Pay or not pay?

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Pay or not pay?

sugarOne sugarOne
When your on a date which one do you prefer ?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
your date pay
LittleBoPeep , SexyySarah , Persephone's Addiction , SarahSarah , mrs.mckrakn , deltalima , Pleasure Piratess , buzzvibe , tigerkate , DeliciousSurprise , Selective Sensualist , Melissa221 , Harlequin , LavenderSkies , PussyGalore , nerdgirl , meganthomas , Bunnycups , darthkitt3n , Taylor , Misfit Momma , moonch1ld , Danielle915 , MrRainybowbow , SexyTabby , staceejaxxx , sweet seduction , RubenesqueAna , Adriana Ravenlust , teeny <3 , shelly8791 , HoneyHoney , NaughtyNikki420 , SexyStuff , Sohotdinosaur , *HisMrs* , tickle me pink , Brandi Rouxxx , Valentinka , MaryExy , barrettbn2 , Rossie , cherie2188 , froggiemoma , kelaaa33wish , *Ashley* , padmeamidala , liilii080 , SamsDelight , kendra30752 , chidoll , REDRUM , BadassFatass , bluekaren , ~Brittany~ , jannie999 , mistressg , aliceinthehole , wrecklesswords , DixieDoo
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you pay
Muddog7998 , Peach Girl , Cookiekitten , jakjak , Trashley , Lummox , just a sub , darthkitt3n , moonch1ld , Passionate Pastor , Red Vinyl Kitty , Hockeytown9 , sweet seduction , RonLee , Lurr , married with children , Adriana Ravenlust , HoneyHoney , Alyjazz , HC , extrafun , cobiffle , BadassFatass , Volund , Virgulino , Illumin8 , Bignuf , s<3x , wrecklesswords
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divide it up
cherryredhead88 , Envy , Jenniae09 , softcoeur , Love Buzz , Shellz31 , Kim! , Lady Neshamah , Kiwi , sbon , Avant-garde , Danielle915 , Dusk , Maiden , Eliza , kawigrl , C4ss , Tart , UnknownGirl , sweet seduction , 18 , Xavier7 , Morganna , Ritsuka , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , Adam02viper , Adriana Ravenlust , idunshire , Kikicrystal , Fuck it. , zeebot , Happy Camper , Lio , virtualmirage , Lady Marmelade , Curves , neon , slynch , MaryExy , Cream in the Cupcake , *Ashley* , Lolla Munz , mb , KnK , sixfootsex , chidoll , REDRUM , BadassFatass , goawaybunnies90 , Miss T , NaturalWoman , AngelicaU , angel142stx , jeangel246 , potstickers , ginainohio
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Total votes: 145 (130 voters)
Poll is closed
09/02/2010
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sugarOne sugarOne
I guess it depends on how many times we been on a date. I like to divide things up. Sometimes we will take turns paying for one meal and I pay the next meal.
09/02/2010
Muddog7998 Muddog7998
The one who plans the date should pay, unless you're married. Then you can divide it XD
09/10/2010
sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
Quote:
Originally posted by Muddog7998
The one who plans the date should pay, unless you're married. Then you can divide it XD
Even with me married, there's no dividing it. All our money is in the same checking account and we share it all, so we just use whoevers money. It's all in the same place, so it could be some of both or it could be just one. But it doesn't really matter to us.
09/10/2010
SexyySarah SexyySarah
Well, now that I'm married I carry the money, so I pay, but before hubby ALWAYS paid!
09/10/2010
cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
I always bring enough with me, and they usually pick up the check anyways, but for me it is common courtesy to at least offer
09/10/2010
Envy Envy
I like the whole thing of going Dutch as they say. AKA, pay for yourself. If a guy invites me out, I do somewhat expect him to pay. Otherwise i say straight up we're going Dutch.
09/10/2010
Jenniae09 Jenniae09
After a few months we started taking turns. Before I would divide it.
09/10/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
When I make a dollar for every 73 cents he makes, I'll start paying....

Until then, I only pay on his Birthday.
09/11/2010
SarahSarah SarahSarah
On the first date, he better be paying. Actually like the first 5 dates he should be paying. I always bring enough money for the check just incase hes an asshole. But I dont make my guy pay EVERYTIME. For every like 3 to 5 he pays, I will pay one. But too what I have done before is if he pays for dinner, I will pay for something else later in the night to try to make things even.
09/12/2010
Blinker Blinker
I pay for myself. I don't like other people paying for my shit, but my boyfriend is a rich, spoiled brat who can afford to throw money around. But I much prefer to pay my way when I can. I hate feeling like I owe people anything.
09/12/2010
mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
the asker does the paying. only fair...
09/15/2010
deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by mrs.mckrakn
the asker does the paying. only fair...
Good rule to follow.
09/15/2010
deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by Blinker
I pay for myself. I don't like other people paying for my shit, but my boyfriend is a rich, spoiled brat who can afford to throw money around. But I much prefer to pay my way when I can. I hate feeling like I owe people anything.
I feel the same and my partner is kind of similar. It just feels nice when you can take care of it yourself.
09/15/2010
Love Buzz Love Buzz
Although it's nice for someone else to pay,I still don't like that feeling of 'owing' them something just because they paid for my food etc
09/21/2010
buzzvibe buzzvibe
Remind me again, what's a date?

Back when I was younger I almost always paid my way unless the guy insisted, which really only happened a few times. Hubs and I don't get date nights that often, but when we do I totally make him pay, being the kept woman that I am.
09/21/2010
tigerkate tigerkate
I PREFER him to pay. Because I'm a cheap person.. haha

But I'll say, dating someone who took me to really expensive restaurants with 30$ entrees, who always paid... It just made me uncomfortable, because I'm not the kind of person who goes to really fancy places like that.

Splitting can be awkward, I don't prefer to split a bill. It just seems like more effort than necessary. Which is why I can say, currently, with the guy I've been with for the past month or so, it usually ends up he'll pay or I'll pay. It'll kinda go back and forth, but it's not like we're tallying it up or anything either.
09/22/2010
Trashley Trashley
I chose that I prefer to pay, but I may just be conditioned to do that. I've always been the one with more money, so I always feel obligated to pay and embarrassed if I let them pay. I think it'd be really really nice to have it the other way around for once.
09/23/2010
Midway through Midway through
I pay for myself, unless they wanna fight in the parking lot over it. Now, if I've known them long enough, I'll let them pay if they just get out "one check" before I can say separate. It depends.
09/23/2010
Rhazya Rhazya
I like splitting or taking turns depending on who planned the outing. If they insist on paying, not going to fight them for too long, money is money. And say they paid more then I do, I'm not going to feel obligated to sleep with them.
10/17/2010
Melissa221 Melissa221
I think for me it depends on how long you've been with the person. When my husband and I started dated he refused to let me pay. Finally after a few months we started taking turns (he still paid more than me) or sometimes he would get the bill and I would get the tip. Now I'm a stay at home mom, so we have a joint account and it doesn't matter who 'pays' since its all coming from the same place.
10/17/2010
Kim! Kim!
I always at least offer to pay. If my date asked or is horribly insistent then I let them with little protest. If they've paid on multiple dates in a row then I won't let them. I let my relationships be pretty equal. Of course, if I'm stuck paying all of the time then I start to get irritable too. (Especially when they live with roommates, have no car payment, and no children, while I have my car payment, a child whom I rarely get child support for, and live with just my son. Claiming you "didn't notice" that you haven't paid for a meal in months when we go out to eat at least once per week is not acceptable. Sorry about that little rant. I'll make allowances here and there but if you're employed pay up once in awhile!)
10/17/2010
Harlequin Harlequin
they pay!
12/11/2010
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by sugarOne
When your on a date which one do you prefer ?
He pays! I'm traditional.
12/16/2010
Lady Neshamah Lady Neshamah
i think it depends on who i am with more than anything.
12/16/2010
PussyGalore PussyGalore
He pays. Always. Why? Because I don't work. Even when we were just dating and we both worked, he paid.
12/16/2010
Kiwi Kiwi
It depends. first date, he pays. other dates, split or i pay (or he pays, but like exchage-ish.
12/16/2010
sbon sbon
Doesn't matter. We usually take turns paying.
12/17/2010
Avant-garde Avant-garde
Going dutch. To make the man pay is an outdated tradition to me.
12/18/2010
Bunnycups Bunnycups
I also think a gentleman should open the door for me.
12/18/2010
Total posts: 80
Unique posters: 73