for the guys - do you get mad if one night someone you're dating says no to sex? private voting.

edeneve edeneve
for the guys - do you get mad if one night someone you're dating says no to sex? please comment on why or why you don't if you feel comfortable in doing so.
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01/05/2014
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Ansley Ansley
Unless there was a really good reason, when we were dating both myself and my husband would be more than slightly annoyed if either of us didn't "put out" that night. I should state that we are both highly, highly sexual beings and it was extremely important for us to communicate with each other in this particular way. If we said no, there was usually a deeper, darker reason for it. Even when we've had kidney infections, broken bones and/or been in more pain than we knew what to do with, we'd still give it up if the other was wanting.
01/06/2014
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Ansley
Unless there was a really good reason, when we were dating both myself and my husband would be more than slightly annoyed if either of us didn't "put out" that night. I should state that we are both highly, highly sexual beings and it ...
Oh my...and I thought I was a "highly sexual being", but lo and behold girl, when I had a kidney infection, not only was I not going to put out, but hubby would have never, ever thought to ask. He was too busy comforting my aching self. As for broken bones...depends where. I snapped my pelvis good during a Karate tournament many years ago, and sex (along with sitting, standing, walking, bending, sleeping) was not "on the table" for about four weeks. Again, he was, as a fellow martial artist, more in the mode of sharing my pain, then in wanting to add to it!!! We may have made up for that four weeks, in the following few months, but during that time, well, healing was the only order of business.
01/06/2014
edeneve edeneve
I guess I need to clarify the question a bit. just dating - no commitment.
01/07/2014
Lioncub Lioncub
I'm not a guy but I would say NO. If your relationship is only built on sex then it's not much of a relationship. There are things that come up and sometimes your body just isn't up for it.
01/07/2014
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by Bignuf
Oh my...and I thought I was a "highly sexual being", but lo and behold girl, when I had a kidney infection, not only was I not going to put out, but hubby would have never, ever thought to ask. He was too busy comforting my aching self. As ...
Ouch! The hip is essential to the act, I can see having to way the benefits in the situation -- waiting would have been the answer there for us too. I was so doped up on pain killers during the kidney episode that I think I would have mounted a pole -- narcotics like that make me so horny. But, it's almost impossible to orgasm while on them. I remember a lot of gentle touches and easing into it. The broken bones were his and he won't let anything get in the way if he's horny. Dude had pneumonia and he was still wanting to get down and dirty.
01/07/2014
edeneve edeneve
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Oh my...and I thought I was a "highly sexual being", but lo and behold girl, when I had a kidney infection, not only was I not going to put out, but hubby would have never, ever thought to ask. He was too busy comforting my aching self. As ...
ooohhh, a broken pelvis - I hurt just hearing that.
02/12/2014
werewolf werewolf
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Originally posted by edeneve
for the guys - do you get mad if one night someone you're dating says no to sex? please comment on why or why you don't if you feel comfortable in doing so.
Absolutely not - just because you're dating someone doesn't mean they're obligated to give you sex when they don't feel like it!
05/10/2014
edeneve edeneve
come on guys. let us all know.
05/25/2014
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by edeneve
come on guys. let us all know.
I am glad you revived this poll because I really would like to know their true thoughts on the matter for someone they date, but don't have a commitment with.

As for Ansley's stamina, I am amazed, though I am glad she explained a little more about it. I have had a kidney infection and could never have sex with one, though I never was given pain meds, but then again, I don't get horny on pain meds. That's an interesting reaction she has! I'd definitely fall asleep instead, LOL!
05/26/2014
Svenson Svenson
Not at all. It's not like they're obligated to have sex with me whenever I feel like it just because we're dating. If I really feel the need to get off and she isn't in the mood, I can just go jerk it in the bathroom. I managed to get by alone for a long time, so there's no reason I can't do that again sometimes. If it's happening more often than actually having sex, then I could see it being an issue - but that wasn't the way the question was worded.

And this is coming from someone with a very high sex drive. If your partner gets pissed over something like this, they're just being selfish
Mar 8, 2:42 pm
RonLee RonLee
And for some, being declined for an invitation to have sex with your partner is a preview of married life...
Mar 8, 3:40 pm
symbiasin symbiasin
Hmmm...seems like even dating in a non committed relationship calls for sex. Being a woman I see what does not go on behind closed doors, or so I've been told. They start living together, most likely for sex because he is terrified of marriage. Then at one point she decides no sex. Then to have his cake and eat it too, he hits on me. geez! Not kosher of him, he should work with what he has or move on.
Mar 9, 3:05 pm
Inquisitor Inquisitor
Wait, so this is in a non committed relationship? If this is the case, then no, I wouldn't be mad. I would be annoyed but that's about it unless it kept happening on a continual basis.

Here's why, why do all the stuff leading up to sex if there was no natural completion of the process? To be clear, I mean activities that include and not limited to dirty talk, making out, heavy petting, fondling, viewing the partner in her/his underwear, viewing him/her topless, bottomless, and other visually stimulating activities.

For me, that is just too much stimulation to be left not utilized. I would need a good reason why this was happening in order for me not to "move on."
Mar 9, 4:16 pm
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