Do you find your fights are productive.

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Do you find your fights are productive.

Zandrock Zandrock
Last night my SO and me had a fight. We both said some mean things, but it actually resulted in really good communication and today we had an amazing day. We hardly ever fight, so I found it not to be a bad thing. Do your fights ever end productively?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes
22  (71%)
No
8  (26%)
Unsure
1  (3%)
Total votes: 31
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11/24/2012
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sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
Yes, my partner and I have productive fights which lead to us opening up more about things.
11/24/2012
Leather & Lace Leather & Lace
Most of the time they are, unless I'm just venting.
11/24/2012
spineyogurt spineyogurt
nah useless bloody things
11/24/2012
Ivanna Ivanna
no, it usually just leads to me getting more angry because he will say something dumb lol
11/24/2012
Gracie Gracie
Sometimes a good argument gets the issues out there and clear the air, but other times it is the same old fight that has no solution. The only upside to those is the makeup sex.
11/24/2012
Lioncub Lioncub
We don't get to the point of fighting anymore.
11/24/2012
ginnyluvspotter ginnyluvspotter
most of the time yes but we dont fight too much
11/24/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
We don't fight much these days, but when we did they were bad. We both have terrible tempers and they got out of hand. Nothing was ever really accomplished with them other than both of us ending up pissed off. Now we don't really fight, but we talk or email when we have issues. Resolves a lot more than fighting ever did.
11/24/2012
apryls apryls
Quote:
Originally posted by Zandrock
Last night my SO and me had a fight. We both said some mean things, but it actually resulted in really good communication and today we had an amazing day. We hardly ever fight, so I found it not to be a bad thing. Do your fights ever end ...
yes, we rarley fight but it helps to clear the air
11/24/2012
RonLee RonLee
We met when we were both fifty, no longer kids. We have had disagreements but never fights. We both recognize that compromise is best for many differences of opinion. Where we disagree, we agree to disagree and let it go at that.
11/24/2012
SneakersAndPearls SneakersAndPearls
Uh...sort of. My husband and I don't usually fight in the traditional sense. We tend to get away from each other before it gets too heated (life lessons learned). We come back together later and the offending party apologizes, and we go about our business.
11/24/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
Yep, since we both tend to think it over after we fight and learn a different perspective on things
11/24/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
Yep, since we both tend to think it over after we fight and learn a different perspective on things
11/24/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
Yep, since we both tend to think it over after we fight and learn a different perspective on things
11/24/2012
nova2014 nova2014
Not really, because we get mad, talk about what we want instead, but then forget what we said the next day
12/04/2012
Martiniman Martiniman
Arguments, yes. Fights, no.
12/04/2012
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
After 23+ years we don't fight. We know what is expected and respect each others priorities. Fights are just a waste of energy and emotion.
12/05/2012
RonLee RonLee
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
After 23+ years we don't fight. We know what is expected and respect each others priorities. Fights are just a waste of energy and emotion.
Absolutely!
12/05/2012
spiced spiced
We argue sometimes. Conflict is pretty much inevitable in any relationship. The closer the relationship, the more likely conflict becomes. Sometimes it can be good to vent, as long as you both understand that's what's happening and you both listen to each others' point of view.
12/06/2012
MissCandyland MissCandyland
No, most of our fights are counter productive during the actual argument. We usually have to go and simmer down and talk about it another day and settle it.
12/08/2012
gloomybear gloomybear
recently yes but in our first year together they werent at all
12/08/2012
AmethystSmoke AmethystSmoke
Other - I didn't vote.

We've been together 19+ years and I can't recall ever having a fight. Strong disagreements, yes, but nothing I'd define as a fight - saying things we wish we could take back, things said for the sole purpose of hurting the other, etc.
12/08/2012
Cat E. Cat E.
No fight or argument I've ever had has been productive.
12/08/2012
Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
A great deal of the time, we make some sort of progress. I've been trying really hard not to fight in the first place, though.
12/08/2012
indiglo indiglo
We don't "fight" in that sense of the word. When we disagree about something, we just talk about it and figure out what to do. If there is a misunderstanding, or we disappoint the other person for some reason - again we talk about it and figure out what to do. For us actual fighting isn't really helpful - sometimes you say hurtful things in a fight you wish you could take back later, but you can't take those things back.

In a relationship, feelings are going to get hurt occasionally. It isn't the end of the world - especially when we remind each other we're sorry and certainly would never do it on purpose. Why fight over a mistake the other person is sorry for making?
12/09/2012
novanilla novanilla
I voted yes because sometimes they do, but most of the time they are ridiculous
12/09/2012
Total posts: 27
Unique posters: 24