Looking through your partners phone

SoBlue SoBlue
My ex was caught going through my cell phone more than once, and lying to me about it, hence one of the reasons i am single, I cant stand it when someone invades my privacy.... Thoughts? Opinions?
05/05/2011
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zizfaye zizfaye
That wouldn't upset me too much, only because I don't have much by way of private information on my phone. That said, if someone were to go digging through my computer I would be seriously pissed! I am a really private person. When at home I lock my bedroom door to keep them from simply opening it, regardless of what I'm doing. I won't let anyone else clean my room because I don't want to risk them finding anything personal.
05/05/2011
sasweetheart89 sasweetheart89
It depends, did you have anything to hide? If not, it is pretty upsetting to realize the lack of trust in the (ex) relationship =/
05/05/2011
MaryExy MaryExy
My guy isn't the prying type. It's more my sis. I've had her use my computer without asking (hers was in her car like 50yds away), and she flipped and yelled at me for dating a guy online (she would've had to open a conversation or email to see this). When I told her she shouldn't have been looking through the computer, she said if I didn't want her using my computer I should lock the computer. I find it highly irritating that I now need to type a password in every time I open my computer because my sister doesn't understand privacy and property ownership...

I also have a lock on my phone, since the kids I babysit like to pick it up and try to go through it. But they're not prying so much as trying to find games and take pictures.

I'm a very private person, but I don't have any reason to distrust my guy, my parents, or my friends. My sis is just a little... bleh. I will try to be open with people if they ask me something directly, but I agree: I HATE it when people invade my privacy. If you wanna know what's going on with me, you can just ask me. I'm not gonna flat out lie.
05/05/2011
GravyCakes GravyCakes
Quote:
Originally posted by SoBlue
My ex was caught going through my cell phone more than once, and lying to me about it, hence one of the reasons i am single, I cant stand it when someone invades my privacy.... Thoughts? Opinions?
i would hate it if i caught my bf going through my phone w/out asking. as long as he asks, i'd be ok w/ it. & i won't go through his phone unless he says it's ok, which it almost always is.
05/06/2011
PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
The part that I would have a problem with is the lying about it. I don't have a problem with my boyfriend looking through my phone as long as he asks, but lying? That's the problem.
05/06/2011
amandaco2011 amandaco2011
Yeah the lying I think is the worst part. I don't go through my partners phone and he doesn't go through mine but we have nothing to hide.
05/06/2011
ToyGurl ToyGurl
I think that if you catch your s/o going through your phone during a relationship that isn't so serious, it isn't something to be alarmed about. At that time you're really still trying to get to know each other, and people can be insecure and paranoid. Especially those who were cheated on before. But I can understand why it would piss someone off. I would feel as if someone didn't trust me.

The lying is what would bother me most, and needs to be handled.

My fiance and I will look through each other's phones out of boredom, but we don't read each other's messages or anything. It's usually just toying around with each other's apps. We really don't even text or call anyone but each other. My fiance leaves his cell at my apartment all the time and it doesn't even ring except for his parents or family. In that case, I answer and let them know he is on base.
05/06/2011
toxie m toxie m
That would be a serious privacy boundary invasion. I don't go through my man's phone and he doesn't go through mine. We're honest and open with each other, but a certain level of independence and trust is necessary
05/06/2011
shySEXXaddict shySEXXaddict
Quote:
Originally posted by SoBlue
My ex was caught going through my cell phone more than once, and lying to me about it, hence one of the reasons i am single, I cant stand it when someone invades my privacy.... Thoughts? Opinions?
I agree.if you trust someone then theres no reason to go through there phone...buuuttt in the same breathe should it matter if your not hiding something?Idk..I wouldnt like it but if it made him feel better than whatever i guess as long as i can look through his!
03/10/2012
Beck Beck
I personally would care if hubby went through my phone. It would feel like he didn't trust me enough that he had to invade my privacy. I would be upset by the fact he felt he needed to look. I don't look through his stuff and I expect him not to look through mine. He refuses to anyhow, he won't even get in my purse and get me something if I ask, he brings me my purse.
03/10/2012
CaliGirl CaliGirl
Quote:
Originally posted by SoBlue
My ex was caught going through my cell phone more than once, and lying to me about it, hence one of the reasons i am single, I cant stand it when someone invades my privacy.... Thoughts? Opinions?
Unless you hand it to the and ask them to look for something, then its a big no!
06/25/2012
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