If your partner asked another person for nudes?

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If your partner asked another person for nudes?

MrRainybowbow MrRainybowbow
While my bf was in the shower i checked his history on google chrome looking for any porn he watched recently out of boredom. Insted i found something weird on his myyearbook (some lame site full of guys wanting laid and girls putting up half nude pics) I clicked it and looked at his sent box and saw that he asked this one girl if she'd send him nudes. I confronted him as son as he was out of the shower. He had nothing to say other then he did it out of boredom. I was pretty mad at him for the rest of the day but i've mostly forgiven him. If it was you what would you have done?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Forgiven depending on how bad it was.
Reyes , Rachel Nunez , kinksters , angel142stx , LennaKieran , SoloJoe , Lildrummrgurl7 , padmeamidala , kkizzee05
9  (16%)
Gotten even
Sex'и'Violence
1  (2%)
Left him/her!
kendra30752 , Daniel & Brittany , Sohotdinosaur , It's a Hooker! , uu , Mary-Anne-Xun , Kat Shanahan , Bignuf , sexxxkitten , AliMc , VeganChick (is Gone) , karenm , friendswithfangs
13  (22%)
other, explain
indiglo , ac0313 , LavenderSkies , sexygoddess , Airen Wolf , cherryredhead88 , PiratePrincess , Liz2 , froggiemoma , gone77 , cujo467 , daniel and frances , MaryExy , AOutrajus , tammyandy69 , Sir , Fuck it. , GravyCakes , SadoMas , GirlOnGirl , potstickers , Incendiaire , Wonderstruck , KrissyNovacaine , bunny love , closed account , Bethy Cassatt , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , Neotigress , Hallmar82 , Rokmai , chicmichiw , Melan!e , Beautiful-Disaster , twelve13
35  (60%)
Total votes: 58
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05/08/2011
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salaciousrex salaciousrex
If my boyfriend did this I'd be really upset. I don't think I would leave him for this, unless it wasn't his first time betraying our trust. My guy is really hard to talk to when he's confronted or angry, so I'd probably give it some time and find out why he's straying, and maybe breaking up would be best, but if he was sorry and wouldn't do it again (or at least would say he won't do it) I'd forgive him.
I forgive way too easily, so I'd do the same as you and be mad for awhile but then forgive him.

I hate it when people won't give a real reason. I mean, is boredom really a reason to break your trust?
I think that's kind of bull.
05/08/2011
MaryExy MaryExy
Quote:
Originally posted by salaciousrex
If my boyfriend did this I'd be really upset. I don't think I would leave him for this, unless it wasn't his first time betraying our trust. My guy is really hard to talk to when he's confronted or angry, so I'd probably give it ...
I agree with salaciousrex. I don't believe that boredom should be the reason behind such an action. I'd give him a little time to think about and then ask him further questions about it. I'd probably end up forgiving him, but I need a decent reason that points to something we could improve to prevent that kind of behavior from coming out again. I'm submissive, but I'm also pretty possessive of my guy; I'd want to know why him being "bored" led him to ask someone other than me for stuff...
05/08/2011
indiglo indiglo
I'm in a committed, monogamous relationship. This type of behavior goes against the vows we made to each other, and would need to be dealt with. You need to get the root of the issue before you can possibly forgive. Boredom is not a reason to betray trust, so it will be totally up to you if you feel he gets honest and feels bad about doing it and realizes why he shouldn't do it again. Trust is the cornerstone of any relationship so that's what you have to examine here. Does he understand why what he did damages that trust? If not, there's more risk he'll do it again. Don't get even though. That won't help anything. (I'd also wonder what he was even doing on such a site if he's in a committed, monogamous relationship.)
05/08/2011
ac0313 ac0313
I'm in a committed open relationship and we have done this multiple times. We even receive unsolicited pics of the opposite sex and share them with each other! Obviously, our open relationship makes our situation and beliefs quite different than most couples!
05/10/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Id be really upset. I don't know how long it would take me to forgive.
05/10/2011
SexyLilPixi SexyLilPixi
I would freak! A few guys have messaged me who have girlfriends or wives, asking me for naughty pics & honestly, it made me so angry & disgusted they pulled this shit behind their backs. I'd have their testicles in a glass jar on display if it were my lover.

All I can do is feel so bad for their women when this shit is pulled.
You wanna see other naked women? Look up celebs or watch a damn porno.
05/11/2011
sexygoddess sexygoddess
I dunno what I would do. But I would get angry for sure
05/11/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by MrRainybowbow
While my bf was in the shower i checked his history on google chrome looking for any porn he watched recently out of boredom. Insted i found something weird on his myyearbook (some lame site full of guys wanting laid and girls putting up half nude ...
I wouldn't have been upset if I was looking at his personal information without his permission. In the past I would have been curious and after I had learned about my partners cheating ways I would have been pissed but I never went looking for anything on his computer, or phone. I figured I didn't really want to know the answer so why go searching for stuf to get hurt with?
Now I don't really care since I realized somewhere along the way that if the man keeps coming home to me what the hell am I worried about if he's happy, healthy and keeps me satisfied?
05/11/2011
Rachel Nunez Rachel Nunez
I'd be mad!
05/11/2011
cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
Quote:
Originally posted by MrRainybowbow
While my bf was in the shower i checked his history on google chrome looking for any porn he watched recently out of boredom. Insted i found something weird on his myyearbook (some lame site full of guys wanting laid and girls putting up half nude ...
It would depend on the relationship for me . If it wasnt serious or we talked about it before hand i would be ok.
05/11/2011
kendra30752 kendra30752
Quote:
Originally posted by SexyLilPixi
I would freak! A few guys have messaged me who have girlfriends or wives, asking me for naughty pics & honestly, it made me so angry & disgusted they pulled this shit behind their backs. I'd have their testicles in a glass jar on display ...
Lol SAME HERE! I hate that! Just a week ago a guy who has a live-in girlfriend told me that he was looking at my facebook pics (which are never revealing! I would never post revealing pics of myself) and he told me that he was looking at them drooling and his GF came up behind him. He said "I was almost in trouble!"

I was so furious! I'm glad to see there's other women who feel the same. Most women I know would LOVE to hear those kind of things from a man in a relationship. I am quick to cuss a guy out who would dare say things to me while he's in a relationship. I'm also quick to make it clear that I don't take well to comments since I am in a relationship. I think it's disrespectful.
05/11/2011
kendra30752 kendra30752
To us, monogamy means being with ONLY each other in every way possible.
05/11/2011
Daniel & Brittany Daniel & Brittany
Quote:
Originally posted by MrRainybowbow
While my bf was in the shower i checked his history on google chrome looking for any porn he watched recently out of boredom. Insted i found something weird on his myyearbook (some lame site full of guys wanting laid and girls putting up half nude ...
You shoulda busted him in tha head
05/11/2011
PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
I'd be really upset, but its not something I would leave him over. We would have to have a long talk about it and future actions.
05/11/2011
Liz2 Liz2
Certainly a real talk, the excuse sounds lame but snooping isn't good in a relationship either.
05/11/2011
froggiemoma froggiemoma
i would be pretty angry and it would take me a logn time to get over it
05/11/2011
MrRainybowbow MrRainybowbow
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I wouldn't have been upset if I was looking at his personal information without his permission. In the past I would have been curious and after I had learned about my partners cheating ways I would have been pissed but I never went looking for ...
Oh he makes me give him my pws and he checks my accounts. So me checking his history just for porn to me is no big deal compared to what he does. Going thruogh all my messages and makeing me copy and paste any convo with another guy like im the one to be watched. And i wanted to watch the porn if he had any thats why i was looking lol. I was achaully shocked by the message i found.
05/11/2011
KennyMister KennyMister
>.< ppl fuck up... and get better.. gotta give em a chance
05/11/2011
MrRainybowbow MrRainybowbow
Quote:
Originally posted by Liz2
Certainly a real talk, the excuse sounds lame but snooping isn't good in a relationship either.
It wasn't snooping i was looking for porn he watched so i could watch it.
05/11/2011
KennyMister KennyMister
Quote:
Originally posted by MrRainybowbow
Oh he makes me give him my pws and he checks my accounts. So me checking his history just for porn to me is no big deal compared to what he does. Going thruogh all my messages and makeing me copy and paste any convo with another guy like im the one ...
>.<
05/11/2011
MrRainybowbow MrRainybowbow
Quote:
Originally posted by KennyMister
>.<
This is a thread not fb
05/11/2011
KennyMister KennyMister
Quote:
Originally posted by MrRainybowbow
This is a thread not fb
ugh w/e
05/11/2011
BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Quote:
Originally posted by MrRainybowbow
Oh he makes me give him my pws and he checks my accounts. So me checking his history just for porn to me is no big deal compared to what he does. Going thruogh all my messages and makeing me copy and paste any convo with another guy like im the one ...
There is no trust between you two. Time to reconsider things here, dear.
05/11/2011
gone77 gone77
It would depend on the type of relationship I have with that person, but it probably wouldn't bother me. I'd probably ask them to share them with me. lol
05/11/2011
Kdlips Kdlips
i'll be pissed
05/11/2011
indiglo indiglo
Quote:
Originally posted by MrRainybowbow
Oh he makes me give him my pws and he checks my accounts. So me checking his history just for porn to me is no big deal compared to what he does. Going thruogh all my messages and makeing me copy and paste any convo with another guy like im the one ...
You know, this makes me worry about your relationship MUCH more than him asking for nudes of some other person. Doesn't sound very healthy to me.
05/12/2011
BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Quote:
Originally posted by indiglo
You know, this makes me worry about your relationship MUCH more than him asking for nudes of some other person. Doesn't sound very healthy to me.
That's what I thought...

That's very controlling behavior that reminds me of the first 25 minutes of almost every "Beat-a-woman" movie that I've ever been bored enough to watch on Lifetime.
05/12/2011
daniel and frances daniel and frances
Quote:
Originally posted by MrRainybowbow
While my bf was in the shower i checked his history on google chrome looking for any porn he watched recently out of boredom. Insted i found something weird on his myyearbook (some lame site full of guys wanting laid and girls putting up half nude ...
We're open. He could ask, but he would tell me about it first.
05/23/2011
Kat Shanahan Kat Shanahan
Yeah, if I ever found that out about someone I was dating, I'd be gone in a heartbeat. No ands, ifs or buts.
05/23/2011
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