Ever said "I love you" because someone else did first and did you mean it

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Ever said "I love you" because someone else did first and did you mean it

moonch1ld moonch1ld
Has your partner been the first one to say "I love you" and you replied the same and if so did you really mean it or started saying it just because they were? What went through your mind in that moment and did it feel less genuine saying it afterwards?
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Partner said I love you first and you replied but didn't mean it at the time
9
Partner said I love you first and you replied and did mean it at the time
21
Partner said it first and the relationship ended
1
Partner said it first and I didn't reply/did not say it back
16
Total votes: 47 (41 voters)
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12/26/2010
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misslady misslady
I know I'd never say 'I love you' to anyone first...I'm a fairly emotive person and it makes me vulnerable in case the other person doesn't feel the same way. So, I always wait for them and then after I know how they feel, it's easier for me to assess whether I do love them or can allow myself to love them.

Lately though I don't know what's been going on...I'm in a sort of undefined thing and he has said "I loooove you" or "but I wuv you" on a few separate occasions--and even though the situation has always been non-serious and he hasn't said "I love you" straight out, I'm starting to panic because I make every effort to not say anything even remotely similar. So each time he's said it, I've laughed it off and changed the subject -- and I'd only respond positively if he said it for real.
12/26/2010
Taylor Taylor
I have a major saying "I love you" phobia. There's been a couple of relationships where I've had major fights because I wasn't comfortable saying it at the time and one guy even broke up with me.
12/26/2010
Sir Sir
If a person says "I love you" and I do not feel that I love them, I will not say it to them. That's just as bad as lying.
12/26/2010
Chilipepper Chilipepper
I was always the first to say it. And I had no idea what it really meant, so I don't trust myself to know what's really going on. I've learned that fear (ex-husband) and gratitude (Mulder) are NOT love. Love itself ... don't know yet.
12/26/2010
KnK KnK
They said it first and I said yes back and didn't mean it. Granted it was awkward and I was trying to get out of the situation. I was also 17. I haven't said I love you to a partner since. I haven't been in a lot of long term relationships. They don't appear to work for me.
12/26/2010
RubenesqueAna RubenesqueAna
When I was younger, I know I said it back even though I didn't mean it. I'd never do that now.
12/26/2010
UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
No. I would never do that. That's actually pretty awful.
12/26/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by moonch1ld
Has your partner been the first one to say "I love you" and you replied the same and if so did you really mean it or started saying it just because they were? What went through your mind in that moment and did it feel less genuine saying it ...
I have to say none of the choices exactly fits. Sigel did say that he loved me first but it was YEARS before I knew that I was saying it back because it was true. I have major trust issues and it was much worse when I was younger.

Now with Arch the first time I told him I loved him I was in tears because I was terrified that he didn't feel the same and would crush me. He still thinks I am insane for believing that he would ever hurt me. I was the first to say the "L" word....No Sigel not lesbian....but he had been emoting it for weeks.
12/27/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
In past relationships if I didn't love someone, I wouldn't say that I did just to 'ditto' their feelings. However when I met my wife to be, the feelings were really mutual - so responding in kind was honest.
12/27/2010
The Awesome Penguin The Awesome Penguin
It was basically the same time for us, we both knew that we were in love
12/27/2010
Danielle1220 Danielle1220
I have and didnt mean it at all.
12/29/2010
Beaners Beaners
I was waiting for him to say it. I accidentally let it slip once and so did he, so we negated those. I knew I loved him, and he knew he loved me. He was just nervous I wasn't going to say it back. Saying the L word is not something he takes lightly.
12/29/2010
MrRainybowbow MrRainybowbow
My ex said it withen the first week. I just stared at him and went ok.
12/29/2010
ToxicHeart ToxicHeart
In my current relationship, I confessed my feelings first but he was the first to say I love you. If that makes any sense o_o
01/01/2011
leatherlover leatherlover
My wife said it to me accidentally after us being with her family all weekend. I didn't say it back at the time because it took me so off guard. But I did tell her the next weekend, and I did mean it. Our relationship progressed really quickly.
01/01/2011
TheHardOne TheHardOne
I have said it thinking it would get me a little more action. It didn't.
09/04/2011
Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
My boyfriend said it first. And when I said it back, I meant it. I had actually been hoping he would say it.
09/06/2011
ParisLove ParisLove
He said it first i said it back i was soooo happy he said it first because i wanted to tell him from a long time ago but i was scared i was moving too fast.
09/13/2011
JRabbits JRabbits
I don't say I love you to anyone over the age of 4. I say, "you too."
09/13/2011
JRabbits JRabbits
Oh and with my "you too" most of the time its just to fill the awkward silence and to avoid hurting someones feelings. Rarely do I mean it.
09/14/2011
Wildchild Wildchild
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Originally posted by moonch1ld
Has your partner been the first one to say "I love you" and you replied the same and if so did you really mean it or started saying it just because they were? What went through your mind in that moment and did it feel less genuine saying it ...
When I was younger, I know that I have said I love you and not meant it. As I have matured I tend to ignore it. Don't get me wrong I love my wife and would be lost without her. She told me she Loved me for 6+ months before I recipicated.
09/14/2011
indiglo indiglo
I take those 3 words extremely seriously. Yes, I have had partners say it to me first, and I did not say it back because I didn't feel it at the time. The positive to that is when I say it, my partner knows that I mean it. My man said it many times in the beginning of our relationship without ever hearing me say it back. He says now it puzzled him at the time, but did not deter him. Now, of course, I say it all the time and mean it. He had to earn it though.
09/14/2011
Total posts: 23
Unique posters: 22