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Between preparing (buying toys, lingerie, shaving, working out, etc), and the actual act (physical grunt labor), how hard do you work?
A heck of a lot of work. We have toys, I have lingerie. I try to stay smooth and soft and above all, clean. I have special sheets and towels for when I have my period (neither of us could go a week without it.) I do some yoga, but it's not really for sex, although My Man wants me to be able to put my leg behind my head, I can't do that, and I don't see it happening.
The work involved IN sex? A lot! I not only have a High Orgasmic Threshold (which makes it more work to orgasm) but I like to put a lot of effort into giving him oral sex, resistance (I mean holding on to the sides of the bed etc, OK the other kind, too.
) squeezing when he's inside, throwing a leg over HIS shoulder. Sometimes I just lie there, while he does things to me (ahhhh) but, then I'm busy trying to get to that sometimes elusive first orgasm. We often have sex for hours, so, it's a lot of work. Worth every minute.
Sex, at least for us, is the glue that binds our relationship. It holds us together, along with a lot of other hard work. It's certainly more fun than working out issues with the kids, ourselves, our families etc.