Is it cheating if it's with the same gender?

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Is it cheating if it's with the same gender?

Supervixen Supervixen
What a weird idea...if you and your partner are not in an open relationship and have okayed physical, intimate, sexual contact between yourself and another person, then of course it's cheating. How the hell does it change anything if you're fucking someone of the same sex?
12/08/2012
I Am Sherlocked I Am Sherlocked
If you're going behind your partner's back, then yes, it's cheating, regardless of biological sex.
12/08/2012
novanilla novanilla
People who say that clearly think nothing of gay people.

Unless it is something agreed upon, it's all cheating.
12/08/2012
Moniqua Moniqua
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Originally posted by - Kira -
If it's discussed beforehand and both parties consent, then it's not cheating. That applies to both genders. If it's done behind one partner's back, then it's cheating. That also applies to both genders.
I agree with this.
12/08/2012
roskat roskat
Yes, it is in my opinion. Gender doesn't matter.
12/15/2012
damnbul12 damnbul12
Quote:
Originally posted by mjtheprincess
I was recently watching a TV show that said that it was cheating even if it was with the same gender because a kiss between a man and a man or a woman and a woman should be worth no less then a kiss between a woman and a man. What's your opinion?
It's All Cheating
12/15/2012
PDXlady PDXlady
Well I'm polyamorous so I have a unique situation but I would be really upset if my partner viewed sexual contact with a woman as less valid than that with a man.
12/15/2012
libbyv libbyv
Quote:
Originally posted by mjtheprincess
I was recently watching a TV show that said that it was cheating even if it was with the same gender because a kiss between a man and a man or a woman and a woman should be worth no less then a kiss between a woman and a man. What's your opinion?
it's still cheating
12/27/2012
MsDrProfKitty MsDrProfKitty
It seems like we're almost all agreeing here haha

Anything that goes against what you've agreed upon in the relationship is cheating. If you're going behind your partner's back/keeping them in the dark then it's cheating. Course this is all variable from relationship to relationship. I mean, my guy is completely fine with me dancing with other guys and girls when I go to the bars and he doesn't come with me. I know couples who would break up if their SO did this because they'd think it's cheating.
Relationships are trust, compromise, and agreements about boundaries. If you violate a boundary it doesn't mater what gender you're doing it with (unless your SO honestly believes that's not so and has clarified that with you).
12/27/2012
Alyona Alyona
It's All Cheating
12/27/2012
invisiblehat invisiblehat
Uh, I don't see what gender has to do with it. If there wasn't an agreement beforehand, it's still all cheating.
12/27/2012
ginnyluvspotter ginnyluvspotter
I dont think it is but my s/o does
12/27/2012
TheirPet TheirPet
I think it's cheating.
12/27/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by mjtheprincess
I was recently watching a TV show that said that it was cheating even if it was with the same gender because a kiss between a man and a man or a woman and a woman should be worth no less then a kiss between a woman and a man. What's your opinion?
Any partner that is human can draw or garner affection and thus, yes, cheating is cheating...no matter with who.
12/27/2012
Intrepid Niddering Intrepid Niddering
Unless the people in a relationship have agreed beforehand that they are in an open relationship, anything intimate like that is cheating.
12/27/2012
Apirka Apirka
Yes, it's cheating.
12/27/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
Quote:
Originally posted by mjtheprincess
I was recently watching a TV show that said that it was cheating even if it was with the same gender because a kiss between a man and a man or a woman and a woman should be worth no less then a kiss between a woman and a man. What's your opinion?
It's all cheating if it's in secret
12/27/2012
Castielskitten Castielskitten
Depends. If your partner consents to allow you to kiss or anything else with another person, then no, it's not, but if they haven't, yes, it is.
12/27/2012
apryls apryls
Quote:
Originally posted by mjtheprincess
I was recently watching a TV show that said that it was cheating even if it was with the same gender because a kiss between a man and a man or a woman and a woman should be worth no less then a kiss between a woman and a man. What's your opinion?
it's not cheating if you agree with eachother to have other partners and keep everything open and honest
12/27/2012
LovesAPoet LovesAPoet
Normally I would say it's all cheating. Georgeo makes a good point though, if it's a secret then it's cheating. However I've had partners that believed me kissing other women wasn't cheating but for them to kiss another man would be. I think it really depends on the boundaries that have been laid out.
12/27/2012
Pandwhora Pandwhora
Quote:
Originally posted by - Kira -
If it's discussed beforehand and both parties consent, then it's not cheating. That applies to both genders. If it's done behind one partner's back, then it's cheating. That also applies to both genders.
This.
12/27/2012
Kyle Hunter Kyle Hunter
cheating is cheating doesnt matter what the gender is
12/31/2012
IvyFayette IvyFayette
Depends on the agreement you have with your partner but if it was never discussed it is cheating. Gender shouldn't matter. An intimate action with someone other than your partner or with people your partner agrees to is cheating.
01/01/2013
falalena falalena
Quote:
Originally posted by mjtheprincess
I was recently watching a TV show that said that it was cheating even if it was with the same gender because a kiss between a man and a man or a woman and a woman should be worth no less then a kiss between a woman and a man. What's your opinion?
its all cheating unless your significant other approves of it.
01/02/2013
ChaosBunny ChaosBunny
I think no matter what, a person is a person, regardless of what gender they are. If you do things with another person that isn't your partner, then it's technically cheating. Really, it's up to you and your partner to decide what is or isn't cheating or pushing boundaries.
04/25/2013
Rokmai Rokmai
"Is it cheating" questions are (essentially) always a very clear "yes".
04/25/2013
rosythorn rosythorn
Has someone been watching Glee? Santana said it`s not cheating since it`s not the same plumbing, hahaha. Not true though.
04/25/2013
Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
CHEATING!
04/26/2013
SydneyScreams SydneyScreams
Quote:
Originally posted by mjtheprincess
I was recently watching a TV show that said that it was cheating even if it was with the same gender because a kiss between a man and a man or a woman and a woman should be worth no less then a kiss between a woman and a man. What's your opinion?
It depends on the perimeters of your relationship, and no two relationships are going to have the exact same "rules"

I've heard "it's not cheating if it's with the same gender and my partner doesn't know about it..." to "it's cheating no matter what"
04/27/2013
MattBryant MattBryant
Quote:
Originally posted by mjtheprincess
I was recently watching a TV show that said that it was cheating even if it was with the same gender because a kiss between a man and a man or a woman and a woman should be worth no less then a kiss between a woman and a man. What's your opinion?
a person is a person. one of my exes was very bi (lesbian now), and i basically said "If you're with me, i want you to be with me.. if you can go off with some other girl then i'll want to do the same"
05/02/2013
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