Is "going to a movie" a good first date?

Bignuf Bignuf
Young friends having this debate constantly. On the one hand, you go, sit in the dark in silence. Crappy way to interact. On the other hand, once you leave, you have something in common to discuss, right from the get go.

SO? Are movies a good place to start a FIRST DATE in your opinion? WHY or WHY NOT?
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Yes, Going to a movie is a great first date.
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No. Going to a movie is a lousy first date.
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Doesn't matter....take it or leave it.
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Around here, there is not much else to do!
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Total votes: 113 (102 voters)
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~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
If that is all you are doing, yes, it's a bad first date. I say this because you can't talk much.
03/05/2012
PassionQT PassionQT
I guess that would depend on what kind of 'date' it is, right?

I'd rather sit down in a restaurant or a coffee bar, where I can have a conversation with my date.
03/05/2012
Chilipepper Chilipepper
Museum or theme park or something interactive. Movies are not interactive. Sitting in an eating/drinking establishment is begging for awkwardness.
03/05/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
We don't have much where I'm from so movies are pretty much it. I'd like there for there to be conversation involved but that can't be done at the movies.
03/05/2012
Ryuson Ryuson
I think that "dinner and a movie" is a SAFE first date. If it's a blind date or someone you just met, it's good because you don't have to talk the whole time. If you end up at a theme park with some horrible, creepy person you end up hating you're gonna waste your whole day and it'll be worse!
03/05/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
If that is all you are doing, yes, it's a bad first date. I say this because you can't talk much.
This. There's no way to tell if you click with someone if you can't talk.
03/05/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Young friends having this debate constantly. On the one hand, you go, sit in the dark in silence. Crappy way to interact. On the other hand, once you leave, you have something in common to discuss, right from the get go.

SO? Are movies a good ... More
When I was first dating, most of my first dates were a movie and then something to drink or some fast food. Most of the boys I dated didn't have the money for real restaurants until I got older. Even My Man, who was older, was just starting out on his own when we started dating and saving for a house down payment, so we had fairly cheap dates. Movie and a snack afterward, usually.

I think as long as you talk before and after the movie, a movie date is nice. My Man and I LOVE the movies and we used to go to the show once or twice a week years ago when we were dating. Now, we get On Demand or tune in to Netflix several times a week for movies, while still going to the show at least once a month or so.

Plus, you can learn a lot about people from the kinds of movies they like and if they laugh and cry at the same parts you do. I wouldn't last a week with a guy who wanted to go to Rom Coms or Slasher movies. But, take me to an Indie film or a good documentary, you're half way there.
03/05/2012
Deidrenicole Deidrenicole
It's true that after a movie you do have something in common to chat about, but you want more in common than that if you plan to continue dating them.
03/05/2012
Ansley Ansley
It isn't a bad first date if you've been speaking casually for some time, it gives you something that you've experienced together to talk about. I guess it really just depends on the movie itself.
03/05/2012
Gingy Gingy
movie dates are always awkward, you don't get to know the person, you end up thinking about how awkward everything is through the entire movie ...its just not good.
03/05/2012
Nazaress Nazaress
Around here, that's all there really is to do. We live in a rural area and the one mall we have isn't that big so the movie theater is a main attraction.
03/05/2012
SparklyGlitter SparklyGlitter
who doesnt love movies
03/05/2012
Curiouscat Curiouscat
I wouldn't. There's no time to talk and get to know one another, it's awkward. I'd go out to lunch or an at home visit.
03/05/2012
PDXlady PDXlady
I personally would prefer some other type of event that would allow me to talk to the person but also create something to talk about.
03/06/2012
GONE! GONE!
I think it sucks because you don't really get to talk and get to know each other.
03/06/2012
jmex83 jmex83
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Young friends having this debate constantly. On the one hand, you go, sit in the dark in silence. Crappy way to interact. On the other hand, once you leave, you have something in common to discuss, right from the get go.

SO? Are movies a good ... More
I think that viewing a movie for the first date isn't a good first date. For the reasons that you mentioned above. When I was dating, I wanted to get to know the person and usually when we started off, we already had some things in common, as to who we knew or where we met etc etc. If you have to fight for conversation topics to talk about from the get go, then its probably not going to work out in the end.

I think movies should be saved for a few dates in to the relationship/dating.
03/06/2012
jmex83 jmex83
To add to that I would have to say that a great first date would probably consist of maybe going bowling or skating or just going for a walk in the park. This gives you ample time to discuss likes/dislikes...there s plenty of things that can be grabbed from these situations that will give you topics to talk about, etc. Even going to the mall or shopping would be a good first date.

My wife said that she hated going out to eat on our earlier dates because she hated eating in front of me....it made her feel awkward. So dinners and lunches probably aren't the best thing to choose.
03/06/2012
Jul!a Jul!a
I don't think it's a bad thing if you're doing something else afterwards, because if the conversation was going to click then it will, but if there's not much else to talk about then you can at least talk about the movie and then go home.
03/06/2012
BadassFatass BadassFatass
I don't like it because it doesn't give me a chance to talk so someone and get to know them.
03/06/2012
Mwar Mwar
You don't have much face time. That's more something you do later on.
03/06/2012
Azule Azule
Not good unless you both REALLY love movies and plan to talk about it for a while afterwards.
03/06/2012
voenne voenne
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Young friends having this debate constantly. On the one hand, you go, sit in the dark in silence. Crappy way to interact. On the other hand, once you leave, you have something in common to discuss, right from the get go.

SO? Are movies a good ... More
I agree. I hate it because you're just sitting in front of a screen, not getting to know your date, not talking. But if I am going to go on a movie date, I always want to do the movie first so that it can be discussed over a meal or dessert.

As for a first date, maybe. If you're shy or nervous, it may be a helpful way to start the date off. Otherwise, I'd personally rather do something else more interactive.
03/06/2012
married with children married with children
dinner, a movie, and maybe coffee afterwards. A good date to get to know each other and talk.
03/07/2012
Lucky21 Lucky21
Yes, no and other! Ok... so the misses and I went to a movie on our first real "date", but we had met before and been getting to know each other. Frankly, if it's just a movie, it's not the best idea. But if you get to have dinner, talk abou the movie afterwards, seems great to me.
03/07/2012
wildorchid wildorchid
I really hate movies. Be creative for crying out loud! Go to a carnival, a fireworks show, the science center, the zoo or something. Mini golf! Mini golf would be a great first date. You can talk, have some fun and food is always a must!
03/07/2012
calliope calliope
You are in the dark and not paying attention to eachother...
03/07/2012
tA tA
If you do something beforehand, then no, it isn't. BUT, if it's the only thing, it's kinda bad.
03/07/2012
J Peach J Peach
Movie dates are counter-productive. You're going out to get to know the person. You can't get to know them if you have to be silent the whole time.
03/08/2012
<3BF <3BF
if your a lousy conversationalist then it's a good fallback.
03/08/2012
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