Well, I don't consider date automatically equaling sex.
My realistic fantasy date, would be meeting and spending a bunch of time at a used bookstore search for treasures, maybe hitting several used bookstores.
Then eating supper at one of my favorite places to eat, having him kiss me good night.
Erotic Date, go see a movie, and spend most of the movie fantasizing about each other. Then going to a grocery store, and buying items to cook together, then getting back to his place or mine and cooking together, brushing up against each other.
Eating together and having the sexual tension rising, and finally him just breaking the ice and kissing me and basically seducing me
I could see fondue feeding each other as being sexual too.