Does everyone cheat?

Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
Related to: High Infidelity: What Cheating Is (and Maybe Isn't)

Statistics seem to say yes, at least once, at least at some point in their lives.

What do you think? Does everyone cheat?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
yes
39  (10%)
no
342  (90%)
Total votes: 381
Poll is closed
09/01/2009
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spicywife spicywife
I don't really like to see something like this grouped in such away. Everyone is different so it's not possible to say that "everyone" will do the same thing.
09/01/2009
spicywife spicywife
Quote:
Originally posted by spicywife
I don't really like to see something like this grouped in such away. Everyone is different so it's not possible to say that "everyone" will do the same thing.
Generalized is the right word that I was searching for.
09/01/2009
Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
Then your answer is "no, everyone doesn't cheat."

Of course everyone is different.

But we all do some things. Eat. Drink. Breathe.

I want to know how many people also think everyone, at some point in their lives, cheats.
09/01/2009
spicywife spicywife
Quote:
Originally posted by Carrie Ann
Then your answer is "no, everyone doesn't cheat."

Of course everyone is different.

But we all do some things. Eat. Drink. Breathe.

I want to know how many people also think everyone, at some point in their lives, cheats.
...Okay
I was just pointing out that I think it's something that can't be generalized. That's just my opinion. I did vote in the poll but I wanted to put that out there too.. just to discuss... Sorry....
09/01/2009
Tuesday Tuesday
I guarantee you my mother doesn't.
09/01/2009
J's Alley J's Alley
I don't think everyone one cheats...in this sense. I believe everyone is tempted. I believe everyone cheats at something during their lifetime, but it may not be a relationship. It may also depend on your view of cheating. Some people say penetration is cheating, some say kissing, and I know a couple who believe any type of relationship outside their marriage is cheating (a bit extreme, but whatever). A very opinionated question though.
09/01/2009
Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
Heh. I guess the article sparked the glass half empty in me.
09/01/2009
NuMe NuMe
I don't think everyone does. But I do think the majority do.
09/01/2009
Juliettia Juliettia
I don't think everyone cheats.
09/02/2009
SilverVixen SilverVixen
I think when people reach a certain point in their lives (or relationships), their views on cheating change. When I was younger (teens) I swore I would NEVER ever cheat, my father cheated on my mother and left us both behind for his mistress, I vowed never to follow the same path...

When I reached my late teens, obviously a time for experimenting, yes, I cheated. Now, in a committed long term relationship, to say I never have, or never will cheat is something I could never do. Sometimes people get angry, sometimes relationships take unusual turns, sometimes people seperate, sometimes they grow apart. The ways in which people deal with things are unique and personal, there's no way to know exactly what you'll do until the situation presents itself to you.

Too say you'll never cheat? That's a tough one to swear by. You can have the very best of intentions, but what if your partner stops communicating with you, becomes distant, or leaves you feeling undesirable or unattractive...

Does accepting a sincere, passionate advance from a trusted friend enabling you to rebuild your confidence in yourself and your abilities as a lover make you a horrible person? And what about chemistry? What if that's kicks in?

I don't know, I'm deeply undecided on the issue of cheating. I'd like to go in saying "no", but I think I'm to much of a realist to commit to that answer.

Awesome post Carrie Ann!
09/02/2009
Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
Not necessarily. And not everyone cheats on every relationship which is important, too.
09/02/2009
Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
Quote:
Originally posted by J's Alley
I don't think everyone one cheats...in this sense. I believe everyone is tempted. I believe everyone cheats at something during their lifetime, but it may not be a relationship. It may also depend on your view of cheating. Some people say ... More
This is pretty much the same as I was thinking. In a relationship, no not everyone cheats if you take into consideration the definition of "cheating" that both partners have established. For example, both Alan & I are incurable flirts, and we often flirt with other people. Dirty dancing with others is also within our mutually agreed apon acceptable boundaries.
But we have a friend who says the dancing is "as good as" cheating on each other.
09/02/2009
Liz2 Liz2
I don't believe everyone cheats but as A&M pointed out, depends on your definition of cheating. I know women who will pounce if they even see their guy looking at another woman.
Cheating involves dishonesty and being a sneak...my b/f is aware of my physical relationship with my g/f (he has joined us at times) but we are all aware of our boundaries and respect them. He knows that he is the man in my life and enjoys the attention I get at clubs.
09/02/2009
Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
I think it might be more accurate to say that everyone who has ever been in a relationship has had doubts and unwelcome desires. I've had doubts myself in my relationship, but instead of stewing over them and doing things that would fall in the "cheating" category, I talk to my boyfriend about them and we try to resolve the problems. The way I see it, honest communication is the best way to avoid cheating.
09/02/2009
Darling Dove Darling Dove
I have cheated despite being determined not to. At the moment my SO is very very distant and we cannot physically meet. I do not need sex, but I do need physical contact- and with my other partner, we do usually lead into sexual things from that. However, it is decided that once my SO and I ARE able to be close it stops- we're so distant and restricted in fact, that to this day my 'partner' remains the only man I have ever had sexual contact with. My SO and I never have a moment alone, we barely get to kiss and cuddle.

All the same it is still cheating and I am still 'wrong', I know. I cant say if everyone cheats or not... but I think a lot of people who had would justify it to themselves to make it not cheating and then deny having done it.. since it is such a societal taboo for some women that to admit it would be to admit something worse than murder in some womens' eyes.

Notice I am saying some and not all.
09/03/2009
Naughty Student Naughty Student
I think that "most" people will cheat at least once in their life and the cheating can be interepreted through different means. For some cheating can be kissing, oral sex or sexual intercourse exclusively. Thats how I see it but I don't think EVERYONE will cheat.
09/08/2009
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Just because someone else - or most someones do something doesn't justify it.

Stop the relativistic BS and own up to your wants and needs. What happened to honesty?
10/20/2009
Owl Identified Owl Identified
I don't think everyone cheats because in some relationships (including my own) there really is no such thing as cheating. I love my partner, as he loves me, and we both want the other to experience all of the things we desire to so long as it doesn't impede on our individual rights to safety and dignity. In other words, he can have sex with who he wants as can I, so long as we are forthright about it, have safe sex and get tested regularly as needed.

As for the rest of you monogamy types, c'mon, y'all can't ALL be the same, right?
10/21/2009
JEM JEM
I think "cheating" can have so many different definitions. Means something different to different people. In my eyes cheating is sneaking around, and seeing/sleeping with someone else. To others it could have a totally different definition. As for does everyone cheat. I voted no using my own personal experience as a reference. I have never once cheated. Have I been cheated on? You bet I have. But for the question "Does everyone cheat?" No, They don't. Some people just have stronger morals/ethics than that.
10/21/2009
♥ Amanda ♥ ♥ Amanda ♥
Quote:
Originally posted by Carrie Ann
Related to: High Infidelity: What Cheating Is (and Maybe Isn't)

Statistics seem to say yes, at least once, at least at some point in their lives.

What do you think? Does everyone cheat? ... More
Whether it was an elementary love that you broke the heart of by kissing their best friend, your high school infatuation that you switched up on, or your relationships in your adult life that you went sideways on... Absotutely!!!! I think every one at some point or another has cheated. Now you may not view that way because you think "Oh I was only 10!" But the fact is we all do the same thing... We look for the better in every situation, and finding that partner that keeps you content can be very hard to do. So I think YES we all do. Whether it is harmless or not. None of us are saints. We just were not built that way. I am very surprised the poll looks as it does. C'mon peoples... just admit. Remember it is private. No one will ever know! LMAO!
10/30/2009
DONOTSHOPHERETHEOWNERISPSYCHO DONOTSHOPHERETHEOWNERISPSYCHO
"Cheating involves dishonesty and being a sneak"

This x100.

Relationship boundaries are unique for every couple, so while there is no concrete definition for what qualifies as cheating, that statement basically sums it up. Anything you're dishonest or sneaky about, that inevitably winds up hurting your partner, is cheating. It doesn't matter if it's sex, kissing, dancing, flirting or a full on affair. If you care enough to be partnered up with someone then it is your responsibility to be honest with them about your boundaries and respect theirs.
10/30/2009
MonaFry MonaFry
I have never cheated...I just don't think I have it in me.
11/02/2009
Heather Heather
Never break the trust. Cheating is breaking the trust. Like Monafly, I don't have it in me. Cheating has nothing to do with sex. It is ALL about trust. Sarahbear is 100% correct.
11/06/2009
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Heather
Never break the trust. Cheating is breaking the trust. Like Monafly, I don't have it in me. Cheating has nothing to do with sex. It is ALL about trust. Sarahbear is 100% correct.
No way to say it better than that! Thanks!
11/08/2009
Raven Raven
Quote:
Originally posted by Heather
Never break the trust. Cheating is breaking the trust. Like Monafly, I don't have it in me. Cheating has nothing to do with sex. It is ALL about trust. Sarahbear is 100% correct.
I also agree that your statement says it all. And I happen to know for a fact that not all people cheat. I could never betray my sweet mate.
01/02/2010
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
No, but it depends on your definition of cheating.
03/06/2010
Sir Sir
I do not think that everyone cheats. Perhaps most do, but not everyone.
03/09/2010
Jul!a Jul!a
I think that in the case of swinging or something similar to that, where both partners are involved in some way and are open and honest about it, that it isn't cheating.

I don't think everybody cheats in relationships, but everybody cheats at something at some point.

I was listening to the radio the other day and they were actually talking about cheating, and people had justifications for why they were doing it, and it just riled me up so badly to listen to this. These were people who had been married a while now, and quite frankly, if you make a promise to be faithful to somebody for the rest of your life (or any real length of time) then you should own up and keep your promise. I don't care how many hours a week your partner works, if the relationship isn't working for you anymore then you need to own up and admit that and move on because in the long run I think it'll work out better for you that way. A few college students called in with the good old "I was drunk" excuse and that one bugs me for a few reasons, the biggest being if you're 23 and you've been drinking for how many years now, you know how alcohol will affect you, and if you can't keep it to yourself when you've been drinking, then you need to save drinking for when you're with your partner.

Sorry for the rant, and my sincerest apologies if I've offended anybody
03/09/2010
Sir Sir
Quote:
Originally posted by Jul!a
I think that in the case of swinging or something similar to that, where both partners are involved in some way and are open and honest about it, that it isn't cheating.

I don't think everybody cheats in relationships, but everybody ... More
The rant's quite alright.

My favorite, however, is when people who cheat repeatedly tell the person who they cheated on that they're "not cheaters."
03/09/2010
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