Okay so when I say read your mind - don't you just wish there were times that they'd understand what you're upset about, know why you're feeling down or whatever so that you didn't have to spell it out each time?
Do you ever wish your SO/partner/husband/wif e/woo-woo buddy could read your mind?
For the most of the time W/we are totally GMTA, but when it comes to sentimental things yes, I sometimes wish He knew totally accurately what is being in my mind - but I write Him daily before going to bed, so it isn't such a big thing because He pretty damned well knows every single little thing about me... ^^
Feb 23, 5:28 am
Hee-hee. Master complained about women in his culture expecting this as a normal thing. I'm glad he doesn't ... openness like that on such a primal and raw level intimidates the hell out of me.
Although I sometimes wish I could figure out his - on top of coming from another culture he's also rather private, so it's difficult getting him to say anything about himself.
Although I sometimes wish I could figure out his - on top of coming from another culture he's also rather private, so it's difficult getting him to say anything about himself.
Feb 23, 10:37 am
I don't want him to read my mind. If I am "upset" it is my responsibility, if I want to share with him, to tell him WHY I am upset. He's human, how should he know why I'm upset? 20+ years of dealing with men on a day to day basis has taught me this.
I think this kind of thinking ("I'm upset and he should know why.") gets a LOT of women in trouble, as they expect their partners to have knowledge that no human could possibly have.
If you're upset, talk about it in as shortly and clearly and simply as possible. Expecting men to have ESP is only asking for irrational things from a relationship. That's not how most mens minds work. They concentrate on what is in front on them and see most things as problems to be solved. They aren't great at subtexual or overtly emotional thinking as a rule, so if you want him to KNOW something, you have to SAY something.
TALK. But, with a man, be to the point, do it in as few words as possible and let him know you don't expect him to fix it, you just need to share.
I think this kind of thinking ("I'm upset and he should know why.") gets a LOT of women in trouble, as they expect their partners to have knowledge that no human could possibly have.
If you're upset, talk about it in as shortly and clearly and simply as possible. Expecting men to have ESP is only asking for irrational things from a relationship. That's not how most mens minds work. They concentrate on what is in front on them and see most things as problems to be solved. They aren't great at subtexual or overtly emotional thinking as a rule, so if you want him to KNOW something, you have to SAY something.
TALK. But, with a man, be to the point, do it in as few words as possible and let him know you don't expect him to fix it, you just need to share.
Feb 27, 11:04 am
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We need a "THIS!" button. So totally and completely true, P'Gell.
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P'Gell
I don't want him to read my mind. If I am "upset" it is my responsibility, if I want to share with him, to tell him WHY I am upset. He's human, how should he know why I'm upset? 20+ years of dealing with men on a day to day basis has taught me this.
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I don't want him to read my mind. If I am "upset" it is my responsibility, if I want to share with him, to tell him WHY I am upset. He's human, how should he know why I'm upset? 20+ years of dealing with men on a day to day basis has taught me this.
I think this kind of thinking ("I'm upset and he should know why.") gets a LOT of women in trouble, as they expect their partners to have knowledge that no human could possibly have.
If you're upset, talk about it in as shortly and clearly and simply as possible. Expecting men to have ESP is only asking for irrational things from a relationship. That's not how most mens minds work. They concentrate on what is in front on them and see most things as problems to be solved. They aren't great at subtexual or overtly emotional thinking as a rule, so if you want him to KNOW something, you have to SAY something.
TALK. But, with a man, be to the point, do it in as few words as possible and let him know you don't expect him to fix it, you just need to share.
I think this kind of thinking ("I'm upset and he should know why.") gets a LOT of women in trouble, as they expect their partners to have knowledge that no human could possibly have.
If you're upset, talk about it in as shortly and clearly and simply as possible. Expecting men to have ESP is only asking for irrational things from a relationship. That's not how most mens minds work. They concentrate on what is in front on them and see most things as problems to be solved. They aren't great at subtexual or overtly emotional thinking as a rule, so if you want him to KNOW something, you have to SAY something.
TALK. But, with a man, be to the point, do it in as few words as possible and let him know you don't expect him to fix it, you just need to share.
Feb 27, 4:23 pm
There are many times I wish he understood why I was upset or why I was happy without me having to explain and still he doesn't get it so I don't think if he could read my mind it would make a difference--he'd be getting the samething as when I explain it to him, so he still wouldn't get it!! Then, there are times that the LAST thing I want is for him to know what I am thinking!!!!!
Feb 29, 12:45 am
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