Would you ever have a long-distance relationship?

Would you ever have a long-distance relationship?

 
 
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Originally posted by Sir
As a person who's currently in a long-distance relationship, I'd love to know everyone else's take on them.

How do they make you feel? Would you ever want to be in one, or have you already? Did you like the relationship, or did you have a ... More
Yes, I would have a long distance relationship if I really knew the person and we were in love, and the trust was there. If it were a newer relationship and the trust wasn't quite there yet I think it would be too hard.
Jan 4, 2:54 pm
Illusional Illusional
I'm about to be away from mine again. Sigh.
Jan 4, 3:14 pm
(k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
My partner and I used to live 250 miles (approximately 3-4 hours) apart, and it was rough, but we managed. We talked on the phone every night and visited when we could. But nothing can compare to physical contact, to seeing each other. I eventually couldn't take it anymore and moved home (transferring to a local college) so we could be with each other again.
Jan 4, 5:03 pm
sktb0007 sktb0007
I've tried this before and it doesn't work out (for me).
Jan 4, 9:55 pm
Curiouscat Curiouscat
I'm in a long-distance relationship at the moment. My guys away in college. His family lives a bit away to. Good thing he's graduating this year!
Jan 4, 10:17 pm
TameTemptress TameTemptress
My husband and I did not start out long distance, but went through periods of being long distance due to his serving in the military...for training, schools, and being stationed far away before we were married. After we were married, I didn't really consider us having a long distance relationship, but we did have periods of time where he was in a school or deployed and we couldn't be together for weeks/months at a time. It's not my favorite thing in the world, but we managed.
Jan 4, 10:17 pm
ksparkles16 ksparkles16
I think it would be really hard to be in a long distance relationship and I don't think I'd ever want to be in one. It would be hard not to see each other enough. I also depends how far away you lived from one another.
Jan 11, 3:07 am
Entropy Entropy
I've been in one. It was an internet hookup back in the late 90's. She was about a six hour drive from me. I went up to see her once a month for four months, then it ended.
Jan 11, 3:32 am
MissMorrigan MissMorrigan
Quote:
Originally posted by Sir
As a person who's currently in a long-distance relationship, I'd love to know everyone else's take on them.

How do they make you feel? Would you ever want to be in one, or have you already? Did you like the relationship, or did you have a ... More
I've been in a few. I've always tried my best to make them work. Dealing with the distance is impossibly tough at times, but when you do get to spend some time with the other person you really appreciate every single second with them so much more.

I really loved every person I've ever had a LDR with, it's why I was willing to try so hard.

Trust is an issue though. Sometimes you can't help but think "Who are they with right now? Did they meet someone? Would they rather be with them and not me because of the distance?" and sometimes you're the one who found someone else. Some can handle it better than others, but I think everyone deserves a chance regardless of how far away they might be.

I met a guy in an online game almost 6 years ago. He was west coast, I was east. We talked every day for about a year before we admitted our feelings for one another. Shortly after, our server was shut down, he moved; we fell out of touch and I was heartbroken. Some time later, I signed on my messenger of choice and there he was. He instantly messaged me and apologized, was so sorry. His family had fallen on some very hard times and had been homeless for months before things fell through. We truly wanted to be together so for the next year or so we got our shit together. He visited a few times, and I moved in with him.

Been physically together for almost 4 years, and every single second of waiting was worth it.
Jan 17, 5:15 am
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
I tried a long distance relationship during my first year of college and it turned into an absolute fiasco for both of us. I would not do it again.
Jan 17, 11:08 am
chantal coopette chantal coopette
i don't think ldr work. too far apart and it takes a lot.. a ton.. of effort on both people.
Jan 18, 8:41 am
bayosgirl bayosgirl
Yes, I have, and I didn't like it. I don't think I would do it again.
Apr 29, 12:44 am
ejrbrndps ejrbrndps
sometimes I feel like im in one, we live about 25 minutes apart and work different hours so its hard right now to find time for anything
Apr 29, 12:59 am
BlooJay BlooJay
I've done the long distance thing before. And for me, it is okay to do for the right person.
Apr 29, 1:25 am
comatose-kitty comatose-kitty
I would strongly prefer to not have a long distance relationship.
Apr 29, 2:53 am
Undead Undead
No, it wouldn't work for me, maybe for a short term thing but not long term.
Apr 29, 3:06 am
Azule Azule
I've tried it once before and it really just was not something I could do for an extended period of time.
Apr 29, 3:17 am
Vegan Silk Vegan Silk
sex is too important to me. you have to be local.
Apr 29, 4:22 am
CadmiumKitty CadmiumKitty
i personally wouldnt be in a long distance relationship
May 21, 9:46 pm
silverdragonfly9 silverdragonfly9
It works for some people I was in one at one point and I hated it
May 23, 10:04 pm
lustylusty lustylusty
I just wouldnt be able to be away from someone I love for a long time.
Yesterday, 11:38 am
DynamicKitty DynamicKitty
Hubby and I were in a long distance relationship for a couple years before moving in together.
Yesterday, 11:44 am
Envoutes Envoutes
Honestly, the only kind of relationships I've been in are long-distance and online-based. I answered both ways on the poll though, because there are times when the distance doesn't bother me at all and (most times) when it kills me not to be able to see them. It's really the only type of relationship I've been able to experience, but it has its ups and downs.
Yesterday, 4:40 pm
lexical lexical
I selected both "I would never" and "I have been and was all right with it". There was a time in my life where I had a number of long-distance relationships all in a row. I will never do it again. I survived it at the time, but having now had more experiences with relationships under "normal" circumstances, I see how much it affected my ability to be physically and emotionally intimate with those long-distance folks. If I HAD to do it, I would, as in the case of beginning to date someone and then they have to move away for a while or something. But I would really resist starting another relationship with someone who already lives far away.
11:51 am
beatingthebinary beatingthebinary
I'm in a long distance relationship with two different people - we're a poly triad. It's not too hard to manage because I know it's temporary - I'll get to see my primary again in a few weeks when she visits, and once the school year starts again we'll be back at college together. We won't get to see our secondary partner again until she visits us during the school year, and she's taking a semester off so we won't be around her on a regular basis until next January, but the fact that we'll get to be around each other will make that easier to handle.
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