There is always the possibility, but I really don't know if I believe in soul mates or not.
Do you believe in "soul mates"
11/12/2010
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Ya I like Lady gaga...but I know you like me wink wink lol
Originally posted by
Emma (Girl With Fire)
I think that for everybody there are certain people that they will be incredibly compatible with. I just think that it takes A LOT of trial and error to figure out who those people are. Sometimes we may never meet them because they are outside our
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I think that for everybody there are certain people that they will be incredibly compatible with. I just think that it takes A LOT of trial and error to figure out who those people are. Sometimes we may never meet them because they are outside our social groups, or if we do we wont have any idea that is the case and dismiss them based on first impressions etc. (Life has a way of throwing bricks at your face sometimes.)
This is why its good to keep an open mind about people, and not judge based on personal interests and such. For instance you might want to stay away from statements and judgments like "I am not interested because you listen to Lady Gaga, and I hate Lady GaGa." or... "You don't think pirates are cool? Well fuck you then, I'm out." less
This is why its good to keep an open mind about people, and not judge based on personal interests and such. For instance you might want to stay away from statements and judgments like "I am not interested because you listen to Lady Gaga, and I hate Lady GaGa." or... "You don't think pirates are cool? Well fuck you then, I'm out." less
11/14/2010
Me and my bf say that we took a 9 year break to mess up our own lifes instead of messimg up eachothers lives. Now we are together and learning from our mistakes we are quite happy together.
11/14/2010
I definitely used to... But considering how that turned out, I have to think about now.
11/14/2010
I do and I believe my current partner is my soul mate. We both know it's true, because our personalities are very unique and we know that no one else could understand our humor or thoughts as well as we can. I'm thankful I found him.
11/14/2010
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Wow...well put! I think your first paragraph is right!
Originally posted by
Selective Sensualist
I believe that we all -- as human beings seeking affirmation, acceptance, and companionship -- have a great deal of potential in finding a good match for ourselves with MORE than just one person. After all, when you get right down to it, we all have
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I believe that we all -- as human beings seeking affirmation, acceptance, and companionship -- have a great deal of potential in finding a good match for ourselves with MORE than just one person. After all, when you get right down to it, we all have more in common with each other than we have differences.
I don't subscribe to the notion that there is only one perfect match out there for any of us. (I.e., that if you don't find that one perfect match for you in the whole wide world, then you are doomed to a life of "incompleteness." Your relationship with yourself -- how in touch and accepting you are of yourself -- is what makes you "complete." No relationship with another person can ever do this for you.)
I think that when you do find someone with whom you click -- someone with whom you find an easy camaraderie and shared smiles, then it is of a supreme and worthwhile investment of your best efforts to build upon the relationship. It is in the mutual building of a relationship between two people -- the give and the take from BOTH of you -- that the phrase "soul mate" can ever derive any meaning. It is found in the shared joys and sorrows of a life shared day by day.
I also believe that "soul mate" can apply to a perfectly platonic friendship -- or even to a brother or sister (or father or mother) with whom you enjoy a particularly close and understanding relationship.
I hope this makes sense. Kinda rambling here! less
I don't subscribe to the notion that there is only one perfect match out there for any of us. (I.e., that if you don't find that one perfect match for you in the whole wide world, then you are doomed to a life of "incompleteness." Your relationship with yourself -- how in touch and accepting you are of yourself -- is what makes you "complete." No relationship with another person can ever do this for you.)
I think that when you do find someone with whom you click -- someone with whom you find an easy camaraderie and shared smiles, then it is of a supreme and worthwhile investment of your best efforts to build upon the relationship. It is in the mutual building of a relationship between two people -- the give and the take from BOTH of you -- that the phrase "soul mate" can ever derive any meaning. It is found in the shared joys and sorrows of a life shared day by day.
I also believe that "soul mate" can apply to a perfectly platonic friendship -- or even to a brother or sister (or father or mother) with whom you enjoy a particularly close and understanding relationship.
I hope this makes sense. Kinda rambling here! less
11/16/2010
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I chose yes, but I meant to choose theres a possibility. The mystical, "ignorance is bliss" part of me wants to say there is only one, but I think we can honestly consciously or subconsciously make literally anyone our "soul mate".
Originally posted by
RosesThorns
Everyone has a match out there...what do you think?
12/06/2010
I certainly believe in love, and am currently deeply in love for the first time in my life. However, I don't believe that there is One Person who's perfect for me, and that we are "meant" to be together. I could live the rest of my life with my partner. But I also think I could fall in love with many others.
Maybe this explains why I'm polyamorous
Maybe this explains why I'm polyamorous
12/06/2010
I don't believe in soul mates in the sense that there's only 1 person in the world who could truly make me happy. I mean, I'm in San Francisco. What if my soul mate is in Russia? Am I bound to not be happy just 'cuz of a random placement of this person?
I think there are many out there who can make us happy and so long as we actually try to make it work it will; but also I think the whole not really having soul mates thing is also why poly relationships work so well for some. Maybe one person completes one part of you and another person completes the other part of you.
Besides, how do you really know that they're your soul mate? Are their fire works? Do bells ring? What if they have all the right sings but are a complete dick? *shakes head* I don't believe in soul mates nor do I believe in marriage. Maybe I'm just jaded and cynical? LOL
I think there are many out there who can make us happy and so long as we actually try to make it work it will; but also I think the whole not really having soul mates thing is also why poly relationships work so well for some. Maybe one person completes one part of you and another person completes the other part of you.
Besides, how do you really know that they're your soul mate? Are their fire works? Do bells ring? What if they have all the right sings but are a complete dick? *shakes head* I don't believe in soul mates nor do I believe in marriage. Maybe I'm just jaded and cynical? LOL
12/07/2010
I believe in compatibility, which people label as "soul mates". I've been compatible with more than one individual, so I guess I have had several "soul mates"
12/07/2010
Yes & I'm married to him now!
02/12/2011
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This pretty much sums up how I feel. I don't believe there is just 1 "perfect person" out there for each of us - I think relationships take real work, real give and take. But when you find a good partner, it's worth the work, and when you fit together, it feels pretty perfect.
Originally posted by
Selective Sensualist
I believe that we all -- as human beings seeking affirmation, acceptance, and companionship -- have a great deal of potential in finding a good match for ourselves with MORE than just one person. After all, when you get right down to it, we all have
...
more
I believe that we all -- as human beings seeking affirmation, acceptance, and companionship -- have a great deal of potential in finding a good match for ourselves with MORE than just one person. After all, when you get right down to it, we all have more in common with each other than we have differences.
I don't subscribe to the notion that there is only one perfect match out there for any of us. (I.e., that if you don't find that one perfect match for you in the whole wide world, then you are doomed to a life of "incompleteness." Your relationship with yourself -- how in touch and accepting you are of yourself -- is what makes you "complete." No relationship with another person can ever do this for you.)
I think that when you do find someone with whom you click -- someone with whom you find an easy camaraderie and shared smiles, then it is of a supreme and worthwhile investment of your best efforts to build upon the relationship. It is in the mutual building of a relationship between two people -- the give and the take from BOTH of you -- that the phrase "soul mate" can ever derive any meaning. It is found in the shared joys and sorrows of a life shared day by day.
I also believe that "soul mate" can apply to a perfectly platonic friendship -- or even to a brother or sister (or father or mother) with whom you enjoy a particularly close and understanding relationship.
I hope this makes sense. Kinda rambling here! less
I don't subscribe to the notion that there is only one perfect match out there for any of us. (I.e., that if you don't find that one perfect match for you in the whole wide world, then you are doomed to a life of "incompleteness." Your relationship with yourself -- how in touch and accepting you are of yourself -- is what makes you "complete." No relationship with another person can ever do this for you.)
I think that when you do find someone with whom you click -- someone with whom you find an easy camaraderie and shared smiles, then it is of a supreme and worthwhile investment of your best efforts to build upon the relationship. It is in the mutual building of a relationship between two people -- the give and the take from BOTH of you -- that the phrase "soul mate" can ever derive any meaning. It is found in the shared joys and sorrows of a life shared day by day.
I also believe that "soul mate" can apply to a perfectly platonic friendship -- or even to a brother or sister (or father or mother) with whom you enjoy a particularly close and understanding relationship.
I hope this makes sense. Kinda rambling here! less
02/26/2011
i sure do believe.
04/03/2011
I do, because I really don't believe there is more of a compatible match for me than my husband. We click even on the deepest levels.
04/03/2011
yes just hope i fine mine one day
04/03/2011
not sure
04/05/2011
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I agree. There are many people who mesh incredibly well with certain aspects of us at certain times. I would technically classify my best male friend as a kind of soul mate (we are both very hetero). We just "get" each other.
Originally posted by
Naughty Student
I think that we have many soul mates. I think that you can meet many people within your life who you were destined to be with at a particular time in your life for a particular extended period of time.
I have also recently met someone with whom I am constantly amazed how much we "get" each other. She is much younger than I, but we have chats that are just amazing and have been able to tell what the other is thinking almost from the beginning. I have never meshed so well with anyone in my life and am in awe with how connected we are even though the chances to see each other IRL are very few and far between.
There are others who I have deep connections with as well, but those two are probably the strongest.
04/06/2011
I think they do
04/07/2011
Call me cynical, but I don't believe in a soul mate.
I think there are several people out there in the world with whom I am compatible. It just makes sense to me.
I think there are several people out there in the world with whom I am compatible. It just makes sense to me.
04/07/2011
I believe that it is possible to have compersive, passionate loving relationships with whoever you choose. I also think that "outrageous attraction" that sometimes people call "soul mates" is not often an indication of a healthy or lasting relationship. I think it's dismissive of your own complex emotional history to simply dismiss prior relationships as "not true love" in favor of the current one.
04/07/2011
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I voted for yes. I think everyone has a match out there for them and I've found mine.
Originally posted by
RosesThorns
Everyone has a match out there...what do you think?
04/07/2011
I don't believe there is one "perfect person" for each other person on Earth. That would be impossible. What if your soul mate lived in rural India, and you've never left Indiana?
I think people can really have soul mates, but I don't think it's preordained. I think you become attracted to someone and then WORK to make the relationship work, if it seems like it's worth the effort. But, of course, one can be attracted to more than one person. And if it doesn't work out with one mate, an other may be found.
I think people can really have soul mates, but I don't think it's preordained. I think you become attracted to someone and then WORK to make the relationship work, if it seems like it's worth the effort. But, of course, one can be attracted to more than one person. And if it doesn't work out with one mate, an other may be found.
04/07/2011
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I have to respectively disagree. I've actually tried to have passionate loving relationships with people who I just couldn't do this with. It didn't work, even though I wanted it to, and HE wanted it to.
Originally posted by
G.L. Morrison
I believe that it is possible to have compersive, passionate loving relationships with whoever you choose. I also think that "outrageous attraction" that sometimes people call "soul mates" is not often an indication of a healthy
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I believe that it is possible to have compersive, passionate loving relationships with whoever you choose. I also think that "outrageous attraction" that sometimes people call "soul mates" is not often an indication of a healthy or lasting relationship. I think it's dismissive of your own complex emotional history to simply dismiss prior relationships as "not true love" in favor of the current one.
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I also have an "outrageous attraction" to My Man, whom I have been with for over 20 years. Still outrageously attracted to him. Him likewise to me.
I really don't believe in ONE "soul mate" but I do believe that there are people one clicks with and others with whom one doesn't.
04/07/2011
I don't believe in the romanticized notion of a soul mate. I do however think there people out there who we encounter and that we enter into a relationship who we are physically, emotionally, and spiritually compatible with on a very intimate (both sexual and non-sexual) level. If you meet and fall in love with someone, who both unconditionally supports and constantly challenge (in a good way) you. You work at it and want to work at it because it is SO much easier to just walk away. That's what i think of when I think of "soul mate". It's someone you want to be with actively want to be with. I don't necessarily believe in just one person. Personally, my husband is all I want to be with. But for hypothetical purposes let's say my husband died. After I'm done grieving who knows I might encounter someone else I might fall in love with and perhaps get remarried. Or for those who were ina bad relationship but later found someone who truly made them happy and all thing I just mentioned.
Now in regards to people on a non sexual nature. And I'm going to quote "Anne of Green Gables". I believe in people who come into our lives and become kindred spirits. There are just some people in the world that you just click with. Your best friends.
Now in regards to people on a non sexual nature. And I'm going to quote "Anne of Green Gables". I believe in people who come into our lives and become kindred spirits. There are just some people in the world that you just click with. Your best friends.
04/07/2011
That would be way too stressful for me.
04/07/2011
I think for some people yes and for others, no. I think soul mates is often idealized and used in lusty terms. I've seen couples I think are soul mates but they have been rare.
04/07/2011
I believe that we all are searching for our idealized "the one", when all we really need is someone who loves you. (Even when you leave the laundry out.)
There are more than one person that is suitable to share your life with. It is the one you choose that matters.
There are more than one person that is suitable to share your life with. It is the one you choose that matters.
04/07/2011
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I agree with this the most. I believe I have finally found my soul mate after ending a very long prior relationship. Only time will tell, but we exibit so many of the "signs" that we are both similar and complimentary to each other. We are in very different age groups and have very different social circles, but we find that we are happiest with each other still and can be completely open and honest to the other, as neither of us has ever done previously in any sexual or platonic relationship.
Originally posted by
Emma (Girl With Fire)
I think that for everybody there are certain people that they will be incredibly compatible with. I just think that it takes A LOT of trial and error to figure out who those people are. Sometimes we may never meet them because they are outside our
...
more
I think that for everybody there are certain people that they will be incredibly compatible with. I just think that it takes A LOT of trial and error to figure out who those people are. Sometimes we may never meet them because they are outside our social groups, or if we do we wont have any idea that is the case and dismiss them based on first impressions etc. (Life has a way of throwing bricks at your face sometimes.)
This is why its good to keep an open mind about people, and not judge based on personal interests and such. For instance you might want to stay away from statements and judgments like "I am not interested because you listen to Lady Gaga, and I hate Lady GaGa." or... "You don't think pirates are cool? Well fuck you then, I'm out." less
This is why its good to keep an open mind about people, and not judge based on personal interests and such. For instance you might want to stay away from statements and judgments like "I am not interested because you listen to Lady Gaga, and I hate Lady GaGa." or... "You don't think pirates are cool? Well fuck you then, I'm out." less
04/07/2011
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This. And, of course, it is important that the love goes both ways. Don't just choose someone who dotes after you but for whom you do not return the feelings. That wouldn't be fair to either of you.
Originally posted by
sexy19364
I believe that we all are searching for our idealized "the one", when all we really need is someone who loves you. (Even when you leave the laundry out.)
There are more than one person that is suitable to share your life ... more
There are more than one person that is suitable to share your life ... more
I believe that we all are searching for our idealized "the one", when all we really need is someone who loves you. (Even when you leave the laundry out.)
There are more than one person that is suitable to share your life with. It is the one you choose that matters. less
There are more than one person that is suitable to share your life with. It is the one you choose that matters. less
There should be plenty of people out there for each of us with whom we could be happily compatible. But, yes, it is the ones we choose who matter.
04/08/2011
Yes I do believe it. I believe you can have more than one and it doesn't have to be your spouse. It can be a friend, cousin, sister, etc. Mine is my BFF who is a guy, while I love my husband and he's great, I don't think he's my soul mate.
04/08/2011