Do you have to ask someone to be your boyfriend/girlfriend, or is it just mutually understood

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Do you have to ask someone to be your boyfriend/girlfriend, or is it just mutually understood

vegan.guy vegan.guy
Once you've been with someone for some time, are you supposed to ask them if they'd like to be your boyfriend/girlfriend, or is it just supposed to happen on it's own?
02/05/2011
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Lucidity Lucidity
I think that having a conversation about being mutually exclusive is something that needs to happen and not just be assumed. I've never liked when someone has just assumed I'm their girlfriend instead of talking to me about what I want from a relationship.
02/05/2011
liilii080 liilii080
We had the exclusive discussion because I needed to know where we stood. I never assume because sometimes that backfires and I'd rather just be clear and communicate things up front. I think that's a good practice for a lot of things in life.
02/05/2011
Coralbell Coralbell
I also think there needs to be some sort of conversation. Once a guy just assumed I was his girlfriend when I didn't want to be, which obviously lead to some problems.
02/05/2011
vegan.guy vegan.guy
Quote:
Originally posted by Coralbell
I also think there needs to be some sort of conversation. Once a guy just assumed I was his girlfriend when I didn't want to be, which obviously lead to some problems.
Yeah, I'm sure that could be pretty akward. My girlfriend told me that she went on one date with a guy a few years ago, and by the end of the date he was introducing her to people as his girlfriend . . . pretty strange lol.
02/05/2011
BadgersRose BadgersRose
I think there should be a conversation that lays things out so you are both clear on where you both stand. That way nothing can be confused and no feelings hurt by you both not being on the same page.

Sure it might feel like you should be able to just assume some things that are "obvious" to you... but it doesn't hurt to be sure to avoid some possible heartache.
03/31/2011
Curves Curves
talk it out. see how they feel. you both should be clear and on the same page.
04/03/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
I need conformation so I know exactly where I stand with the person.
04/03/2011
PersonalAngel PersonalAngel
NEVER assume! One of the party could be playing games or have no real intention of being with the other.
04/03/2011
froggiemoma froggiemoma
always talk about it make sure your both on the same page
04/05/2011
GravyCakes GravyCakes
Quote:
Originally posted by vegan.guy
Once you've been with someone for some time, are you supposed to ask them if they'd like to be your boyfriend/girlfriend, or is it just supposed to happen on it's own?
i've found that assuming things is always a bad idea.
05/06/2011
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