which is worse?

Contributor: kawigrl kawigrl
which is worse mismatching kinks or a totally vanilla partner who's unwilling to try kink. Just thinking to myself would I rather have a vanilla partner or a partner that just isn't into the same kinks or fetish
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
vanilla
45  (73%)
mismatching kinks
17  (27%)
Total votes: 62
Poll is closed
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Contributor: Cream in the Cupcake Cream in the Cupcake
Hard one. At first I clicked "vanilla" but If they had "kinks" that I was really uncomfortable with I would be more turned off than an overly vanilla partner. I would think the vanilla partner would eventually open up. Me and my boyfriend have opened up a lot to eachother and it makes sex much more enjoyable. He is not into really kinky stuff but he has his moments.
04/05/2011
Contributor: HoneyHoney HoneyHoney
Quote:
Originally posted by kawigrl
which is worse mismatching kinks or a totally vanilla partner who's unwilling to try kink. Just thinking to myself would I rather have a vanilla partner or a partner that just isn't into the same kinks or fetish
I think a middle would be better.
04/05/2011
Contributor: UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
I think somebody that was just into vanilla sex would be worse. I would imagine that it would get boring after a while.
04/05/2011
Contributor: wetone123 wetone123
Quote:
Originally posted by UnknownGirl
I think somebody that was just into vanilla sex would be worse. I would imagine that it would get boring after a while.
Ditto!
04/05/2011
Contributor: Joie de Cherresse Joie de Cherresse
Vanilla sex is boring. But on the bright side of that one, at least they might open up at some point. As far as the mismatched kinks, well I'm up to try anything at least once, lol.
04/06/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
If all you do is vanilla sex, then it can get boring really fast.
04/06/2011
Contributor: Lithaewyn Lithaewyn
Vanilla. That relationship would be over very fast, not because I'm against vanilla but because I wouldn't be getting what I need sexually and that would put a lot of strain on a relationship. That partner would feel pressured out of my unhappiness.
04/06/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I voted vanilla. At least if you have different kinks, you're more likely to be open to exploring other stuff together. A lot of vanilla people aren't even open to exploring that kind of stuff.
04/06/2011
Contributor: bluekaren bluekaren
Vanilla definitely! I cold work with mismatching kinks! Who knows I might discover something new!!!
04/06/2011
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
I thought mismatched would be worse. Some things I'm NOT into (water sports, "candy"); at least with vanilla you can introduce them to fun things
04/06/2011
Contributor: tickle me pink tickle me pink
I say vanilla is worse. I'm usually pretty open to considering new kinks, and I might even find something new that I really like. And as far as them liking my kinks, I think it would be easier to get my partner to try them if they were already kinky as opposed to someone who didn't want to try anything to begin with.
04/06/2011
Contributor: nicole07 nicole07
vanilla
04/07/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
Vanilla is worse if they're unwilling to experiment and push their boundaries. With mismatched kinks at least you know they're willing to expand their sexual repertoire and you can both push each others limits together.
04/07/2011
Contributor: froggiemoma froggiemoma
vailla would be worse for me
04/09/2011
Contributor: barrettbn2 barrettbn2
Vanilla
04/10/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
I'd rather have a vanilla because if my partner had a sort of kink that involved hurting me, anything along the lines of abusive kink (except the simple rough stuff like bondage or not too serious throwing around) would really cause problems for me. I don't deal well with that because of previous issues, but that's about the only reason I would mind mismatching kinks. I just couldn't stand to be punched or something during sex.
04/16/2011
Contributor: Fuck it. Fuck it.
Mismatching kinks would be worse. There's certain things I'm just not into and am not willing to try. I can do vanilla longer than I can stand to be choked.
04/19/2011
Contributor: extrafun extrafun
I think Im kinky enought to try anytyhing at least once.
04/19/2011
Contributor: MaryExy MaryExy
Quote:
Originally posted by extrafun
I think Im kinky enought to try anytyhing at least once.
Agreed. If my guy was straight vanilla I think that would be worse. I'd find it hard to nudge him into anything kinky. But different kinks? I'd be willing to try it, I'm flexible.
04/19/2011
Contributor: sexygoddess sexygoddess
You need a little spice in your life
04/22/2011
Contributor: lover15456 lover15456
04/23/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by Fuck it.
Mismatching kinks would be worse. There's certain things I'm just not into and am not willing to try. I can do vanilla longer than I can stand to be choked.
Lol! I agree there!
04/23/2011
Contributor: johnad45 johnad45
I agree there
08/21/2011
Contributor: FaerieLove FaerieLove
Vanilla and kink doesnt mix at all.
08/21/2011
Contributor: Paladin Fantasys Paladin Fantasys
I'm new to toys and have recently found that I like anal play with plugs and vibrators and especially to be pegged. Is that kink?

My wife doesn't like penetrating toys, toys for clitoral stimulation is her comfort zone, no anal. But, she's understanding of my anal needs and will manipulate my toys and peg me with enthusiasm. Is that vanilla?
08/21/2011
Contributor: SadoMas SadoMas
mismatching kinks
08/13/2012
Contributor: Alyxx Alyxx
Vanilla.
10/01/2012
Contributor: BrittaniMaree BrittaniMaree
vanilla
10/01/2012
Contributor: CindyH CindyH
mismatching kinks
10/01/2012