Massage

Ciao. Ciao.
The item I'm currently reviewing is a book on massage (review to be posted soon!) but I was just wondering how many people integrate massage regularly into their sex lives (or for that matter, non sexual lives). My partner and I will occasionally take the time out to relax and give each other long massages...but more often than not it's just a quick back rub or something...hardly good foreplay (like a long relaxing massage can be). Just curious about other people's experiences.
03/25/2009
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Sammi Sammi
I've only ever had a professional one once, and it was wonderful! We don't do a lot of massage usually. Sometimes my husband will give me a nice one, and it is good foreplay for sex.
03/25/2009
Machina Machina
A few years ago I was on medication that zapped my sex drive to zero. My poor boyfriend so desperately wanted sex he would do anything to get my juices flowing- this is how we got into tantric sex. About three nights a week I was treated to a full body massage- his attempt to boost my sex drive. At the time it didn't increase libido, but it felt really awesome.

When we did have sex it was so amazing. We got really into tantric sex. We would light candles, take turns giving each other full body massages, tickle one another with feathers, etc for at least 2 hours before the main event. The goal was pleasure and relaxation, not cumming, but it always led to mind blowing orgasms. It created an intimacy between us unlike any other, and felt much deeper than just sex.

Eventually I, like an idiot, broke up with him for some dumb reason. Worst mistake I have ever made. I had to learn the hard way a good man is hard to find. He was an *extremely* good man. I was so naive at the time I thought EVERY man was eager & willing to give full body massages & go down on you for hours. Silly Machina, so stupid. Soooo very stupid.
03/25/2009
Gatita Gatita
I'm a blessed to have a husband who not only realizes the benefits of a good massage, but can actually deliver one. He unfortunately suffered a horrible back injury while working in construction years ago & still has to deal with all the aches & pains associated with it. He knows only too well the magic a firm touch & warm oil can bring. Rubbing away my pain & stress is a norm for him. He does it without me asking, does it lovingly & often does it selfishlessly. I must admit I'm guilty of not returning the favor as often as I should. My poor guy has resorted to asking for days, calling me up at times to set an appt. with me for that evening & sometimes just begging (yeah, bad I know .. *bows her head in shame).

With his long hard work day & my running around with our 3 & soon to be 2 yr. old, a good massage often leads to deep sleep, however there are those wonderful times he oils me up, relaxes every tense muscle in my body & melts away my troubles to a point I'm putty in his hands. Everything said & done to me at this point is mind blowing!
03/25/2009
Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
My boyfriend and I gave each other back rubs and neck rubs before we even got together. I remember the first time he gave me a neck rub, I completely melted and thought to myself "Yeah... I'm totally getting this one and keeping him." Whenever I spend time with him, he inevitably asks me for a back rub if I don't ask him for one first. Usually, the back rubs I give him last longer than the ones he gives me, if only because he can't resist the sight of my bare back covered in massage oil. He has good, strong hands and is great at finding all the right spots to massage. I, on the other hand, like to experiment with different massage techniques, ranging from fingertips to knuckles to percussion to elbows (his favorite!) and, once, even using my feet to rub his back.

I'd say massages are DEFINITELY a big part of our shared sensual experiences. They're very relaxing and intimate.
03/25/2009
Naughty Student Naughty Student
I am practically always massaging my partner since he works in construction and gets sore. Its my way of showing to him I appreciate that he is working hard for both of us(I have money but I am a student so he tries to pay for most of things although we are pretty equal in our expenses). Sometimes it leads to sex but most times I massage him and he just discusses what he did at work and good or bad things that occurred. It lets him release and relax. I don't know if I could ever get a massage without twitching and giggling. I am so ticklish that a back rub has me balled up in a fetal position trying not to pee from laughter. Not very sexual. The nights that it does lead to sex are planned nights where everything is prepared in advance, the candles, music, oil is warm, pillows are set, etc. We make it a night of physical intimacy and deep expression of our love for each other.
03/26/2009
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Ciao.
The item I'm currently reviewing is a book on massage (review to be posted soon!) but I was just wondering how many people integrate massage regularly into their sex lives (or for that matter, non sexual lives). My partner and I will ... More
I love, love, love giving erotic massage as well as deeper relaxing massages. I have a box nearly full of different oils and massagers! My palms are very sensitive and the feeling of running my hands over a silken body is just so fucking sensual! I recently learned that I can calm myself by rubbing my palms over a soft pillow or a willing body. Either way neither of my guys complains overly! LOL
03/29/2009
Backseat Boohoo Backseat Boohoo
I love massages, but as much as I hate to admit it, they rarely turn me on. They usually relax me so much I fall asleep!
03/30/2009
Luscious Lily Luscious Lily
Massage used to be a huge part of our relationship, both sexual and non-sexual. It started with me "fixing" his back after a night of moshing, and teaching him how to return the favor. Unfortunately, by back problems developed to the point where I could barely stand my physical therapist massaging me, let alone by boyfriend. It also made it very difficult for me to massage him, because no matter where he lay I had to bend over. In the last month I've finally gotten to the point where we can massage each other again, and it has become incredibly sensual... except when one of us gets so relaxed from the massage that we fall asleep, hahah.
03/30/2009
Dark Muse Dark Muse
Massage is an integral part of our sexual relationship. I've been going through a lot of stress lately and sex just has not been enjoyable for me. I would always be way too uptight or thinking about what I need to do later that day (ranging from job applications to what to fix for dinner) or just plain worrying about stuff. So my partner decided to start giving me massages to help me relax. It has been an extremely wonderful experience, since it helps keep me focused on the here and now, and relax enough to enjoy myself! I too will return the favor, of course!

In general, we either use lotion (my favorite is actually bath and body works' warm milk and honey collection) or I make my own massage oil (about 5 drops of essential oil per tablespoon of oil--I prefer grape seed oil as the carrier oil, since it's very light and not as greasy).

We usually start by massaging the back, neck, and arms, going down over the buttocks, legs, feet, and then coming back up the front of the body. It makes it a bit more sensual and teasing, and we're less likely to fall asleep if we massage in that order.

I have also gotten a professional massage before, which was amazing. It helped so much with some of the stress in my life. It really helped with muscle soreness and stress, so I would gladly get one again. However, I still prefer the massages from my partner, because of the intimacy they create, even if the technique isn't perfect.
04/14/2009
Mamastoys Mamastoys
Both of our jobs are really stressful and we usually give each other massages several times a week. I love for hubby to give me a massage and it does usually end up with a great night (or day) of sex. He likes to get them too and usually I will give him one first, then let him repay me..
Our daughter gave both of us a gift certificate for professional massages several years ago and hey are still in the cabinet. I don't want some stranger messing with my body!! Everyone tells me I would love it but I just can't stand the thoughts of it. I'm too ticklish and would be laughing- thus defeating the purpose..
We're trying to find some good oils and lotions to use that aren't too messy. He hates to feel all slippery afterwards..
04/14/2009
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Oh - my! My wife and I integrate massage so much into our sex lives that it's our mutual cue - 'want a massage?' is how we get started. Non-sexual massage we refer to as a back-rub.

For a non sexual back rub I bought a ceramic Contour M stone from Jimmyjane link - it works great.

For intimate massages there are a few basics for us - be clean shaven, this greatly enhances sensitivity; we love 'Yes' lubricant - it has a luxurious aroma and feel from cocoa and shea butters - you'll love how your partner glistens.

After the massage part is complete - we have plenty of toys on hand to bring on the powerful orgasms that are always a gratifying conclusion. I created a detailed description of our whole experience - if your interested send me an email augustus63bc@gmail.com and I'll send you a copy.
07/26/2009
Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
We've only really integrated massage with sex once or twice but regular massage just isn't much a part of my life, either. I occasionally ask him to rub my back but, actually, he's really bad..
07/26/2009
Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
We do full-body erotic massages on one another fairly frequently. Oddly enough, we never break out any toys on those nights... sort of like it's an unspoken agreement that it's "skin play only" for the whole night then.
07/27/2009
eyeneerg1984 eyeneerg1984
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Originally posted by Machina
A few years ago I was on medication that zapped my sex drive to zero. My poor boyfriend so desperately wanted sex he would do anything to get my juices flowing- this is how we got into tantric sex. About three nights a week I was treated to a full ... More
This sounds so cool. What books would you suggest on the whole Tantric sex philosophy? I too have found that cultivating intimacy over the course of several hours is better than any sex toy. My wife is more lubricated and aggressive and I tend to be more erect and sensitive. If I could recreate this regularly, I'd be in heaven.
01/26/2010
Illusional Illusional
I wish I could find a way to incorporate massages into my daily routine. My boyfriend feels as if he's no "pro" and terrible about it, but there's something about his hands running their warmth against the span of my back and then chest and legs and everything, it feels wonderful. I'm definitely the more docile one in the relationship so, I haven't the heart to really push for it yet. I am VERY interested in this Tantric sex. I hope to get a book on something like that.
02/23/2010
CockGawker CockGawker
I'm a certified massage therapist -- so I just give my husband a regular deep tissue massage starting face down, turn him over and then end up on the thighs which is a natural segue into sexing. Having a firm but padded surface to work on is important also, body mechanics for the person giving the massage are vital -- don't hurt your back!

I put few drops of ginger EO in some coconut oil for a warming effect.

Massage massage therapy schools will have weekend workshops for couples so that is always an excellent option.
03/04/2010
Sensual husband Sensual husband
I love to give my wife full body massages for many different reasons. Who does not feel better after getting a massage. It does not always lead to sex but it does not have to either sometimes just after a long hard day you want to lay down and relax. I do make it a rule that when I massage my wife it shouls last at least 30 minutes or so for a quality massage if not longer. I do not think anyone like a quickie massage. It has been about three weeks since I gave my wife a massage. I think she deserves another one tonight time to get the candles, music, and oil out......
06/22/2010
Alicia Alicia
We've been making it a regular thing for us. The full body massages we probably do once a week but we give foot massages to each other every night while we watch tv before bed and then back rubs throughout the week as needed if we're sore or anything. I think it adds a lot of fun and sensuality to our lives and while the foot rubs and back rubs don't always lead to sex the full body ones almost always end up that way.
06/22/2010
Midway through Midway through
My ex-girlfriend gave me long neck, shoulder, forehead, and head massages, all the time. She still does (we're still best friends), and it's amazing. I've gotten good at giving massages because of all the ones I get from her. I've never given a total body massage though, I'm not sure how I would do legs because the amount of muscles there and stuff. I know if anyone tries to massage my legs, when they hit my calves, I cramp. So I just do upper body massage. But I'd say we got in about a 2 hour session each week.
06/30/2010
Jul!a Jul!a
Since we've started using the massage candles, we play around with lovely rubdowns on a fairly regular basis. Basically any time we have enough time for the candle to melt, we give each other a quick rubdown. For us it isn't so much about the pinpoint-ness (if that makes any sense), it's more about being touched and rubbed. Sooo nice
07/12/2010
Blinker Blinker
My guy's a personal trainer and we don't really do massages, but he stretches me out. Okay that's not as dirty as it sounds lol...he stretches my legs and back and arms and all that good stuff, and even cracks my toes and neck. It's wonderful. We have massage oil but haven't used it. We don't ever really bother with foreplay and he doesn't like greasy lotions, oils, etc.

We're weird. A romantic night for us is usually Adult Swim, pizza, beer and rough sex.
07/12/2010
Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Blinker
My guy's a personal trainer and we don't really do massages, but he stretches me out. Okay that's not as dirty as it sounds lol...he stretches my legs and back and arms and all that good stuff, and even cracks my toes and neck. It's ... More
Mine likes to crack my toes too. Is that weird? lol
07/12/2010
Blinker Blinker
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Originally posted by Jul!a
Mine likes to crack my toes too. Is that weird? lol
It feels soooo goooood lol
07/12/2010
Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Blinker
It feels soooo goooood lol
When he can manage to do it without tickling me, it's fantastic!
07/12/2010
fatesrelease fatesrelease
I really love when my boyfriend gives me a massage to turn me on. It makes me very relaxed and calm. It is something that makes me feel good and that gets me in the mood. So yes! He likes massages as well but I think I like them more than he does
07/13/2010
sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
We try to make time to add a nice long massage in every now and then. Maybe once a month or less. So it's not too often, but we try to make time for it, because it relaxes us and makes sex more enjoyable. Sometimes there's just no time for it though.
07/26/2010
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