How soon is too soon for toys?

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How soon is too soon for toys?

Dawn (Lilac Distraction) Dawn (Lilac Distraction)
My boyfriend and I have been together for a month. Our sex life is the most satisfying one I've ever had. I want to bring toys into the bedroom but I'm not sure if it might be too soon. We're very open and love experimenting but I feel like bringing things in too soon might make it harder to spice things up later.
05/16/2011
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Jul!a Jul!a
There's really no steadfast rule as far as when is the right time. You can bring it up in conversation and get your boyfriend's opinion on it and then go from there, or you can wait until you think the moment is right and pull something out. If you're going to surprise him with a toy, make sure that at the very least it can be used on both of you. I'd try to talk to him about it first
05/17/2011
~Brittany~ ~Brittany~
Whenever your comfortable enough
05/18/2011
Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
It's only too soon if you haven't discussed it at all yet.
05/18/2011
Zombie Ghost Zombie Ghost
From a guys perceptive, just bring it up and see what he says. Or just pull out a toy and let him use it on you. Unless you want to use toys for couples. But having a conversation about it can't hurt.
05/29/2011
indiglo indiglo
I agree. It would really depend on the relationship. I like the suggestion of bringing up toys in casual conversation to see how he reacts. If he reacts positively, talk about incorporating them. Or you could always "accidentally" leave something sitting out next time he comes over and see what he says.
05/29/2011
hornypoet69 hornypoet69
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Originally posted by indiglo
I agree. It would really depend on the relationship. I like the suggestion of bringing up toys in casual conversation to see how he reacts. If he reacts positively, talk about incorporating them. Or you could always "accidentally" leave ...
I like this idea. Toys don't have to be a band-aid for a boring sex life. If you wanna use toys, do so. Plenty of people start off doing things that others wouldn't even consider until things get boring.
05/29/2011
iveversxe iveversxe
There are always new sex toys. Spicing things up later shouldn't be a problem as long as you're open to trying new things. You could play a game where you put something off limits for x amount of time, like hands-free foreplay or going without vaginal intercourse for two weeks. If you watch porn or read erotic literature or talk with your friends about sex, you can get ideas from them. There's an entire world of BDSM and kinks that you can dip your toes in or dive right into. Ask him what he fantasizes about, what he wants to try. Use your imagination. Communicate and have fun.
06/08/2011
lovemuscle n cookie lovemuscle n cookie
As long as you've discussed the idea and both consent then its whenever both are comfortable.
06/28/2011
sktb0007 sktb0007
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Originally posted by Sex'и'Violence
It's only too soon if you haven't discussed it at all yet.
I agree with this
11/19/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by Jul!a
There's really no steadfast rule as far as when is the right time. You can bring it up in conversation and get your boyfriend's opinion on it and then go from there, or you can wait until you think the moment is right and pull something out. ...
Well said
12/04/2011
HannahPanda HannahPanda
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Originally posted by LavenderSkies
Well said
I agree, it really depends on his reaction to speaking about the possibility and possibly you could bring it up in passing or make a comment not directed at your own bedroom but a close friend's or a couple you know.
12/05/2011
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