how do you get over a breakup?

aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
luckily i am not going through one right now, but was wondering what some of your techniques are.

all input is appreciated!

Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
i busy myself to forget
28
i turn to alcohol/porn/lots of random hookups or other addictions
11
find a new partner fast
2
spend time restoring my individual self, strenghtening my independence, getting back to my roots
39
i write, journal, paint, make art, etc
19
get revenge
other (let us know what it is!)
12
Total votes: 111 (53 voters)
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07/28/2011
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Taylor Taylor
I have a bad habit of jumping into a new relationship right away before I've healed from the old one. I haven't had any single time in a LONG time
07/28/2011
lilmamma lilmamma
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Originally posted by Taylor
I have a bad habit of jumping into a new relationship right away before I've healed from the old one. I haven't had any single time in a LONG time
I was the same way.. I just didn't wanna be single cuz I couldn't stand missing that other half of me. I didn't find my wonderful man tho until I could be ok with just being me, and knowing that God was on my side and had hand picked someone out there for me sure helped me alot!
07/28/2011
bayosgirl bayosgirl
Had a total breakdown last time, hope it never happens again.
07/29/2011
Beck Beck
I spend time doing the things you can when single. You get to hang out with your girlfriends more and have random sex. All games are on enjoy it til the next one comes along. You will meet another person someday when you least expect it.
07/29/2011
Ansley Ansley
I never did get over our break-up and that's why we got back together!
07/29/2011
Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
My last break up I took and did everything but sleep, because I would only dream of her.
07/29/2011
Elnoa Elnoa
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Originally posted by Taylor
I have a bad habit of jumping into a new relationship right away before I've healed from the old one. I haven't had any single time in a LONG time
This seems to be what happens to me as well. I was a total serial dater since I was 16 until I met my (now) husband.
07/29/2011
SexyStuff SexyStuff
I go get my hair and nails done, make sure I hit the gym daily, and drop sugar from my diet. Works like a charm! Then when he comes sniffing back around I am confident enough to say "Not interested!"
07/29/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
Only time works for me.
07/31/2011
Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
Good friends, alcohol and wild sex.
07/31/2011
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
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Originally posted by Sex'и'Violence
Good friends, alcohol and wild sex.
NICE
07/31/2011
Pixel Pixel
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Originally posted by Sex'и'Violence
Good friends, alcohol and wild sex.
I find your thoughts intriguing and would like to subscribe to your newsletter.
07/31/2011
AmberM AmberM
Well. i usually get over breakups quickly, and rely on my cats to help me get over it. (:
08/01/2011
Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
I'm at the tail end of getting over a bad one still, and I just keep myself going 24/7. I work, go out with friends, go to the gym, etc. I don't leave myself with down time to mope or focus on it. I also go to therapy for bigger breakups just to figure out the best way to put the situation behind me and make sure I don't make the same mistakes next time.
08/01/2011
aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
I'm at the tail end of getting over a bad one still, and I just keep myself going 24/7. I work, go out with friends, go to the gym, etc. I don't leave myself with down time to mope or focus on it. I also go to therapy for bigger breakups ... More
sounds super healthy. keep at it tori!




08/02/2011
RonLee RonLee
Some, you just never do fully get over.
08/02/2011
Callisto Callisto
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
luckily i am not going through one right now, but was wondering what some of your techniques are.

all input is appreciated!

I cut or dye my hair
08/02/2011
guard083 guard083
I keep myself busy and try to find myself again and get back to old friends
08/08/2011
frisky069 frisky069
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
luckily i am not going through one right now, but was wondering what some of your techniques are.

all input is appreciated!

my last break up, i was in love, and was affraid, so i went to another guy, and ended up regretting it huge, and went to drinking like crazy to try and forget!! wish i wasn't afraid of love =/
08/21/2011
El-Jaro El-Jaro
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Originally posted by Sex'и'Violence
Good friends, alcohol and wild sex.
I would like a brochure or pamphlet as well.
09/06/2011
aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by AmberM
Well. i usually get over breakups quickly, and rely on my cats to help me get over it. (:
dude, i totally feel you.
02/20/2012
aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by bayosgirl
Had a total breakdown last time, hope it never happens again.
yikes, i'm so sorry. i hope it never happens again too. knowing that all things are impermanent can help through hard times. good or bad, nothing lasts.
02/20/2012
aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by frisky069
my last break up, i was in love, and was affraid, so i went to another guy, and ended up regretting it huge, and went to drinking like crazy to try and forget!! wish i wasn't afraid of love =/
i understand completely.

it appears i too am afraid.
02/20/2012
freda freda
Quote:
Originally posted by aliceinthehole
luckily i am not going through one right now, but was wondering what some of your techniques are.

all input is appreciated!

spend time restoring my individual sel
02/21/2012
ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by aliceinthehole
luckily i am not going through one right now, but was wondering what some of your techniques are.

all input is appreciated!

Basically I do everything except get revenge. lol.
06/01/2012
pasdechat pasdechat
The only thing that really helps is time, I think, so I just try to stay busy until the pain starts to fade...
06/01/2012
SadoMas SadoMas
just bounce back
06/11/2012
sexykiss sexykiss
i surround myself with friend and family
06/11/2012
britanny0620 britanny0620
I'd do a combination of a few of these things. Personally, I was only broken up with once, I usually break up with the person. Regardless of who-dumped-who, break-ups HURT. Getting over a breakup, I usually don't talk to that person or their friends for a while (even if we agree to just be friends, it takes me a little while (a few weeks tops) to get over seeing them as my partner/ex and start seeing them as a friend) to give myself and them time to calm down. I focus on myself, my life, any aspirations I had neglected during the relationship.

Currently, I'm in what was supposed to be a long-term-relationship with a man ten years older than I am, and we rushed into the relationship. I moved in, we got engaged, he was talking about adopting my son. I'm going to visit my mother (15+ hours away) for a month, and potentially moving to the area she's in, because I feel there are a lot of things I have to do in my life before I can settle down like this. I don't know if it's going to be a break-up yet or being put on hold or what, but if we do break up I'll be surrounding myself with all the things I need to get done in my life (potentially college, getting a license, getting some work experience, etc.)
06/11/2012
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