme and worthwhile investment of your best efforts to build upon the relationship. It is in the mutual building of a relationship between two people -- the give and the take from BOTH of you -- that the phrase "soul mate" can ever derive any meaning. It is found in the shared joys and sorrows of a life shared day by day.
I also believe that "soul mate" can apply to a perfectly platonic friendship -- or even to a brother or sister (or father or mother) with whom you enjoy a particularly close and understanding relationship.
I hope this makes sense. Kinda rambling here!
I don't subscribe to the notion that there is only one perfect match out there for any of us. (I.e., that if you don't find that one perfect match for you in the whole wide world, then you are doomed to a life of "incompleteness." Your relationship with yourself -- how in touch and accepting you are of yourself -- is what makes you "complete." No relationship with another person can ever do this for you.)
I think that when you do find someone with whom you click -- someone with whom you find an easy camaraderie and shared smiles, then it is of a supreme and worthwhile investment of your best efforts to build upon the relationship. It is in the mutual building of a relationship between two people -- the give and the take from BOTH of you -- that the phrase "soul mate" can ever derive any meaning. It is found in the shared joys and sorrows of a life shared day by day.
I also believe that "soul mate" can apply to a perfectly platonic friendship -- or even to a brother or sister (or father or mother) with whom you enjoy a particularly close and understanding relationship.
I hope this makes sense. Kinda rambling here!
11/10/2010
No.
Everything about my ex-husband seemed perfectly in tune and related to who I was - intellectuals, same tastes, our names matched (from a popular nursery rhyme), etc etc etc
Hell on Earth. He was emotionally abusive, a slob, immature, wouldn't take responsibility for anything, no sex ...
No. Fairy tales don't exist. There's a part of me that wants to believe it does, but I think the closest I'll admit to it would be - "fate may get the two together, but it's up to the two if they want to make it work or not".
Everything about my ex-husband seemed perfectly in tune and related to who I was - intellectuals, same tastes, our names matched (from a popular nursery rhyme), etc etc etc
Hell on Earth. He was emotionally abusive, a slob, immature, wouldn't take responsibility for anything, no sex ...
No. Fairy tales don't exist. There's a part of me that wants to believe it does, but I think the closest I'll admit to it would be - "fate may get the two together, but it's up to the two if they want to make it work or not".
11/10/2010
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I second this. Your partner, your best friends, people you take under your wing, and people who are mentors on your life. All deep connections, but in different ways.
Originally posted by
Alicia
I believe in the possibility of Soul Mates but I believe that each person has multiple Soul Mates and not all are of a romantic nature.
11/10/2010
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yep exactly, and the reason I believe in this type of soul mate is that most of the people who have changed my life the most and those I've had the deepest connections with have come into my life in ways that seem so "meant to be" I guess, like strange happenstance type situations, so it leads me to believe that we have a deep connection and were drawn to each other.
Originally posted by
Victoria
I second this. Your partner, your best friends, people you take under your wing, and people who are mentors on your life. All deep connections, but in different ways.
11/10/2010
I lolled.
The very idea that we cannot be complete without another person is evil, I think. There are people you love to fuck and fuck to love but not one person is ever going to come along and completely suit your emotional, physical, and spiritual needs, at least not as well as the ten thousand other people who could still please you while standing on their heads.
The very idea that we cannot be complete without another person is evil, I think. There are people you love to fuck and fuck to love but not one person is ever going to come along and completely suit your emotional, physical, and spiritual needs, at least not as well as the ten thousand other people who could still please you while standing on their heads.
11/10/2010
Everyone comes into your life at a certain time to play some part to help you evolve as a person. Learning new things about the world and yourself. They come and go, and it all builds up. There is no one real true 'soul mate' per say, but all those who have influenced your life in a positive and important way can be seen as a 'soul mate.'
11/10/2010
I think that for everybody there are certain people that they will be incredibly compatible with. I just think that it takes A LOT of trial and error to figure out who those people are. Sometimes we may never meet them because they are outside our social groups, or if we do we wont have any idea that is the case and dismiss them based on first impressions etc. (Life has a way of throwing bricks at your face sometimes.)
This is why its good to keep an open mind about people, and not judge based on personal interests and such. For instance you might want to stay away from statements and judgments like "I am not interested because you listen to Lady Gaga, and I hate Lady GaGa." or... "You don't think pirates are cool? Well fuck you then, I'm out."
This is why its good to keep an open mind about people, and not judge based on personal interests and such. For instance you might want to stay away from statements and judgments like "I am not interested because you listen to Lady Gaga, and I hate Lady GaGa." or... "You don't think pirates are cool? Well fuck you then, I'm out."
11/10/2010
nope. then again, I'm a hard core atheist and don't believe in anything transcendent or supernatural.
I think there are some people you're going to get along really well with, and just by sheer chance and random consequence, you might meet someone that just rocks your world. I don't believe that there is one person "made" for me - and that's what makes it so fantastic when you do find someone you can love, because it didn't have to be. If you have someone that just clicks with you, that you love and who loves you, then you've overcome crazy statistical odds against ever meeting that person - and THAT is an awesome thing.
I think there are some people you're going to get along really well with, and just by sheer chance and random consequence, you might meet someone that just rocks your world. I don't believe that there is one person "made" for me - and that's what makes it so fantastic when you do find someone you can love, because it didn't have to be. If you have someone that just clicks with you, that you love and who loves you, then you've overcome crazy statistical odds against ever meeting that person - and THAT is an awesome thing.
11/11/2010
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+1 dude!
Originally posted by
Selective Sensualist
I believe that we all -- as human beings seeking affirmation, acceptance, and companionship -- have a great deal of potential in finding a good match for ourselves with MORE than just one person. After all, when you get right down to it, we all have
...
I believe that we all -- as human beings seeking affirmation, acceptance, and companionship -- have a great deal of potential in finding a good match for ourselves with MORE than just one person. After all, when you get right down to it, we all have more in common with each other than we have differences.
I don't subscribe to the notion that there is only one perfect match out there for any of us. (I.e., that if you don't find that one perfect match for you in the whole wide world, then you are doomed to a life of "incompleteness." Your relationship with yourself -- how in touch and accepting you are of yourself -- is what makes you "complete." No relationship with another person can ever do this for you.)
I think that when you do find someone with whom you click -- someone with whom you find an easy camaraderie and shared smiles, then it is of a supreme and worthwhile investment of your best efforts to build upon the relationship. It is in the mutual building of a relationship between two people -- the give and the take from BOTH of you -- that the phrase "soul mate" can ever derive any meaning. It is found in the shared joys and sorrows of a life shared day by day.
I also believe that "soul mate" can apply to a perfectly platonic friendship -- or even to a brother or sister (or father or mother) with whom you enjoy a particularly close and understanding relationship.
I hope this makes sense. Kinda rambling here!
I don't subscribe to the notion that there is only one perfect match out there for any of us. (I.e., that if you don't find that one perfect match for you in the whole wide world, then you are doomed to a life of "incompleteness." Your relationship with yourself -- how in touch and accepting you are of yourself -- is what makes you "complete." No relationship with another person can ever do this for you.)
I think that when you do find someone with whom you click -- someone with whom you find an easy camaraderie and shared smiles, then it is of a supreme and worthwhile investment of your best efforts to build upon the relationship. It is in the mutual building of a relationship between two people -- the give and the take from BOTH of you -- that the phrase "soul mate" can ever derive any meaning. It is found in the shared joys and sorrows of a life shared day by day.
I also believe that "soul mate" can apply to a perfectly platonic friendship -- or even to a brother or sister (or father or mother) with whom you enjoy a particularly close and understanding relationship.
I hope this makes sense. Kinda rambling here!
11/12/2010
