When to start being sexual?

indiechick indiechick
When in your relationship/ how long into dating do you wait to have sex (anal, oral and/or vaginal) Does this change depending on gender of partner?
05/03/2012
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nanamondoute nanamondoute
I'm also curious into what other people say too. I don't really have a good time frame either, because I'm always afraid that if I do it too early, will it just be the guy using me to get sex and not to actually be with me because he likes me?
05/03/2012
indiechick indiechick
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Originally posted by nanamondoute
I'm also curious into what other people say too. I don't really have a good time frame either, because I'm always afraid that if I do it too early, will it just be the guy using me to get sex and not to actually be with me because he likes me?
I know, but then I also worry that if I really like the person and I wait to long that he'll find someone else...I know people say that "those guys aren't worth it" but what if they are?

Also I've had friends that I am super close to, but that there is never going to be a relationship there, but we can "have fun" together and no one gets hurt. sex can be complicated but it depends on the situation, I just want to know thoughts on the topic and this seemed like the least judgy group to come to
05/03/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
Depends a lot on how long we've known each other prior. I've had a few people who I was quasi-dating, so we started faster than when it was someone who I didn't know much before we were dating.
05/03/2012
indiechick indiechick
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Originally posted by gsfanatic
Depends a lot on how long we've known each other prior. I've had a few people who I was quasi-dating, so we started faster than when it was someone who I didn't know much before we were dating.
agreed
05/04/2012
Boobs and Lubes Boobs and Lubes
depends on how long it takes to get her pants off.LOL Really, as soon as everyone is mature enough to handle it.
05/04/2012
hall5885 hall5885
Depending on how long I've known them before dating. If I never met them before dating them, I would wait at least a month or about 5 dates.
05/04/2012
quinceykay quinceykay
I do it pretty soon, but I probably wouldn't on the first date.
05/04/2012
indiechick indiechick
Quote:
Originally posted by Boobs and Lubes
depends on how long it takes to get her pants off.LOL Really, as soon as everyone is mature enough to handle it.
interesting answer
05/05/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
Pretty quickly. I find if I wait too long then it gets into the uncomfortable friend stage and I don't want them to see me naked and what not.
05/05/2012
indiechick indiechick
Quote:
Originally posted by Geogeo
Pretty quickly. I find if I wait too long then it gets into the uncomfortable friend stage and I don't want them to see me naked and what not.
God knows I've been there
05/06/2012
thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
I don't really have a set time - in high school, I only dated one guy, and we waited over a year to do anything at that level. However, with my first partner in college, that became a couple months, and with my third, a few weeks. It really depends on my comfort level with that person and with myself, and because I am still in the process of growing up and getting comfortable with myself sexually, with each new partner it has been easier and less nerve-wracking to get physically intimate for the first time.
05/28/2012
TheCleansing TheCleansing
I dunno. It really depended on the person in the past.
05/28/2012
nova2014 nova2014
I'm a female and we waited about 3 months
12/09/2012
mjtheprincess mjtheprincess
You know, this used to be my thought, and then I went through a stage where I just didn't care, and my thoughts got very muddy. About half of the guys I hooked up with quickly were crazy about me after (in an emotional way), and the other half pretended to be emotionally in to me because they liked the hook up. haha

but, then i met my current man. and our chemistry...oh dear god. I have NEVER had that kind of physical and emotional connection with anyone. We ended up sleeping together the first night I ever went in to his house...oops. Afterwords, i was super upset, deathy afraid i had just ruined my chance at a really good relationship. He told me 'this only ruins things if you allow it to.'

Two years later, we are living together and he is saving for the crazy expensive engagment ring I have had my eye on for most of my life. Haha, so sometimes it all works out.

That being said, I wait until I can't wait...
12/10/2012
libbyv libbyv
Quote:
Originally posted by indiechick
When in your relationship/ how long into dating do you wait to have sex (anal, oral and/or vaginal) Does this change depending on gender of partner?
when you're ready
12/27/2012
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