IN the MIDDLE !!

Do what your heart tells you. If they're exes because they treated you badly while in a relationship with them, then they need to stay just that---exes. If it's because timing wasn't appropriate or there were barriers beyond your control at the time and you think it might work now, then consider it.

Word to the wise? When a woman comes out of a relationship that was less than satisfactory and begins to experience what independence feels like the men in her life come crawling out of the woodwork. It's attractive. Blinding, to some. In other words, you're giving off an air of "I don't need you" and it very well could be possible that they just can't stand it and are dying to know what your secret is. less

if you don't really see yourself getting back w/ them, then you probably shouldn't. it's possible to have strong feelings for ex's depending on how long ago the breakup was & how the relationship went, but that doesn't always mean it's a good idea to start it up again. the best thing you could probably do is sit down w/ yourself & go through your head the things that you did & didn't like about each one. you'll eventually be able to decide if what they offered during your relationships w/ them is worth trying again or if you need to move on. you could also ask them what it is that made them realize that they still love you & what it is about you that they love. that has always been helpful to me. less