As a person who's currently in a long-distance relationship, I'd love to know everyone else's take on them.
How do they make you feel? Would you ever want to be in one, or have you already? Did you like the relationship, or did you have a tough time dealing with the distance?
I am in love with my little girl, but it's hard to be away from her for as long as I've been. I haven't seen her in quite a long time now, it's very upsetting. I would much prefer for her to with me, but it's not something that I can necessarily change (neither of us have the money or resources to move in together, and I'm currently attending college).
Though I do want to stay with her and need to stay with her, I am not alright with the distance. It is much too difficult for the both of us to handle. She constantly disobeys me because she easily can - all that she has to do is hang up the phone on me, not respond to my emails, or sign off on me. No little girl should do that, but she still does simply because she's able to. When she's here with me, she is not so disobedient or bad.
As a person who's currently in a long-distance relationship, I'd love to know everyone else's take on them.
How do they make you feel? Would you ever want to be in one, or have you already? Did you like the relationship, or did you have a
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As a person who's currently in a long-distance relationship, I'd love to know everyone else's take on them.
How do they make you feel? Would you ever want to be in one, or have you already? Did you like the relationship, or did you have a tough time dealing with the distance?
I'm in a LDR, and it's HARD. We don't have the money to go traveling across the country every few weeks, so we don't get to see each other that much. I'm okay with it because I love him very much and want to be with him - but I definitely don't *like* it. Sometimes, it's almost too much to take.
And as long as we're talking about it, that new car commercial where the girl is bragging about how her fiance drives 400 miles to see her every weekend PISSES ME OFF!!!! Sounds nice and romantic for the commercial, but that doesn't work in the real world and just makes the rest of us feel lousy.
I am in love with my little girl, but it's hard to be away from her for as long as I've been. I haven't seen her in quite a long time now, it's very upsetting. I would much prefer for her to with me, but it's not something that I can necessarily
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I am in love with my little girl, but it's hard to be away from her for as long as I've been. I haven't seen her in quite a long time now, it's very upsetting. I would much prefer for her to with me, but it's not something that I can necessarily change (neither of us have the money or resources to move in together, and I'm currently attending college).
Though I do want to stay with her and need to stay with her, I am not alright with the distance. It is much too difficult for the both of us to handle. She constantly disobeys me because she easily can - all that she has to do is hang up the phone on me, not respond to my emails, or sign off on me. No little girl should do that, but she still does simply because she's able to. When she's here with me, she is not so disobedient or bad.
We're having the same problem. I'd already gotten the college scholarship when I met Rich, and I couldn't just throw away 2 free years of academics to move.
I couldn't stand if someone were to hang up on me or ignore me, though. That's just not cool
My boyfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for almost 4 years. I put "I'm alight with it" but it's certainly not something either of us like by any means. But we deal with it because we know we'll be together for good in a couple years. It's pointless for us to be miserable while we're apart - it only makes us cranky and argumentative with each other.
You have not chosen a simple path by being in a LDR. If it's something that you both really want and need, then you both have to work hard for it. Communication is of the utmost importance, and sometimes you need to compromise. One thing that I've found helpful is setting a date and knowing exactly when my boyfriend and I will see each other next. It gives us something to look forward to, even if it's not in the very near future.
We're having the same problem. I'd already gotten the college scholarship when I met Rich, and I couldn't just throw away 2 free years of academics to move.
I couldn't stand if someone were to hang up on me or ignore me, though. That's just
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We're having the same problem. I'd already gotten the college scholarship when I met Rich, and I couldn't just throw away 2 free years of academics to move.
I couldn't stand if someone were to hang up on me or ignore me, though. That's just not cool
I understand what you mean. It is too much to take, always. And no, I cannot stand it either. Especially when she turns off her phone on me afterward and acts the next day as if she didn't do anything wrong. HAHA!
The reason why I said "alright" with it was meaning "alright with the distance." I didn't want to say like or dislike because that makes it seem as if I'm saying whether you like the relationship with the person you're with or not. I wasn't sure which wording would seem more correct. I definitely do not like the distance and am not alright with the distance either.
LikeSunshineDust: No, you are correct, I didn't choose a simple path - I've never been the type of person to take the easy way out of things. And I agree. We've been together for about three years now. We have been trying to see each other, but neither of us have the money and she isn't particularly too compromising or obedient.
It does help knowing an exact date, I definitely agree. When she visited me last year, we got into a fight about a week or two beforehand, but we calmed down a lot because we were so happy that we would be seeing each other. But she doesn't even have the money to get a plane ticket, so we have no idea when we'll be seeing each other again. One of my rules for her is to not buy anything without my approval, but she does so anyway.
I agree that it's pointless to be miserable about it, because it also makes us both very upset with each other and frustrated.
Almost all of my relationships have been long distance/online and, to be honest, sometimes that is what I wanted - especially because I hadn't already met those people. I enjoyed the freedom it involved but many of those relationships were not very serious. It never got the point of being too much to take. However, much of the time I've been with my husband has been apart and it has been horrible. It's hard to not be upset even though it's not very productive. Thankfully, that's behind us.
I'm in one of over 2 years, and more years to come. We live in different states, me on the west coast and him in the south. I want to move there, but he's currently going to college, and I don't have the funds. So I figure 2-5 more years to go. It's hard, yes, and I finally saw him last May which visiting for 2 weeks and cried my eyes out when I left, but he wants to see through this as do I because we want to get married someday.
It's very very hard, but we hope it'll be totally be worth it in the end.
My relationship with my Husband started online/long distance. It was hard to just use the phone and webcam. When we finally met in person, there was no way in hell that I was leaving him. So he ended up traveling back with me and we've been together since. There was a period where he had to do a three month work training away from me with only various weekends at home. It killed me. I wasn't okay with it.
I know I could do it again if I had to, but the quality of life and of the relationship suffers so much if we can't be together. My boy and I had to be apart for about a month during a move it was rougher on him than it was on me, even though we've both been through LDRs before. I would do everything within reason to keep us from having to live apart. Our lives are just so much richer within each other's presence.
I have never been in a LDR myself, but I know two people who are, and they are experiencing the very same things. Because of the lack of physical contact, the time they can spend together online or on the phone has become vital to their sanity. Webcam sex only does so much, and both are feeling the insufficiency of it. They are quicker to argue over minor things, also.
Having never done it, it's hard to imagine what it must be like to want to be with someone so bad it hurts, but not be able to. The longest I have ever been apart from my husband was four days when I had to attend a seminar, and that was the hardest four days I ever spent in my life. Those who do it obviously have more courage than I would.
He goes to college and is about 10 hours by car away, or about 5 hours if I go by air. It sucks, and we just had to go 6 weeks without seeing each other in person [fortunately, I just got to spend the weekend with him]. It works out... sorta... I'm usually okay with the distance, since it's only temporary. Even if I don't end up at his college [though I do want to go there for reasons unrelated to him], I'm probably going to go to one either much closer, or much more convenient by air... Nonetheless, not seeing him often drives me insane.
We don't really argue more or less than before [though we have... weird arguments], but there's a lot more strain... It'd be easier if we didn't have to occasionally go weeks without seeing each other. 3 weeks, okay, but kinda sucky. 6 weeks where he's working his ass off each week, and we can't talk half the days? I can barely stand it.
At least I see him in two weeks. I was with him this morning, and I already miss him.
we have about 2 hours between suck, but it really helps us keep things in perspective. We appreciate our time together and understand that it's on temporary.
For me,though, the distance has been a good thing. In the past, I've rushed through relationships to get to get good parts only to have them end that much sooner. With the distance now, I've had to pace myself (both of us really) and take the time to smell the roses.
We still plan on having our house of cats someday, something to look forward too.
My husband is 1500 miles away and its been killing me. In the past, I've had the summer time away type boyfriends (before I was hitched and before I realized I was poly)- they're not like AWESOME, but they were fine. Anyways, I'm not sure what's different now but this has been very hard lately
There are many people in my life who I love. Some orgasm intimate, some just intensely emotionally intimate, etc etc. I am OK, because I have to be, with being long distance from all those in my life that I love - as fun as it would be to have all my "people" in one city, the friends, lovers and family I have all lead full lives and thus that's just not reasonable.
I know this poll was asking about being in a primary committed relationship, but I really feel the "long distance emotions" extend to best friends, siblings etc etc.
Thank goodness for the amazing levels of connectivity we're able to have, now a days. With skype, I can talk to and see people for free. I can send a text message and a picture of a goofy little thing I discover in my day to day life that I wish to share with someone far away. I feel incredibly fortunate to have so many options at my disposal.
All that said, however, nothing - absolutely nothing - has diminished the pain of not being able to hold my husband tight when I fall asleep at night.
I have never been in a long-distance relationship but would if that was the way things worked out. I would be so happy to have found the person I want to be with that it would outweigh the drawbacks. I would at least give it a try. I think if you are willing and if it is what should be it will work itself out. I am at a place in my life where I have realized that the hard things in life are usually the right decisions. Sometimes the sacrifices make things better or the best.
Maybe I feel like this b/c my closest friends live 1000 miles away and that really sucks as well. But with the internet and text messaging technology really helps. Long distance emotions, long distance friendship, long distance love is just plain hard but I have found to be so rewarding and I don't know what I would do without it!
I've had long-distance parts of non-long-distance relationships, for months at a time while I've lived abroad. The first couple of times were okay, but this last one with my current partner was so heart-wrenching that we made each other promise that we'd never be apart for that long again.
I was in a long distance relationship once. We started off living in the same state and then I moved to Boston for college. Needless to say it did not last long! It was horrible and the distance made it very hard for him to stay faithful....or so I convince myself it was the distance!
More often than not, dating or being married to someone in the military means part of your relationship WILL be long distance. You'll see each other maybe 1 week out of 24, if they're allowed to come home for Christmas, etc.
When you're used to being with someone everyday, as soon as there's a distance, it can be or become unbearable. Every deployment was Hell, I don't know how I survived them, especially after the birth of our son. Different time zones resulted in few phone calls and an occasional email, I didn't often get the chance to hear his voice while he was away. But somehow we survived. Thank the stars for the internet because while the emails were far and few, they were better than a missed phone call.
If we had to do long distance by choice we wouldn't. There is absolutely no way needy, self-absorbed me can be without her man. He's my rock, I'm incredibly codependent and without my rock, I'd crumble.
I voted other for the simple reason that for the months of october through april I am usually what I like to call myself "wife-solo" because of my husband's profession. There are some weekends where he is able to come home but then there are sometimes where we could go weeks or even a couple months without seeing eachother. I have to say that I do not enjoy it but I know that it has to be done for us to live the life we have. Like Sleeping Dreamer, I too am codependent on my husband and the days seem to get longer every time he has to leave. There are somedays were I wonder where my strength for that day came from but I count my blessings everytime that I have someone so amazing and is very understanding when I get emotional; for he is by far NOT the emotional one in this marriage! (lol)
I give those who endure the LDR for years major kudos!!!
I'm not and I think that I would have trouble, my partner and I have a lot of trouble being away from each other for long periods of time. We both feel like something is missing and we can't figure out why.
My sister is currently in a long distance relationship now, sometimes I worry that it is hard on her or that it may be hard on her boyfriend so he might break up with her and hurt her in the end. (Just me being protective) I commend her on it though, that she can do that - which is great!
I'm in a long distance relationship, and even though it is probably the hardest thing I have ever been through, it is worth it. We met online, and have yet to meet in person. We have been affectionate, and emotionally attached for a little over a year. If and when I get the chance to hold his hand, I doubt I'll let it go easily. We will most likely end up staying together from that point on because we have such a close bond.
It's hard on both of us, because we are still young and have a lot to do before we can be together. We are both willing to wait as long as it takes for us to get our lives in order, but I don't think we will last with the distance. I'm pretty sure we will find a way to be with each other as soon as we possibly can. Neither one of us have the resources to travel to each other with our situations right now, but we both understand, and continue to count down the days, and make future plans for when we are together for good. It's something to look forward to and gives up hope that things will turn out in our favor. We have faith, and trust in one another, and only time will tell what happens with us.
Hit the send button before I finished....doh! Anyhow it's not easy especially with our son in the mix now. That stupid line in the sand keeps us apart. Now because the American government hs gone power drunk he can't even visit because they are certain he'll try to emmigrate. he's a 6 foot tall pollack, you know blonde, blue eyed, greek god-like (my mother says that lol)...definately terrorist material! He's a freakin security guard for the second largest company in the world...the same company that provides airport security all over the US and Canada, point is he had to undergo a major security check to even get the damn job but he's a security risk. It boggles the mind! No one in their right mind would quit a job like the one he's got to work illegally in another country but hey they can deny him entry so why not? Still he'll be here soon ( I keep telling myself that...)
I've actually never had a relationship in person. lol
I have a thing for Englishmen, and living in Florida doesn't really work for that, so I'm mostly doing facebook/cyber relationships. It sucks, because I have absolutely no physical experience, but on the bright side I do have a lot of experience expressing myself sexually, which I'm sure will come in handy.
Well I didn't put that I'm currently in a long-distance relationship, but I might as well be. Emotionally, it's all there. However, I've had one LDR in the past that was terrible, and my guy doesn't believe in LDRs, so we agreed not to put a label on it beyond friends. So I'm not technically in one; in theory I'm free to do what I please with whomever I please, but I've chosen not to take advantage of that, and I prefer not to think about whether or not he's taking advantage of it (the thought drives me a bit crazy).
So yes, it's a messy situation, but we still talk for hours on a daily basis which keeps me mostly happy.
To qualify as "long distance", I mean more than a few hours drive (maximum) away from each other/only seeing each other monthly or longer.
I tried this in college and it was very difficult. Personally, I would never get in one again due to my own relationship needs, but it can work for others if you are committed. I do think that a couple needs to have some sort of basis to build trust and a connection at the start though. For this reason, I don't think having a long distance relationship from the start is a very good idea, just because there is no way for it to really solidify itself without undue hardship and stress on the relationship.
As a person who's currently in a long-distance relationship, I'd love to know everyone else's take on them.
How do they make you feel? Would you ever want to be in one, or have you already? Did you like the relationship, or did you have a
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As a person who's currently in a long-distance relationship, I'd love to know everyone else's take on them.
How do they make you feel? Would you ever want to be in one, or have you already? Did you like the relationship, or did you have a tough time dealing with the distance?
I was in one for quite a while and it was disatorous. We were both young, good looking, and full of ourselves and with all those hormones raging around it was only a matter of time before one of us did something stupid. We were snarling at each other almost every time we talked because we were just so frustrated with the whole thing, so we finally ended up breaking up.
It's sad, in a way, because other than the distance, he was the perfect guy for me. But I've just never been able to put up with long periods of celibacy.
I have been in long distance relationships before and I was fine with them. Most of our relationship was like that and it made the summers and time together that much more special and appreciated.
My husband is military. That being said I am not in a long distance relationship seeing how he is state side right now but talk to me in a month, or next week and that might be different. Part of our marriage is his bag and packed in the upstairs closet and him always just coming home to be here for a year to turn around and leave again. So speaking from the military spouse point of view I'm happy and in love with my husband and see the possitives of military life and long distance relationships everyday. Then I also see the cheating sluts that can't take long distance relationships and I see the pain that comes from those... but thier another story and most of them should have never been married in the first place.
Do I like being away from my partner? Absolutely not, but I've done it before. I'm a strong woman and can remain faithful to my partner. I just have the problem of partnering with people who cannot seem to remain faithful.
Distance is hard, yes. I swore myself off of distance relationships until I met my last partner. He was never unfaithful, things just didn't work out and that's fine. Am I opposed to it ever happening again? Not at all. It's hard, but it's worth it in the end if you both can stick through it and remain faithful to one another.
