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Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Sir
The rant's quite alright.

My favorite, however, is when people who cheat repeatedly tell the person who they cheated on that they're "not cheaters."
I think my favorite was my friend's boyfriend telling her that he didn't trust her because she was telling him the same things that he would tell her when he was cheating on her. She actually was out with like, 6 of us girls. We went to Denny's and then she was gonna spend the night at my house, lol
03/09/2010
Contributor: Sir Sir
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Originally posted by Jul!a
I think my favorite was my friend's boyfriend telling her that he didn't trust her because she was telling him the same things that he would tell her when he was cheating on her. She actually was out with like, 6 of us girls. We went to ... more
That's quite funny.

Little girl's told me that she does not trust me, when I've never done anything behind her back. I've sometimes told her when I was going out with my family last minute, but it was family who I was with, not friends. She expected me to trust her, when she lied for eight months straight about where she was and who she was with.

I do not understand people sometimes. So funny.
03/09/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Sir
That's quite funny.

Little girl's told me that she does not trust me, when I've never done anything behind her back. I've sometimes told her when I was going out with my family last minute, but it was family who I was with, ... more
I can definitely agree with your statement about not understanding people sometimes. I cannot tell you how many times I say that statement a day.
03/09/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Jul!a
I think that in the case of swinging or something similar to that, where both partners are involved in some way and are open and honest about it, that it isn't cheating.

I don't think everybody cheats in relationships, but everybody ... more
Jul!a - I'm with you 100%! No excuses please - keep your commitments!
03/09/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
While it would seem by the polls and such that everyone cheats I think it's more accurate to say everyone has the potential to cheat. I can say that not everyone does though simply by looking at my Grandparent's marriage and my Parent's marriage neither couple ever cheated on their partners. Still the potential was there even they will admit that...they simply chose not too.

Now before we opened our marriage to all possibilities Sigel did indeed cheat...often. I cheated emotionally though never physically and he was the exact opposite. Since admitting that we liked having the freedom to experiment and enjoy others we have realized that true cheating begins in deception.
03/10/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Sir
That's quite funny.

Little girl's told me that she does not trust me, when I've never done anything behind her back. I've sometimes told her when I was going out with my family last minute, but it was family who I was with, ... more
The thing is Sir she doesn't trust you BECAUSE she, herself, was untrustworthy. Sigel and I had the same problem. I was NEVER unfaithful physically and he SHOULD have known that but when he was told by a jackass that I was sleeping with him every time Sigel left the room, Sigel actually BELIEVED him over me! Why? Because he was doing the exact same thing to me at the time and he figured it was turn about being fair play since he assumed I KNEW he was being unfaithful. The old adage is very true: What tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive. (I may have taken poetic license with that one...)

Just continue to be true to yourself and it will work out how it's supposed to. It sure did for us!
03/10/2010
Contributor: Sir Sir
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
The thing is Sir she doesn't trust you BECAUSE she, herself, was untrustworthy. Sigel and I had the same problem. I was NEVER unfaithful physically and he SHOULD have known that but when he was told by a jackass that I was sleeping with him every ... more
Yes, I understand what you mean. She assumed that I was going to do what she was doing and was worried that she was not the only one being unfaithful, when she was. And I've believed people over her, but that's because I was not able to believe a word she said. I figured, "Which is worse? Believing a stranger, or believing a person that I thought that I could trust but who lied to me for years?" I've never been unfaithful in any sense. She's the only person who I'm really able to speak to as anything more than an acquaintance. I'm hoping that this changes for me soon and that I get over it.

It's good that it worked out for you. I know that you're in a polyamorous relationship, and I've actually discussed opening up our relationship because of the distance, but she's denied it (simply because she wants to be able to be with other people but does not want for me to). It's a shame, but it did not work out for us. We have not been with each other for a week now (not long whatsoever, but to me it feels like too much), and, not surprisingly, she's already with someone else. I suppose that, in a sense, it did work out how it's "supposed" to.
03/10/2010
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
I almost did, but my husband was tuned into me looking for sex outside our celibate marriage and stopped me. I wish HE would have cheated, so at least I would know that he HAD a libido - he never did, he was too bone idle.

With my own situation, it had many complicated layers, but it really came down to just being married to the wrong person. I've always firmly believed in being faithful (after ten years in a celibate marriage, I don't know what else would qualify as faithful), but when one of my college classmates came on to me that one time, I was desperate for sexual attention. I should have divorced (sex was just one of many reasons) and gone on with my life, but I was trapped in believing I had no choice and had to stay with him. Thankfully, I came to my senses and booted him out.

If you have the libido and the spouse doesn't, it has a 98% chance of happening. (He still had the nerve to be surprised, despite being on the look out for it. What a martyr complex.) So, this may be coming from the opposite end of the spectrum - instead of being a 'cheater' personality, it was desperation for something that others seemingly had regular access to. Took me years to get over guilt that I was not responsible for.

Does it sound as bitter as I felt while typing it?
03/10/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Chilipepper
I almost did, but my husband was tuned into me looking for sex outside our celibate marriage and stopped me. I wish HE would have cheated, so at least I would know that he HAD a libido - he never did, he was too bone idle.

With my own ... more
Given the guilt you got for things out of your control and how long it lasted, I think you've got every right to be a bit bitter about the whole thing. I know I probably would be.
03/11/2010
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
Cheating, for me, is about the dishonesty. Having sex with another person isn't that big a crime because I don't see sex as sacred, I see my relationship as sacred. So if you lie... it doesn't matter about what. The lie is the betrayal.
03/16/2010
Contributor: ScotchIrish ScotchIrish
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Originally posted by Carrie Ann
Related to: High Infidelity: What Cheating Is (and Maybe Isn't)

Statistics seem to say yes, at least once, at least at some point in their lives.

What do you think? Does everyone cheat? ... more
Being honest and faithful to boy/girlfriends/lovers /roommates ..ect (I consider Cheating as Married/Intercourse)ou tside of your spouse. Twenty years. I have only been with two women (I am straight I wanted more but, it just never happened)The first when I was in HS and then my to soon to be ex wife.
The big D is coming. I now consider myself single. I will be with more women and I do not need separation papers to prove the marriage is OVER. But, we do know where we stand. I never cheated. If you don't have your word. You have nothing and you deserve to loose everything. However, every situation is different and a million opinions exists in this the year of; and the demise and denials of the TIGER. He had everything. If the marriage was bad. Take care of the kids, be adults and move on. Don't be a stupid ass. If you do something wrong, in this World of Communication, CSI and the like: you will be found out, you will be caught. And no one, no one is above or better than anyone else. Simple morals and lifestyle will give you greater success, maybe not the celebrity. Except maybe that among those that matter and truly love you. All the Best.
04/24/2010
Contributor: GNGenie GNGenie
Quote:
Originally posted by Carrie Ann
Related to: High Infidelity: What Cheating Is (and Maybe Isn't)

Statistics seem to say yes, at least once, at least at some point in their lives.

What do you think? Does everyone cheat? ... more
Broadly speaking, I think everyone does something at some point in their lives that their partner(s?) would consider cheating. I doubt everyone cheats by intercourse, but in other ways, yes definitely.
04/25/2010
Contributor: kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
Quote:
Originally posted by Carrie Ann
Related to: High Infidelity: What Cheating Is (and Maybe Isn't)

Statistics seem to say yes, at least once, at least at some point in their lives.

What do you think? Does everyone cheat? ... more
well I've never cheated and I've only slept with 1 person but I can't say I'm not curious or that there aren't people i've seen I didn't want to fuck. I hope I never lose myself and get to the point i'm cheating that just sounds wrong and sad.
07/01/2010
Contributor: PassionQT PassionQT
My partner and I don't need to cheat, nor would we. We have an open relationship. Granted, neither of us really has the time to get out anyhow, but the option is there. We just have to tell the other.
07/01/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by GNGenie
Broadly speaking, I think everyone does something at some point in their lives that their partner(s?) would consider cheating. I doubt everyone cheats by intercourse, but in other ways, yes definitely.
This sounds like the Bill Clinton defense, "I did not have sex with that woman." Suggesting that a BJ is not sex - no one buys that defense.

I'm curious - what 'other ways' are you suggesting cause us all to cheat?
07/01/2010
Contributor: Blinker Blinker
There was a really good episode of House that dealt with a sick woman in an open marriage. House are his team were fascinated of course, but there was still deceit in the marriage no matter how open it was. The wife was fucking whomever she wanted, while the husband couldn't. He said he loved her too much and didn't want to stifle her desires. I remember the wife being really, rreeaallyy upset that her husband was NOT fucking other women.

I kind of wanted to slap the bitch.

Anyhoo, I've been cheated on several times. So has my current boyfriend. I don't like thinking about whether or not people cheat when women like Jennifer Aniston and Halle Berry can't even keep their men somewhat tamed...

...now I'm sad and lost my train of thought
07/10/2010
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
I think everyone is capable of cheating, but I don't think that everyone cheats.
My husband has never cheated on anyone in his life. I have cheated on many boyfriends when I was a teenager. Usually I cheated when I was done with the relationship instead of just breaking up with the guy because I was young and stupid and I didn't know what I wanted. I never cared about any of them enough I guess. It's one of the reasons that I think teens get in relationships way too young, I don't think at that age we're really made for monogomy, in fact I think I read an article that said the same thing, that as teens we're naturally polyamorous or something.

I don't consider myself a "cheater" though, even though I cheated on almost every boyfriend I had when I was a teenager. That was over 10 years ago, I have never cheated in an adult relationship and I never would even think of cheating on my husband. Even though my ex thought sure I cheated on him (even though i never did), since I had cheated on ex's, I don't have that issue with my husband. He's never questioned my loyalty and he understands that it's not "once a cheater, always a cheater" because there's just too many variables in relationships to say it like that.

Anyway, that being said I think that everyone DOES have the capability to cheat and I think that people should be aware without being accusing. I don't think my husband would ever cheat on me, I'm 99.99999% sure he would never, but if he ever started acting strange I wouldn't pull the wool over my eyes, I'd look into it and check it out without accusing him of doing something.
07/11/2010
Contributor: SydVicious SydVicious
I do not cheat, therefore I do not think that everyone cheats.
08/07/2010
Contributor: Midway through Midway through
Never have, never will. I don't think everyone cheats because statistically, since I don't, that flaws the conception of the idea that everyone does.
08/07/2010
Contributor: Bigtitts Bigtitts
Being the person who has been cheated on I know how it feels and it's not a great feeling...therefore b/c of that I would NEVER cheat on my husband and b/c I LOVE him too much to even think about it for a second!
09/15/2010
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
of course not everyone cheat...
09/15/2010
Contributor: butterflygirlxo butterflygirlxo
I think maybe 99% of the population do.
09/19/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by butterflygirlxo
I think maybe 99% of the population do.
That's absurd - 99% of the population does do anything. If the % is 50% I'd be surprised.
09/20/2010
Contributor: Madeira Madeira
I've never cheated and I don't intend to start. I'm in a sexually open relationship and I can't stand having to lie anyway.
09/20/2010
Contributor: K-smith K-smith
Quote:
Originally posted by Carrie Ann
Related to: High Infidelity: What Cheating Is (and Maybe Isn't)

Statistics seem to say yes, at least once, at least at some point in their lives.

What do you think? Does everyone cheat? ... more
My last long term relationship which lasted a a yr and a half, I never cheated on her, Tho I did fall in love with another woman that I had feelings for, I never did allow myself to indulge in the art of cheating because I knew that my spouse did not deserve me doing this to her. We broke up about 4 months later for different reasons.
10/13/2010
Contributor: JustWicked JustWicked
Cheating is in the rules of the couple. For me and hubby it is anything kept secret not told. Kind of broad, but yes I mean anything. We have dos and don't s, okay not okay. Cheating goes with trusting, but in making our rules we clarify what cheating is, and if we do a don't or not okay then we fess up with a no harm no foul; but if the other finds out we cheated and didn't fess up well...more than unpleasant. So we ask a lot of questions before we do if we are unsure.

How simple is that? Communicate, clarify, and acknowledge we all change through time.
10/13/2010
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
I don't think everyone cheats. But I think at some point in time, in some way or another (whether it's what they consider cheating or someone else's viewpoint), MOST people do.
10/13/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by Juliettia
I don't think everyone cheats.
Me neither, but I think it happens quite a bit.
10/20/2010
Contributor: Bunnycups Bunnycups
I don't think everyone cheats, but I do think guys are more likely to.
10/20/2010
Contributor: SexyTabby SexyTabby
Cheating is a trust and moral issue not really sexual. Without trust there is no relationship. Whatever kind of relationship people have doesn't really play into it. Open relationships still require communication and honesty.

Trust and honesty are paramount to bond. If you're lucky it'll lead to love. Everything else leads to drama and hatefulness. Not worth the suffrage I should think but I've never cheated either.
10/20/2010