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I haven't been on this site is over a year I use to very active but got busy and then forgot about this. before I start the question Im very shy guy in early 20's My problem is meeting woman I'm very shy. once I open up i don't have a
I haven't been on this site is over a year I use to very active but got busy and then forgot about this. before I start the question Im very shy guy in early 20's My problem is meeting woman I'm very shy. once I open up i don't have a problem talking and communicating. I tried a site before and had messaged woman and Received a lot of replies and compliments and i really liked one so picked her talked for a while an dated for a while. Now I tried again and never get any messages I found it odd not even one. I made a fake account and post pic of a girl and not even a min into it being made i had over 200 messages. Idk If its just so many men message girls they can't read mine or my profile sucks. below is my profile description what do you think about it? any recomendations please let me know. Thanks in advance hope someone can help. it shouldn't be long most people even leave it blank lol it just a box and its say "about me" and i can write what i want so this is what i have in my dating profile i decided to be brief and simple is it good?
Born and raised in NYC. Sarcastic and adventurous can be spontaneous at times.. I'm very family oriented. Simple laid back person looking to find someone who I can connect with. I enjoy jogging and living a healthy lifestyle. If you want to know more just ask. Please be positive I don't want negative energy in my life.
sorry for my grammar and punctuation i was rushing lol
Dating is really hard, and fortunately is something I've never really had to deal with. That being said, I can still read your profile and tell you what stands out to me and what doesn't. I'm going to pretend I'm looking for a partner and I came across your profile.
The first thing I notice is that you're using sort of short, choppy sentences. Full sentences would show me that you're serious enough to really care how you come across. Don't be afraid to explain things a little more. I know it's not supposed to be long, but small changes could really make a big difference.
"If you want to know more just ask"
While this should come across as inviting, it makes me feel like I'll have to carry the conversation and try to get more information out of you.
You have a lot of great qualities, but I'm not sure you expressed them in the best way possible. The last line alone makes you sound a little insecure and kind of turns me off. Changing that sentence to something like,
"I love surrounding myself with positive people and am looking for someone who will bring some added joy to my life". Now that sentence makes me think, "This guy is fun, laid back, and doesn't 'do' drama".
You need something to really hook someone. Like I said, you have great qualities, but nothing really stands out.
Here's my take on the information you shared.
"Born and raise in NYC, I naturally developed a taste for adventure. I enjoy trying new things and being spontaneous, but I'm also grounded and family oriented (think of me as being well rounded). Some things I enjoy are jogging, [insert at least two other activities you enjoy]. I'm a simple, laid back person that's hoping to make a real connection with someone. Surrounding myself with positive people is important to me and I'm looking for someone who will bring a little extra joy to my life. If you're interested in getting to know me more, feel free to ask anything!"
Naturally you'd change it up and add your own style, but make it interesting! Make it sound positive and upbeat. Read what you write and think, "Would I want to get to know me based on what I wrote?" If the answer is no, than change it up a little bit!
Being shy is okay...a lot of women actually find it to be very attractive. But don't let it get in the way of making connections with people. You gotta gain a little confidence and see some good in yourself!
I wish you the best of luck!!
And as I said, I'm no expert with dating, but I hope this helps a little bit!