Do you like your partner less/more/equally experienced than you?

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Do you like your partner less/more/equally experienced than you?

sextoygeek sextoygeek
So I've been talking to a guy a few years younger than me and it turns out he's very inexperienced (I'm talking like one failed attempted at sex and that's it). He's very cute and sweet but I prefer a partner I don't have to train, though I don't think it will deter me from pursuing him, but I was just wondering what you guys prefer
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Give me the pure and innocent!
Envy , seaofneptune , Kayla , OroNomi , kinky girlfriend , ZenaidaMacroura , Adriana Ravenlust , darthkitt3n , Lady Marmelade , kendra30752 , ToyGurl
11  (14%)
I want someone on my level
mnc5051 , ~LaUr3n~ , SexyTabby , DeliciousSurprise , Penguin , ToyGeek , LikeSunshineDust , Lucidity , Harlequin , moonch1ld , Lady Venus , Illusional , Miss Madeline , leatherlover , BeautiFullFigured , That Guy , link82 , MaryExy , bunny love , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , sexyk515 , Cream in the Cupcake , barrettbn2 , tickle me pink , Rossie , Waterfall , Fullbeauty , Brandi Rouxxx , MrRainybowbow , REDRUM , CarmenGore262 , Willis2011 , indiglo , joja , Sebmissive , angel142stx , shySEXXaddict , Apirka , StephieBoo02 , RTC , CherryGryffon , potstickers
42  (54%)
I want to be taught, give me the naughtiest you can find
P'Gell , Chilipepper , Shellz31 , Fishie Princess , Persephone's Addiction , Danielle915 , null , Lindz86 , Rocky LaFemme , RubenesqueAna , UnknownGirl , LavenderSkies , misslady , Hadespark , RonLee , Alyjazz , magicmac , froggiemoma , Taylor , wetone123 , BadassFatass , IrishLassie , KikiChrome , ily , CadmiumKitty
25  (32%)
Total votes: 78
Poll is closed
11/06/2010
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~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
I like them somewhat on my level. It is fun when they have done things I have not and vice versa.
11/11/2010
Taylor Taylor
I didn't vote, I've only been with people who were more experienced than me. I've liked that so far and I like playing the "innocent role" maybe one day I would like to be seen as experienced
11/11/2010
SexyTabby SexyTabby
I put someone on my level because it's comfortable and where I'm at in life but in all honesty there are times when I simply want to be taught.
11/11/2010
Envy Envy
I dunno why, but i am really into guys who have little to no experience. I guess it makes me feel less threatened, coupled with the fact I have about 0 experience as well.
11/11/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
I am not looking for a partner right now, If I was, I'd probably want someone AT my level of experience AND kink.

But, when I was younger and dating, I definitely wanted men who knew what they were doing. I've never dated a man younger than myself, (had some crushes, had a chance to deflower a Freshmen when I was a Senior in HS and passed on it.)

My Man certainly knew more about sex when I met him. He taught me a lot and trained me well. As it is now, we're probably pretty even. I tend to know a little more about certain kinks, (His eyes got really big when he made me open the last box that came from Eden ) but he always surprises me with new things, even after several decades together.

If something were to happen (heaven forbid) and I had to date again, I can't imagine being with a younger, inexperienced man. It might be a challenge, but I'm not so sure I'd get what I want out of it. It just holds no interest for me. I probably would be able to teach him a lot, but I want a man who takes charge.

It's just me.

Mileage and all that
11/11/2010
seaofneptune seaofneptune
When I met my partner he was a virgin and so was I - so I enjoyed that. I think I enjoyed it more that he was completely inexperienced. The thought of being with someone that already had experience wasn't a huge turn on for me at the time. I have no idea why. Plus, I am the older woman in our relationship. Not by much though, I'm 25 and he is 22. :p
11/11/2010
Chilipepper Chilipepper
My ex-husband - ten years older than me - fooled me into thinking he was experienced (I had been with three guys at that point, only once each, all of them teenage boys who didn't know what they were doing). The fucker was too scared to touch me and then BLAMED ME for his lack of libido.

At least when I got back with Mulder he had gained a bit more experience and was able to get me through the initial hang-ups and nervousness and onto some really nice beginner sex.

I STILL want someone more experienced than me, who's also mature enough to recognize what's His, what's Mine, and what we can do with it. Preferably unattached.
11/11/2010
Coralbell Coralbell
I can't decide. My current partner and I were both virgins, and I liked that because I felt like we were sharing something new together. But he is also less experienced than me, he'd never really done anything with a girl. I kind of like that because he's not comparing me to other people and he thinks I'm amazing at everything. And of course it would be nice to be with a more experience guy, because then I would think that he was amazing at everything. So I choose all of the above
11/11/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Coralbell
I can't decide. My current partner and I were both virgins, and I liked that because I felt like we were sharing something new together. But he is also less experienced than me, he'd never really done anything with a girl. I kind of like that ...
Corabell, it sounds like you and your partner are well suited and very happy!

I do need to tell you that, though, that a mature experienced man (or woman) will never compare you to other lovers. I know My Man has had more than his share of women (and I've had a few man/boys myself) and he has never said a word about the performance of an other woman. Except to tell me I'm the best. And I tell him the same, and it's true.

But, it sounds like the exploring you and your partner are doing is exactly what works for you.
11/11/2010
gone77 gone77
I don't have a preference, but I can find positives to all levels of experience.
11/11/2010
Coralbell Coralbell
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
Corabell, it sounds like you and your partner are well suited and very happy!

I do need to tell you that, though, that a mature experienced man (or woman) will never compare you to other lovers. I know My Man has had more than his share of ...
Thanks P'Gell, your post made me smile!
11/11/2010
Persephone's Addiction Persephone's Addiction
Oh, give me a man-whore. Definitely. I want someone I can swap stories with but he's got to be able to top mine. lol
11/11/2010
darthkitt3n darthkitt3n
I've been with two guys where I was their first time, and one who I was their second time, and I kind of preferred it that way. Especially with my boyfriend. I don't think I would want to be with someone who has been with a bunch of women. It just seems to take the value out of a relationship, since everyone else has been where you are going.
11/13/2010
Danielle915 Danielle915
I want to be taught and manhandled...oops.. ::looks up and walks away quietly::
11/13/2010
C4ss C4ss
I like someone who's somewhat on my level but that doesn't mean I don't enjoy being taught a thing or two. It can be fun being somewhat manhandled.
12/15/2010
Liz2 Liz2
This is one poll I can't really answer. I have been with all levels of experience, each has something to offer but negatives also. I was with one guy that was a master of technique but that's all he had, very short relationship. I have been in a committed relationship for about three years and at this point if I was looking for a partner now, I don't think I would have the patience to take on someone who was not somewhat experienced.
12/15/2010
Lindz86 Lindz86
I'm really not a good teacher...and it's not so much that I couldn't, as I wont. I know what I want, and I'm not really willing to waste my time on someone who has NO idea what's going on...I got lucky when I started dating my significant other...we're both freaks so it's a lot easier to be who you are/do what you like when you're with someone who isn't afraid to let their inner freak out alongside yours. I think the more innocent the person, the less likely to explore their sexuality.
12/15/2010
ScottA ScottA
We were both virgins, and it's worked out OK. I think a roughly equal willingness to try things out is more important than experience.

That and a willingness to ask questions/figure things out rather then pretending you know it all and are a Sex God.
12/15/2010
Lucidity Lucidity
I love when we can experience and learn things together.
12/15/2010
UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
It's nice to be taught new things. My husband and I have been together about 80% of my sexually active life. So, many of the things in our repertoire are things he taught me or things we learned together. Before I met him I didn't even know I could have an orgasm from oral sex. The first time I climaxed from oral was one of the most awesome sexual experiences of my life. I still shudder when I think about it.
12/15/2010
Harlequin Harlequin
I'm all about equality and learning everything together.
12/15/2010
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
I picked the last one hehe
12/16/2010
Illusional Illusional
Quote:
Originally posted by SexyTabby
I put someone on my level because it's comfortable and where I'm at in life but in all honesty there are times when I simply want to be taught.
I have to agree with Sexy Tabby.

My own level is really nice, so I can feel comfortable with them.
However, being showed a few tricks isn't so bad either.
02/20/2011
markeagleone markeagleone
Quote:
Originally posted by sextoygeek
So I've been talking to a guy a few years younger than me and it turns out he's very inexperienced (I'm talking like one failed attempted at sex and that's it). He's very cute and sweet but I prefer a partner I don't have to ...
Sorry I can't vote. It didn't matter because I had to find what my wife enjoys and what I can enjoy with her. Previous experience hasn't played a role in that!
02/20/2011
leatherlover leatherlover
My wife was more experienced when we met. It was nice to learn from her, but I prefer us to be equal.
02/20/2011
magicmac magicmac
I prefer to be with a guy who is more experienced than me. I don't a guy to say "Am I doing it right?" while we go at it.
02/20/2011
MaryExy MaryExy
I like that my guy and I are both new to the whole dom/sub thing. I don't have the pressure of being compared to other subs, and he just takes it slowly, so I don't feel rushed to get over any hesitation and catch up. He's just happy I'm enthusiastic about obeying and trying new stuff
04/10/2011
A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople)
I've never quite thought about it, I usually just take their experience for granted. What is more important for me is how much they are willing to experiment - and by this parameter they should not be below my level
04/10/2011
sexyk515 sexyk515
i want them to be on my level
04/10/2011
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