Running into the EX

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Running into the EX

jdloelo jdloelo
Have you ever encountered the ex? Was it awkward? Do you have any suggestions on how to handle functions that mutual friends are organizing where the ex may be attending?
11/22/2010
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J's Alley J's Alley
Quote:
Originally posted by jdloelo
Have you ever encountered the ex? Was it awkward? Do you have any suggestions on how to handle functions that mutual friends are organizing where the ex may be attending?
Fake it.

I am actually really good friends with most guys I've dated, so it's no biggie. There is one I avoid, but when I have seen him I simply don't speak to him. I have nothing to say, so I walk off.
11/22/2010
Jul!a Jul!a
The last event I ran into an ex at was a wedding for mutual friends of ours. I knew he would be there and I just planned to ignore him to avoid drama. Well a few drinks later and he decides that he's gonna come up to me while I'm talking with a big group of friends and say 'awkward' real loud to try and get some laughs. Nobody woulda known anything except that he decided to come on up and make it public. Then later decides he wants to 'bury the hatchet.' Twas mildly irritating that he also felt the need to keep chatting up my fiance too. But that was over a year ago, and thankfully, I've been pretty much ex free since then.
11/23/2010
Envy Envy
Never seen mine since blocking him from everything online. It's been a few years, doubt I ever will see him. If i did, I'm not sure if I'd walk away or punch him in the neck.
11/23/2010
Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by Envy
Never seen mine since blocking him from everything online. It's been a few years, doubt I ever will see him. If i did, I'm not sure if I'd walk away or punch him in the neck.
Ditto. He was a semi abusive, cheating bastard.
11/23/2010
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by jdloelo
Have you ever encountered the ex? Was it awkward? Do you have any suggestions on how to handle functions that mutual friends are organizing where the ex may be attending?
Kill him with kindness..he'll be confused
11/24/2010
Chilipepper Chilipepper
No chance. Ex-husband is in another state. Simplifies matters.
11/24/2010
Victoria Victoria
Don't act emotional.. If you don't like them at all, try to think of them as a stranger and have good manners. Period.

My husband and I both see exes from time to time, while out at shows and whatnot. His ex was very persistent for the first few years that he and I were together - I know it drove her nuts that I never seemed phased by her, and now she has finally moved on. Of course it pissed me off and it creeped my husband out, but I never lost my cool publicly. My one ex (from over 9 years ago) was a pain in the ass too but has since left us the fuck alone.

We each have other less rude exes who we get along with ok. Not "friends" per se, but acquaintances. And that's because they don't act like jerks.

When it comes to bad exes, I think moving on and acting as if you've moved on is the best way to handle it.
11/24/2010
Danielle1220 Danielle1220
I just act like I dont see them. LOL I'm good at doing that. I have nothing to say so i just keep walking.
11/24/2010
cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
My ex is annoying as hell. I wish he would just find some bar skank already and leave me the heck alone! I blocked him from my phone and I don't answer the door when he comes over, but it's irritating that he still hasn't given up. :|

Other exes that I see usually don't phase me, we avoid each other or say hi and continue on our way. I tend not to make much contact with them since I usually end up "making up for lost time" .... :p
11/24/2010
darthkitt3n darthkitt3n
I thought I saw one of mine once somewhere. With just that guy, I like the idea of being a total bitch to him. I just always have this feeling that he deserves anything bad that comes his way. He was all whiny at me when he saw I was dating my current boyfriend, which he only found out by Facebook stalking me.
11/25/2010
Naughty Student Naughty Student
I haven't run into any of my exes for many years. This year though one of my ex's added me on facebook, which is fine. We started to talk a bit about the past and how thigs ended. It was mutual and it ended well but we were both confused at the time.

Anywho's I stopped chatting with him eventually bcs I didn't know what to tell him. He would share with me how fucked up his life was and it was all his doing and I just never knew how to tell him to eat the shit that he shat. So eventually he removed me from his friends, which is fine also.

If I ran into him in person I would def take him in my arms and wish him the best in his life. I have a lot of compassion for him, I did love him, but now I just feel really sorry for him. He is miserable and he needs to live in a different way.
11/25/2010
KnK KnK
Depending on which ex. There's one particular one who dumped me the week he told me that he wanted me to meet his parents, on the day after he took me to the military ball, on the day of a job interview, which was also the weekend before finals.

Needless to say, I WAS PISSED. I had to drag the answer out of him, and essentially he didn't like the fact that I was who I was. Apparently, I'm not enough of a lady. He wanted me to be pretty but silent at the mil ball like some sort of trophy wife.

When I see him. I pretend he's not there. I stare right past him, try my best to look sexy and walk past him with my head held high like he's the biggest piece of shit I've ever encountered.

I haven't seen him in awhile, but when I did, it certainly pissed me off.
11/26/2010
GravyCakes GravyCakes
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Originally posted by jdloelo
Have you ever encountered the ex? Was it awkward? Do you have any suggestions on how to handle functions that mutual friends are organizing where the ex may be attending?
well, i run into 1 of my x's all the time, but he's 1 where we're both over each other, still cool, & still occasionally hang out. for my other x, if i know he's going to be somewhere, i just avoid or ignore him. depending on how it ended & how soon, this may be easier said then done, but the best thing to do is just ignore them. if they come up & start talking to u, just be polite. either talk to them w/out being mean or rude, or just make up an excuse to have to leave like, "oh, my friend over there needs to talk to me," or maybe something like that. just try to be the bigger person & not cause drama. that's what i would do.
05/05/2011
MaryExy MaryExy
I haven't had my ex come up to me and stuff after we broke off contact. My present guy's sis apparently ran into his ex at the grocery store one day (it was a serious relationship, she broke up with him because she wanted kids ASAP). The ex acted all interested in hearing about him, while she's married with a kid now. Her fault for losing him. Mine now!
05/05/2011
froggiemoma froggiemoma
i see ex all the time because of our kids . we get along for the most part
05/05/2011
MrRainybowbow MrRainybowbow
I talk to them like their beneath me =]
05/05/2011
ac0313 ac0313
Have not yet, but it will probably happen at some point and it will not be fun. I ended a 24 yr marriage and my SO now is much younger than me. Odd thing is I feel like my SO is far more compatible with me and loves me more than all of my prior girlfriends and ex-wife combined.
05/06/2011
slynch slynch
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Originally posted by froggiemoma
i see ex all the time because of our kids . we get along for the most part
I'm in the same situation.

We (my current wife and I) are counting down until I never have to deal with her and her drama anymore.
05/06/2011
Collodion Collodion
I've run into a few ex's - the ones that were amicable we usually either mutually ignore one another or say "hi"...but the abusive/unsavoury ones I usually just do my damndest to ignore, although I would probably engage in polite chatter if cornered.

It's never comfortable, but sometimes you can make it less painful by avoiding the situation...when possible, that is. Nothing sucks more than walking into your favourite comic shop an spotting a nasty ex...but taking the high road is always a classy move.
05/06/2011
K101 K101
Yes! I believe my partner has met/came in contact with every one of my exs! Lol. One situation was very bad! I had an ex who would call all the time & start shit. He would say that I was out with him having sex and stuff and every time I'd be sitting right next to the BF, but after it went on for 6 months and we were on a family vacation in the smokies in a wonderfully huge cabin, the ex kept calling and saying I had gave him head the night before (never was true, & the BF knew it. We were on vacation together) so it turned into a phone problem night after night & I finally changed my number.

Then, he had known my other ex's because one was a distant cousin of his and one was a very close friend of his. The cousin and I had broken up about a year before & we've always been fairly civil with him. He treated me awfully bad, but we have all talked and we don't keep in touch. No reason to ever keep in touch with an Ex when you're in a relationship. Then there was the sissy-boy ex who cried and cut himself when we broke up and just insisted on being a part of my life and we all got along OK, but this EX was friend's with my twin's BF who had beaten her up.

The BF & I went to my twin's BF'S house to help her & get her BF off of her and he was angry with us for it and started a WORLD of shit all over our town. Each time we'd leave the house him and his buddies (one being my EX) would come at us. He threatened to beat me up for helping my twin who's eyeball was barely still in it's socket. The entire bottom was torn off! Anyways, my BF told him to stay away from me & my sister & of course he got his "buddies" on us. It turned out to be non-stop fights for a long time. It was hell. Those guys found us every time we were out. The BF finally beat the guy up after he hit him & then they found my BF while I was in the tanning bed & hit him with a golf club It was messy, but he wasn't hurt. All the boys ended up apologizing.

They started a lot of mischief in our town though. They went after one guy while he was working at subway & they all beat him up & it was awful! They hurt one guy so badly that he was in the hospital with brain swelling. Thank God they ended their fighting all over town. IT WAS HELL!

So, ex's, if they're crazy, are best to avoid! Now, if you have to see them or you run into them. Just be polite & I think it best to say hi & bye and be on your way. Lol
05/11/2011
sexygoddess sexygoddess
I run into my mans ex all the time. She's sewn herself into his family. and she uses them for money. :/ Bugs the crap out of me. and she tries to make me jealous.
05/12/2011
Ms. Paprika Ms. Paprika
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Originally posted by jdloelo
Have you ever encountered the ex? Was it awkward? Do you have any suggestions on how to handle functions that mutual friends are organizing where the ex may be attending?
How I react depends on how our breakup went...but if it was a bad breakup I tend to get really awkward when I see them. Usually I figure out a way to look busy, or excuse myself from the room, because I just don't want to talk to him. But if it was a good breakup we're usually pretty cool. At the very least politeness is maintained. If they have another significant other with them that it's always awkward, at least for me. I can't help but look at them and wonder.
05/15/2011
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