down there?

Does it have any particular significance to you if he does or not? If it hurts your feelings then I would talk to him about it. If you don't feel the need and he doesn't want to then it's fine. I don't think there's any real norms to sex.

weve been married almost 3 yrs. so he doesnt go there very often. cant remember when was the last time he fingered me...

I'd be kinda ticked if my boyfriend stopped wanting to finger me. He doesn't exactly act like he wants to live there, but fingering is a regular part of foreplay for us. I agree, his cock is better, but I like fingers, too. They can move around a little more.

I'd be bothered if I wasn't getting fingered. I love the foreplay of it. Yeh your dick is great but, in order to be fully accepting of your dick, I need foreplay!!

I mean I guess it's whatever floats your boat, but that sucks that he's not a fan of it.

Because you're asking the question in the first place, it seems like you would want him to start doing so. If you didn't want him to, you wouldn't worry about whether or not it's normal, in my opinion.

I agree with everyone else about the fact that everyone has different ideas about what they like and don't like. However, I also think there's also certain amount of sacrifice, or give and take, involved in sex and pleasure. Having a dick in my throat isn't my favorite thing in the world (I definitely don't dislike it, but I don't LOVE it either), but I do it because my partner enjoys it and I enjoy making him feel good.

Communication is the most important part of sex. If you want your guy to finger you as a part of foreplay or as a way to get off, tell him! If he's insecure about it, assure him that you'll help him figure it out. If he refuses simply because he doesn't want to and doesn't care if you like it, then maybe you should be thinking a bit more about your sexual compatibility.

I think anything is normal as long as you both want it and are both comfortable and no one gets hurt. Personally I love being fingered and would think it was weird if my partner just stopped doing it though.

Mine hardly ever does.

I don't see it as an issue unless it bothers you. I'd be a little bummed out if he stopped wanting to finger me, but I'm sure a lot of people are happy taking care of that themselves or using a toy instead.

It all depends on what's important to you! If you want him to start, maybe masturbating for him to show him what works for you would help get him interested?

Why not.. It's sucha great feeling. Do they rather lick than stick a finger or two in? If none then there something is wring.

i was with a guy once who didnt use his hands much i eventually just asked him about it and he just didnt have much experience with it and wasnt what he prefered. didnt bother me to much because he was all about the oral

I love to finger my wife, I guess there's probably some guys who don't do it though.

Maybe he doesn't have experience in fingering. You should talk to him and guide his fingers to do exactly what you want.

I find that a little strange because if I'm not willing to touch an area with my fingers I'm almost certainly not going to put my dick there either...