I get it before, everytime! Lol. My partner was the first I ever really was comfortable with to do that & I'm glad! I'm lucky that he loves doing it so much! He's not into me giving it to him as much though. He usually is just too ready to actually do it that me giving him oral just prolongs it! Lol.
Always before. I'm open to in-between and after, but have never gotten around to it. I like a good clitoral orgasm before sex starts, and one is usually enough.