Do You And Your Boyfriend Switch Roles?

briluminary briluminary 08/04/2011

Me and my boyfriend like to explore different options and try new things, I have used strap ons and dildos and such on him as well as myself. Do you and your lover like to switch rolls occasionally?

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briluminary briluminary
Do you use dildo / vibrator toys on him, or do you use a strap on for example?
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Shellz31 Shellz31
I don't have a partner at the moment, but I wouldn't use toys on him. I'm ALWAYS the sub. I like a partner to always been in charge.
08/04/2011
Liz2 Liz2
I enjoy pegging him and he totally enjoys it.
08/04/2011
The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
My fiancee and I haven't tried pegging, so I voted no, but we both do like some of the same anal toys.
08/04/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Sometimes I even will wash off the back deck and HE will do the dishes. Now THAT is roll reversal!!!
08/04/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by The Curious Couple
My fiancee and I haven't tried pegging, so I voted no, but we both do like some of the same anal toys.
If he likes anal toys, then "pegging" is just one more anal toy. If you get one that has an "insert" for you at the same time, it is WAY more fun. Something like the Feldoe, for instance.
08/04/2011
The Mother of a SiNner The Mother of a SiNner
Quote:
Originally posted by briluminary
Do you use dildo / vibrator toys on him, or do you use a strap on for example?
He loves it
08/04/2011
Sunshineamine Sunshineamine
No I just like them used on me. He doesn't want anything backdoor for him. He is down for rings and couples toys though.
08/04/2011
aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
so glad i finally got him to start opening up in the anal dept. he'd been at me to get in mine for a long time, and once i finally opened up and started enjoying it i was hungry to try out his. pegging is my FAVORITE. its hard work but i love treating his ass like its a pussy. and i love his p-spot getting so hard as he comes. it's beautiful. i can tell from his face the amazing pleasure he's getting, relate to the feeling of being drugged and shipped to another planet.

it's a good thing.

and it brings us closer together.
08/04/2011
padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by briluminary
Do you use dildo / vibrator toys on him, or do you use a strap on for example?
We never switch roles. He is always Dominant and won't switch with me.
08/04/2011
Vanessa Weiss Vanessa Weiss
No, we do not switch roles. He doesn't really have a submissive bone in his whole body and I'm the world's worst Dominatrix given that I'm naturally submissive so even the idea of switching doesn't feel right or good to either of us.

However, even though he is DEFINITELY the dominant one in bed, it doesn't affect whether I use toys on him or not - he likes it.
08/04/2011
Kkay Kkay
I'd be interested in the idea of pegging, but I am a sub- to put it in practice, my partner would have to be topping from the bottom and doing so hard.
08/04/2011
thebest thebest
yep
08/09/2011
SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by briluminary
Do you use dildo / vibrator toys on him, or do you use a strap on for example?
he likes it
08/24/2011
kendra30752 kendra30752
No. We're strictly ourselves. He doesn't use toys period unless he's using them ON me. I do not use them on him and strap on's are not among our collection.
08/30/2011
DeliciousDrip DeliciousDrip
nope. never have , never will.
08/30/2011
That Man from Mars That Man from Mars
I'm a guy, and I've considered it. I'm also a control freak though, and I'm not easily swayed in letting anyone penetrate me because to me, that's a sign of dominance.
08/30/2011
sktb0007 sktb0007
my partner is not interested in that but thats okay because I dont think I am either
08/30/2011
AndroAngel AndroAngel
We're switches, both in the BDSM aspect and when it comes to penetration. Of coarse, I already consider myself an Androgyne, so I can't rightfully say we swap genders. Either way, penetration between us isn't an act of domination, it's an exchange of pleasure, we both enjoy penetrating and being penetrated supremely.
08/30/2011
goofballmaster goofballmaster
Quote:
Originally posted by briluminary
Do you use dildo / vibrator toys on him, or do you use a strap on for example?
We do it, but not very often.
09/04/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Okay...I'm tired this morning....so forgive the nutty humor....but YES, we switch rolls. Whenever the thing runs down to the little cardboard tube!!!!

Interestingly we discussed this last evening. NO...we don't switch rolls. WE DO use strap on with me pegging him...but HE is still the "guy" and am still the "girl" and it is simply a way that HE derives pleasure in an erogenous zone, and a way I can pleasure him (while enjoying myself...both playing with him manually (we peg in the missionary position, so I CAN reach him with my hands) and I always have some kind of toy in me..one or both holes, so I am enjoying the motion too.

There is no "feminization" or dominance issues however. WE don't play that. For instance, he would never "suck" a probe as if it were a penis I somehow own, any more then I would suck a plastic toy he was using on me.

Sadly, all the pegging videos seem to be based on this "dominance" or "feminization of the guy" concept and we don't enjoy even watching it. We wish there were some alternative pegging porn, actually.
12/26/2011
shcoo shcoo
We did it often earlier in our relationship and I loved it, but lately he has told me that he never enjoyed it and doesn't want to do it again. Eh.
12/26/2011
unfulfilled unfulfilled
He wouldn't be interested in it so no.
12/26/2011
SweetSurprise SweetSurprise
Quote:
Originally posted by Sunshineamine
No I just like them used on me. He doesn't want anything backdoor for him. He is down for rings and couples toys though.
Same...His backdoor is off limits. He does like the cock rings and couples vibes. He loves to play with me though.
12/26/2011
Ash1141 Ash1141
Yup....he loves it
01/10/2012
KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
Not yet, he's submissive but not comfortable being dominant so it's something I'm going to have to slowly introduce to him.
He's open to switching if I can help him warm up to the idea of it.
01/11/2012
Daemonin Daemonin
I don't think it's something he would go for. But hey, maybe one day
01/11/2012
Zombirella Zombirella
Quote:
Originally posted by briluminary
Do you use dildo / vibrator toys on him, or do you use a strap on for example?
No, never.
01/11/2012
Kitka Kitka
I don't switch with my hubby but that's what play partners are for
01/11/2012
Undead Undead
Quote:
Originally posted by briluminary
Do you use dildo / vibrator toys on him, or do you use a strap on for example?
I'm a straight guy and my fiance and I do not do this and I wouldn't agree to.
01/11/2012
PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
No partner at moment, but If I was with someone who would try it, then I would like that.
01/11/2012
bunnygrl bunnygrl
My boyfriend and I both enjoy switching =] We also just started pegging and are looking forward to more!
01/11/2012
ksparkles16 ksparkles16
sometimes
01/28/2012
ECU Pirate ECU Pirate
Nope havn't done that yet. Maybe later
02/28/2012
samanthalynn samanthalynn
Quote:
Originally posted by briluminary
Do you use dildo / vibrator toys on him, or do you use a strap on for example?
never
03/03/2012
plaidvulva plaidvulva
Yes. Lots actually.
03/09/2012
Bethy Cassatt Bethy Cassatt
I love having toys used on me, but I don't think he likes them very much.
04/06/2012
Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by briluminary
Do you use dildo / vibrator toys on him, or do you use a strap on for example?
Yes, we switch roles all the time
04/06/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I've wanted to use a strap on, but my husband isn't 100% on board with it. I've used glass toys on him and vibraters though
04/07/2012
BlooJay BlooJay
I'd be okay with it.
04/07/2012
Kirsten A Kirsten A
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Okay...I'm tired this morning....so forgive the nutty humor....but YES, we switch rolls. Whenever the thing runs down to the little cardboard tube!!!!

Interestingly we discussed this last evening. NO...we don't switch rolls. WE DO ... More
This is such a good point. Pegging does not necessarily have to be a genderplay thing. Inherent in this question is the assumption that the roles of "penetrator" and "receiver" are gender-related and they really don't have to be. My guess is that a lot of couples enjoying pegging without any gender-role swapping at all. Because the prostate gland is a beautiful thing.

Also some responders have linked submissive/dominant roles to the receiver/penetrator roles. I don't think that they have to be, either.

All of these roles are flexible, and are up to each couple to define for themselves.
04/07/2012
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
My wife is OK with using vibes and dildos on me - but does not like pegging. She says she's not a 'switch'.
04/07/2012
ejrbrndps ejrbrndps
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Sometimes I even will wash off the back deck and HE will do the dishes. Now THAT is roll reversal!!!
haha too funny
04/15/2012
abbylover abbylover
i like pegging
04/16/2012
sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
We like to peg
04/16/2012
extrafun extrafun
I would luv to switch roles with my wife and have her try a strap on on me, if we dont like it we dont have to do it again
04/24/2012
SilverMinxxx SilverMinxxx
No, but I would be open to trying it.
04/27/2012
Vegan Silk Vegan Silk
I tried pegging with my last boyfriend. I hope the next guy is open to trying it!
04/27/2012
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by briluminary
Do you use dildo / vibrator toys on him, or do you use a strap on for example?
We do this.
05/09/2012
brevado brevado
Such a turn on!
07/11/2012
HannahPanda HannahPanda
She lets be dominate sometimes, but it's rare haha.
07/12/2012
konicaguy konicaguy
Quote:
Originally posted by briluminary
Do you use dildo / vibrator toys on him, or do you use a strap on for example?
I love it!
07/15/2012
SMichelle SMichelle
No, he has no interest in the toys being used on him. He loves using them on me, however.
07/15/2012
Dixiemomma Dixiemomma
no, not at all with my current and forever Mister.... i have in past used my toys on bf's tho ... can be fun!
07/15/2012
Melan!e Melan!e
My partner just ordered a harness and I have used toys on him. We like to experiment and are having lots of fun doing it.
07/15/2012
Badass Badass
i would try it out..
07/15/2012
Sundae Sparkles Sundae Sparkles
i wish....
07/15/2012
J5ive J5ive
Yes
07/15/2012
PassionCpl PassionCpl
I'll use toys on hubby and occasionally do him with a strap-on but we don't really consider it swapping roles even if I've slipped my panties on him, lol.
07/17/2012
Zandrock Zandrock
I do like to switch roles. It is fun.
07/17/2012
KLu769 KLu769
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Sometimes I even will wash off the back deck and HE will do the dishes. Now THAT is roll reversal!!!
Now THAT'S what I'm talking about!
07/19/2012
KRD KRD
No strap ons or pegging, but do use vibrators
07/22/2012
LAndJ LAndJ
Never. He doesn't really like toys for him much.
07/22/2012
luvslukin luvslukin
Not so much with the GF as she is not too experienced in kinky sex. She is an eager student though and I just ordered an Fetish Fantasy Elite strapless strap-on which she seems eager to try. I have course love it and am hoping she takes to it with enthusiasm and has fun. I like to reverse a little but still like the woman to be a woman. In other words, I like to become more girly, but it be more like lesbian sex. That is what's hot for me. I also like to be called girly type names during this "reversal" sex and the naughtier the better!
07/22/2012
KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
I don't. My partners aren't interested and if they aren't then I am not either.
07/23/2012
Ganconagh Ganconagh
she pegs me and plays in my ass, and I love it. Dont really see it as role reversal, just something we both enjoy.
07/25/2012
sexykiss sexykiss
my gf lets me use toys sometimes on her not all the time she doesnt really lik iet
07/25/2012
SecretToyMan SecretToyMan
We haven't and I don't think I want to.
07/25/2012
SadoMas SadoMas
nope
08/07/2012
crazycouple7281 crazycouple7281
Yes!
08/15/2012
lineswecast lineswecast
I keep meaning to buy a strap-on, but haven't gotten around to it yet.
08/22/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by briluminary
Do you use dildo / vibrator toys on him, or do you use a strap on for example?
We use dido's, toys, whatever, on each other, but that has nothing to do with "switching rolls". I am still the woman in the relationship...even with a strap on. The only time we REALLY switch rolls is when HE does the laundry and I do the dishes!!!! THAT, my friend, is ROLL REVERSAL.
08/23/2012
sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
Yes, we have.
08/23/2012
Alyona Alyona
No but I want to try it
08/23/2012
Rory Rory
We don't but I think the hubby would like me to try a strap on on him.
11/14/2012
Robespierrethecat Robespierrethecat
My boyfriend and I do trade roles a lot. I like being spanked and having my hair pulled, but he wants to get some stockings and is really excited for pegging.
11/17/2012
mamaseatspoop mamaseatspoop
Yup
11/17/2012
ASpiritedSlut ASpiritedSlut
With my current partner, he is always the sub and I am always the Dom, and this is consistent in and out of the bedroom. However, during sex I am often the bottom. I do like to top him sometimes as well, and even as the bottom I am the one in control, he's not allowed to cum without permission.
12/18/2012
falalena falalena
Quote:
Originally posted by briluminary
Do you use dildo / vibrator toys on him, or do you use a strap on for example?
at this time he does not have an interest in me penetrating him.
12/19/2012
SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
We enjoy pegging! I'm usually the submissive one, but once I put on my strap-on it's a different story.
12/20/2012
ginnyluvspotter ginnyluvspotter
No we havent
12/25/2012
lainebug lainebug
Quote:
Originally posted by briluminary
Do you use dildo / vibrator toys on him, or do you use a strap on for example?
i think it'd be fun
12/31/2012
wanderer5964 wanderer5964
only thing we switch is whos the dom and the sub
01/10/2013
karenm karenm
No. I'm a bit interested in it but he definitely isn't, so I doubt we ever will.
02/05/2013
srexom srexom
not interested in it.
02/27/2013
Oriental husband and wife Oriental husband and wife
Now that he is into butt plugs, he asked me if I would consider using one of my toys on him. Told him a big NO ! He said he just wants to try it and see what it is like. Yuch !
04/14/2013
Hallmar82 Hallmar82
Every so often...usually I bring it up
04/14/2013
Pete's Princess Pete's Princess
I have no interest in my wife using penetration toys on me. An external vibrator would be nice though.
04/15/2013
twelve13 twelve13
We switch roles maybe 20 percent of the time. And we are often "role-less," too
04/15/2013
Total posts: 89
Unique posters: 86