Jealousy in a monogamous relationship

I think it's somewhat normal to have "spells." There are days (mostly that time of the month) when I feel crazy, everything feels different and bad. It feels like the whole world is out to get me! LOL. Sometimes, during those days, I'll feel that he's not attracted to me because at that time, I'm not attracted to me. I just get all crazy. I have a lot of "female problems." That's where a lot of the wild behavior comes from. Anyways, if it's just a spell where you're not feeling like yourself and these things come up, talk about it. You should always be able to do that. Once my partner reassures me that he does love me and I'm not crazy, (lol) those thoughts quickly diminish. However, in your situation, it seems different since there's an actual reason you're feeling this way, not irrationality like mine.

Here's how we eliminate any excess problems. I mean, when you're in a mono relationship, it's not neccessary to have too much of the opposite sex. It can't help your relationship, but it can harm it. It might NOT harm, but it can't do good. We eliminate the opposite sex from our private lives. Early when we began seeing each other, nearly 6 years ago, we both felt the same. No need for private friendships of the opposite sex. We have friends, but we keep it... public? I mean our guy friends are OURS not mine, not his, but ours. As for him, he has no use or care for my female friends and we'd never, ever spend time alone with the opposite sex. When things like this arise, we eliminate that person totally from our lives. Clearly this girl has BAD intentions and if he cares about you, he'll tell her to kick rocks.

We had a mini situation last week. There's a girl who never really liked me (why, I do not know!) but we've been around each other a lot. I went to school with her and she started dating a friend (male) of ours. My partner owns property that people rent and she just moved in a house and texted him. He texted her bck several times answering her question about the utilities. She KEPT texting, wanting conversation and began saying "honey." OK, sure people say honey all the time, no biggie. But to make a special effort to TEXT honey, she was up to no good. He told her not to text him anymore, but to take her questions to the guy who works on the utilities. After that she hasn't texted back, but my problem is that us ladies shold be sticking together, not trying to destroy one another!

Thing is, girls see a couple and when the couple looks happy, she wants to see just how much power she has, if she can ruin it. Shitty. Sounds like that's the girl's problem. The only thing he should do at this point is to tell her to F off, he has no interest. If not, she WILL try taking it further. Mean girls do that. If she had somethign negative to say about you (only texting to piss you off) then he should've told her F off the minute he found out about that. You're supposed to have your partner's back. If she cannot respect you, then he should have no use for her. He should not even respond to her. He knows it bothers you? All the more reason to get rid of her! I wouldn't stick around for that mistreatment. I mean, if he cares about you and has no use for her, why even respond at all? Why not say "I'm in a rel. and have no interest in you as a friend, especially if you cannot respect my partner and respect that I am in a relationship."

Hon, I'm afraid it isn't the "feelings" you need to get rid of here.

If it is bugging you, there's a reason. Women have intuition so strongly! Also, if one partner is ever uncomfortable about something in the slightest, it's best to stop the problem. This is just how we choose to live/handle things. Maybe it's not the best for your relationship, but this is the advice I have to offer.

Hugs to you. I hope she goes away and things all get better. I know the way you feel is not fun.

relax. your wonderful boyfriend has noticed this and is staying away from her. he really cares about you. you should tell this other lady in a VERY NICE WAY that she needs to find someone els. wish you the best