If a guy from your past came back into your life would you give them a second chance

Secret Pleasure Secret Pleasure
So i was talking to this guy like two years ago we had a great connection we never met just talked but i really liked nhim then out of the blue he just blew me off and we didnt talk again until he contacted me today after 2 years. this is a guy i really did like but im scared of getting hurt again what would you do?
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give him a second chance people make mistakes
lilys , chantalgiardina , Adriana Ravenlust , Sammix3
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blow him off like he did to me
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24  (38%)
depends on the guy
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36  (56%)
Total votes: 64
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KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
Depends on the guy but highly unlikely, I feel you have one good shot with anyone and once that's gone it's over.
It's too complicated and messy to try and regain the same spark you initially have to be worth the effort just to get your heart broken again.
03/21/2012
Beck Beck
Seriously, I would act like we are going to have a date to meet somewhere and not show up! I would totally blow him off.

My sister did this to a guy. She was talking to him for awhile and then when she wanted him to come over in a safe environment, he blew her off. Then about a month later he started talking to her again, so when he asked if she wanted to meet at the bar he was at, she said yes. She played it off all the way to him outside calling her asking what car she is in. Then hour later he got the point. It was hilarious. He should of been willing to meet her in a setting that was comfortable for her, not just go to his place alone.
03/21/2012
indiglo indiglo
I am very happily coupled now, so would not be interested in meeting anyone - including anyone from my past.
03/21/2012
dragonn dragonn
I wouldn't make it a big deal -- Hype it up and it might be disappointing. I would take it a step at a time and not get carried away. Something similar happened to me -- guy blew me off and came back. I was responsive but not going out of my way to give him attention. He eventually kind of drifted away and disappeared again.

I try not to push too much for a connection. sometimes connecting with a person shouldn't be that messy.
03/22/2012
Kate D Kate D
If he blew you off for no reason, then I'd tell him that you were no longer interested in him.

Now, if he had reason to get away from you, like your being too needy then maybe he wants to see if you have matured.

So, if it as just him vanishing for no reason, no 2nd chance for him. Even if the sex is amazing, still no 2nd chance. If you went a bit psycho on him and he is coming back, then maybe.
03/22/2012
Gracie Gracie
I think 2 years is a long time, people grow. But I would be very cautious. I wouldn't let myself develop deep feelings unless A he has a good explanation for why he blew you off, and B you can see evidence that he has matured. Go SLOW!
03/22/2012
Chilipepper Chilipepper
If he's grown up, make him talk a lot before meeting, and make it clear nothing sexual is going to happen for a while. We'll see how interested he is once he realizes he has to EARN your trust again.

Myself, I wouldn't play games by pretending to meet or anything - I'd tell them to fuck off from the start. They don't deserve chance number two if they wasted chance number one, and I've usually developed in other directions since they left my life. (Not to mention I refuse to be 'the next best thing' if their Dream Partner didn't work out.)
04/16/2012
Bethy Cassatt Bethy Cassatt
Nope. Past is in the past for a reason.
04/18/2012
lilys lilys
Exactly how did he blow you off? Maybe something really bad happenend to a friend or family. Men always struggle with saying what's really going on in their life.
04/22/2012
ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
So i was talking to this guy like two years ago we had a great connection we never met just talked but i really liked nhim then out of the blue he just blew me off and we didnt talk again until he contacted me today after 2 years. this is a guy i ... More
I'm such a bad example for this. I've been on and off with the same guy for 4 years, and we both have partners now, but I still can't get myself to completely write him off.
04/26/2012
ViVix ViVix
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Originally posted by Beck
Seriously, I would act like we are going to have a date to meet somewhere and not show up! I would totally blow him off.

My sister did this to a guy. She was talking to him for awhile and then when she wanted him to come over in a safe ... More
I wish I would be more like that!
04/26/2012
ViVix ViVix
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Originally posted by Kate D
If he blew you off for no reason, then I'd tell him that you were no longer interested in him.

Now, if he had reason to get away from you, like your being too needy then maybe he wants to see if you have matured.

So, if it as just ... More
Perhaps he's the one that needed to mature.
04/26/2012
chantalgiardina chantalgiardina
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
So i was talking to this guy like two years ago we had a great connection we never met just talked but i really liked nhim then out of the blue he just blew me off and we didnt talk again until he contacted me today after 2 years. this is a guy i ... More
follow your heart.
04/26/2012
turquoise turquoise
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
So i was talking to this guy like two years ago we had a great connection we never met just talked but i really liked nhim then out of the blue he just blew me off and we didnt talk again until he contacted me today after 2 years. this is a guy i ... More
I think it depends on the guy and what happened to begin with. I'm currently trying to get over a guy who suddenly quit talking to me and I can't help but feel like I would give him a second chance, as long as he explained to me what happened in the first place. It would certainly depend on his answer, but most likely I would give him a second chance. If you think the guy is worth it then I say go for it, but be more guarded and cautious, at least at first.
05/10/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
I'd tread cautiously in your situation.
05/10/2012
CadmiumKitty CadmiumKitty
i wouldnt
05/21/2012
VioletMoonstone VioletMoonstone
Well the guy I'm thinking of pretty much abandoned me when I was totally in love with him and needed him. Never saw him again for 7 years and then found him again. People never change though and he blew me off again like I was nothing. If he came around again I'd "blow him" and then "blow him off." I'm pretty evil that way. I love him so much I hate him. I'd definitely have sex with him because I'm crazy about him in that way, but love? Nope. It's pretty messed up. I'm glad we don't see eachother. It would just be a wild emotional rollercoaster.
05/22/2012
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
So i was talking to this guy like two years ago we had a great connection we never met just talked but i really liked nhim then out of the blue he just blew me off and we didnt talk again until he contacted me today after 2 years. this is a guy i ... More
It depends on which guy, most likely no.
05/22/2012
silverdragonfly9 silverdragonfly9
No I've moved on from my past
05/23/2012
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
So i was talking to this guy like two years ago we had a great connection we never met just talked but i really liked nhim then out of the blue he just blew me off and we didnt talk again until he contacted me today after 2 years. this is a guy i ... More
It would depend on the guy. But I am in a relationship happily.
05/24/2012
lisasharrer lisasharrer
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
So i was talking to this guy like two years ago we had a great connection we never met just talked but i really liked nhim then out of the blue he just blew me off and we didnt talk again until he contacted me today after 2 years. this is a guy i ... More
i think i would if it was my ex ya
05/24/2012
kendra30752 kendra30752
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
So i was talking to this guy like two years ago we had a great connection we never met just talked but i really liked nhim then out of the blue he just blew me off and we didnt talk again until he contacted me today after 2 years. this is a guy i ... More
Sorry. My mom always taught me "screw me once, shame on you. Screw me twice, shame on ME!" I can't stop thinking about that when someone does me wrong. I've been dumb enough to take losers back before--hence the reason my mom needed to give me the "screw me once" speech. Lol. I have learned that lesson! If there ever was a reason to break up, then that alone is enough for me.
05/24/2012
solitudinarian solitudinarian
Eh, I probably wouldn't. I'm beginning to learn that people are in your past and not your present for a reason.
05/24/2012
spineyogurt spineyogurt
Nah
05/24/2012
shySEXXaddict shySEXXaddict
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
So i was talking to this guy like two years ago we had a great connection we never met just talked but i really liked nhim then out of the blue he just blew me off and we didnt talk again until he contacted me today after 2 years. this is a guy i ... More
forget that!!
05/24/2012
Envoutes Envoutes
If I weren't currently in a relationship, I'd probably take the chance.

Funny thing is though, this sort of happened to me a few months ago (still taken at this time) with my ex. But, because of who he is, never in a million years would I give him a shot again.

So I guess, it depends on the person and how willing I am to take someone's crap.
05/25/2012
lustylusty lustylusty
Depends on the guy.
05/25/2012
nova2014 nova2014
It depends on the guy but honestly, if it's taken him 2 years to reconnect then I'd feel like he was just bored or had no "prospects"
12/10/2012
SilverMinxxx SilverMinxxx
Depends on the guy and what he did.
12/10/2012
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