do you remain friends with your ex after break up?

Kcito Kcito
just curious.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
yes
Kcito , iceman681 , nolongerhere , butterflykisses , Lady Venus , Yiggi , G-Lo , ~LaUr3n~ , joja , Sbear89 , Eliza , Lummox , RubenesqueAna , sbon , kittychilla , erif957 , ninaspinkturtle , bobowaxer , Taylor , GravyCakes , babypinecone , Nando
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no
Kcito , Shellz31 , PrettyPurple , Airen Wolf , DeliciousSurprise , mllebeauty , Envy , Bunnycups , null , LavenderSkies , darthkitt3n , Airekah , Danielle915 , lamira , LikeSunshineDust , Harlequin , leatherlover , Lummox , Darling Jen , sbon , VenusianThunder , bunny love , Sohotdinosaur , Legigi , Spring , cec578 , DixieDoo , beautiful , Stephanie Marie , GravyCakes , Rossie , MamaBear , Virgulino , potstickers
34
depends who dumps whom
Xavier7 , sexygoddess , MrRainybowbow , cobiffle , kinksters , ginainohio
6
Total votes: 62 (58 voters)
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09/23/2010
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Kcito Kcito
please share ur input
09/23/2010
Midway through Midway through
I think it depends on the breakup situation. I've had exs that were mutual breakups, or that were kind of 'this is for the better of us both' that we remained friends. I've also had screaming matches who I never spoke to again and avoided like the plague. So I would say it's less on who dumps who and more on how the relationship was overall.
09/23/2010
Waterfall Waterfall
It depends on the situation for me as well. Why we broke up, if both parties are being mature about the break up, and other things factor into my decisions to stay friends with someone after we break up.
09/23/2010
iceman681 iceman681
not only am i still friends with my ex's, my wife is friends with them. my sons mom came to our wedding mostly for him, but still partied. the funniest thing was when i was lots younger and i was picking up a g/f from work. she walks out with to fellow employees that she was good friends with, both ex's. all unaware they had something in common. no i didn't just date girls from there just weird luck.
09/24/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Kcito
just curious.
I actually don't have any ex's...both guys I have ever been in an acknowledged relationship with are still with me.
09/24/2010
Jul!a Jul!a
I'm pseudo friends with one, kind of. My fiance is the only ex I ever really stayed friends with.
09/24/2010
mllebeauty mllebeauty
I've always admired people who can stay friends with their ex's. It has rarely worked for me. Seems it's always been too hard for one or both of us. I have 2 friends I dated beforehand, but we dated very briefly and it took a long time to become friends afterward. As others have said, it really depends.
09/24/2010
Naughty Student Naughty Student
It depends on the break up situation.

In the few breaks I have had I had never stayed freinds with any of them except for recently I have been in touch with an ex. We aren't friends but we don't ignore each other. Our breakup was smooth and mutual so I guess thats why it is ok between us now.
10/17/2010
Naughty Student Naughty Student
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Originally posted by mllebeauty
I've always admired people who can stay friends with their ex's. It has rarely worked for me. Seems it's always been too hard for one or both of us. I have 2 friends I dated beforehand, but we dated very briefly and it took a long time to ... More
My mom would stay friends with her ex's but she would use them as anchors or as safety vests. When ever she would go through a rough time or a break up she'd call some of her ex's to talk to thewm about it then go hook up with them and have sex :S.
10/17/2010
Lady Venus Lady Venus
It all depends on the break up situation. I do try to remain as friends, but sometimes it just doesn't go over so well. Like them getting jealous when a new relationship arises sort of thing. I am friends with some of my ex's and some I am not.
10/17/2010
butterflykisses butterflykisses
One of my best friends is my ex. We talk regularly, and my fiancee has become friends. We all go out occasionally.
10/17/2010
Envy Envy
Nope. I don't see why I would want to since things would have to be bad for me to break up with them.
10/17/2010
G-Lo G-Lo
Most of the times I'll remain friends with them after we break up. I mean of course there is a short time period after the break up where you are saulty towards the other but that goes away and often times they can be one of the better friends you have.
10/18/2010
Bunnycups Bunnycups
I think it is best for both parties to move on with their lives.
10/18/2010
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with it.
10/18/2010
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by Kcito
just curious.
All of mine seem to end badly..so no LOL
12/06/2010
Airekah Airekah
I don't think it is super wrong to be friends with an ex, as long as that is all you are. I have learned that most of the time, it never works out right in the end. I am now friends with one of my ex's from 2002, but we aren't close and we only talk occasionally. I tried being friends with my last ex, at his request and he blew me off, even though I was trying... so... it rarely works for me, but I could see where it may for some people.
12/06/2010
Danielle915 Danielle915
Nope not me, no friends that are exes here. I just feel that there is nothing to talk about at all...if you can';t talk, then you can't be friends...may sound a bit juvenile. but its just the way I feel.
12/06/2010
Sbear89 Sbear89
I am still friends with one of my exes. We were great friends before we were anything else; and we both knew that we wanted to be able to maintain that. but other then him... Nope...
12/06/2010
lamira lamira
No, I never have. I think it's too strange.
12/06/2010
Eliza Eliza
I usually try. I liked them for a reason, and unless they did something that changed my opinion of them as a person, I'd usually like to be friends.
12/06/2010
Rckt56 Rckt56
Maybe later, but I have always found that after a breakup, there's always a battle on who is going to stay attached to whom. Finally after enough jealousy and right and left, someone else gets in another relationship and the other person is left in the dust. Overall, I say not a good idea to stay friends for the sanity of both sides.
12/07/2010
Xavier7 Xavier7
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Originally posted by Kcito
just curious.
It really depends, but I like to.
12/13/2010
sbon sbon
I voted both yes and no because I still talk to some exes and not others. We're definitely not as close as we used to be, but we're friendly. I guess my answer is that it depends, but it doesn't matter who dumps whom. It depends more on various circumstances.
12/23/2010
kittychilla kittychilla
depends on the situation and how the breakup came to be, ect.

my ex and i are still friends. but there were no hard feelings, and we don't intend on getting back together. but we still have similar interests and we'll talk whenever we see each other.
01/12/2011
erif957 erif957
I personally like to stay friends with them. Even with the harsh break ups there is always a way to work it out as long as both of you are willing to try. I mean you probably started off friends first right? And he or she probably meant alot to you, so why end that because of a stupid fight. If you can't date at least try friendship... if not right away eventually
01/14/2011
VenusianThunder VenusianThunder
I have tried and it never seems to work out. I always end up trying to avoid them in the end even if we agree to attempt to be friends. So, I have decided that it isn't worth it. Usually just makes matters worse.
01/16/2011
ninaspinkturtle ninaspinkturtle
Quote:
Originally posted by Kcito
just curious.
usually it depends but for the most part yes
01/18/2011
bobowaxer bobowaxer
I usually do, sometimes however, it's just not in the cards.
03/13/2011
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