Is Sex on a First Date a Relationship Killer?

I think it really depends on the situation. My hubby and I were friends for years, so when we slept together it was actually considered our first date afterward. I have not slept with people on the first date prior to that due to the fact that I did not know them well enough to figure out if there was any basis for attraction and a relationship. I don't play games, I just don't sleep around either. There has to be something there first for me.

Option A doesn't even make sense. Aren't these guys that supposedly "lose interest" in women after having sex on the first date there participating in the act? What place do they have being more critical of the women in that situation than they are of themselves? If a guy doesn't want to have sex on the first date then he should decline the offer, not judge his partner based on it later on.

If a man thinks he's more entitled to whatever sexual opportunity he receives while a woman should have to work for it or take her time for fear of looking like she sleeps around... well, he's a hypocrite and his interest isn't worth holding on to.

I've always engaged in whatever behavior I wanted on whatever "date" I wanted. It's always turned out fine and no one has ever called me a "slut" or "lost interest" (although I've had a few one night stands, which were understood to be one night stands). My mantra is: do what you want.

I've always just done whatever I wanted in those instances. My current partner and I had sex really quickly after meeting, and I was expecting a one night stand, but his interest was majorly piqued, so he pursued me. He was really wonderful, and I ended up falling in love with him too. Now we're in it for the long haul.

I think it depends on the people involved and their maturity level. A mature man won't "lose interest" after sex on a first date in my opinion. Gotta love that lame ass double standard.

maybe it isn't a dealbreaker for a relationship. sometimes, you just really really hit it off.

Absolutely not. I think that if you are friends with someone beforehand it can be extremely hot.

I've done it only twice, and I've had both results.

The first time, he and I agreed we were "on" and it was going to be an awesome relationship. We met the week before on a dating site and were emailing and IM'ing everyday, and he lived in the same area. And we just really hit it off intellectually and physically.

Five days of silence after that one date, then a defriending on FB the day after Valentine's Day, no explanation whatsoever.

Later met another online, emailed two months, met in person for a five day long date (since he lived in another country), had sex that first night of meeting, declared that we intend to keep it going.

Eleven months after meeting online (nine months after the long weekend date), Master and I are still together and neither of us are opposed to anything permanent. But we're exclusive to each other, anyway.

It REALLY depends on the person.

In counseling, my counselor said getting too physical too fast was probably why my relationships didn't work. I started my current relationship as drunken hookups so I am all paranoid and insecure that it is not going to work. But I knowwwww it really depends on the people involved.

I have sex on the first date, regardless. I like to use at as an indicator, and those men that wanted a one time thing obviously aren't valuable to me as future partners. I like one night stands, but I also would like something to come out of it, at least an acquaintance like status. Those that stick around and didn't want me as a "sex object" become that much more attractive to me.

I may not necessarily date them, but I've made some wonderful friends even though we had sex on the first date. I don't think someone is worth any less because we had sex so soon. Quite the opposite.

It depends on the situation and the person. In some cases it may kill the chances for a relationship but it depends on the individual. I feel pretty strongly that if things connect well and you can be sure about your safety with a new partner, if you use protection you should be fine to have sex early on. I've had two relationships were I had sex early on in the partnership and it did not jeopardize our changes at a relationship. In fact, I feel it brought us together since we were being completely honest with each other. Again it depends on the partner and how well you connect too. Every situation is different. However, I firmly believe any men who would judge a women for having sex on the first date and would write her off for acting on her sexual desires is not the kind of guy you want to be in a relationship with anyway.

I confess that I lose respect for men who are willing to do it on the first date too. It works both ways. That is, I lose respect if there isn't a certain amount of rapport first.

I slept with my husband on the first date, but we had spent 20+ hours talking before that first date.

I didn't have sex with my boyfriend until a few months in and I still feel it was way too fast. Sex doesn't make sense to me outside of a committed relationship. If there's no emotional connection then why wouldn't I just masturbate?