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Is it unusual for your partner to not want to finger you?
10/03/2010
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Alicia Alicia
Quote:
Originally posted by alayamae
Is it unusual for your partner to not want to finger you?
I guess every person has their likes and dislikes, but for me it'd be incredibly weird if my husband all of a sudden didn't want to finger me. If you're concerned I'd have a conversation with your partner.
10/03/2010
alayamae alayamae
Quote:
Originally posted by Alicia
I guess every person has their likes and dislikes, but for me it'd be incredibly weird if my husband all of a sudden didn't want to finger me. If you're concerned I'd have a conversation with your partner.
he says, he doesn't like it down there, and he doesn't need to because his dick is better, which is definitely true. lol
10/05/2010
pinkzombie pinkzombie
Quote:
Originally posted by alayamae
Is it unusual for your partner to not want to finger you?
I think people just like certain things. Maybe your partner had a bad experience with someone. Personally my husband loves my down there more than anything. He could spend all day down there. He likes to finger me and watch my face while he does it
11/15/2010
Kim! Kim!
Does it have any particular significance to you if he does or not? If it hurts your feelings then I would talk to him about it. If you don't feel the need and he doesn't want to then it's fine. I don't think there's any real norms to sex.
11/15/2010
mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
weve been married almost 3 yrs. so he doesnt go there very often. cant remember when was the last time he fingered me...
11/15/2010
Jobthingy Jobthingy
Quote:
Originally posted by pinkzombie
I think people just like certain things. Maybe your partner had a bad experience with someone. Personally my husband loves my down there more than anything. He could spend all day down there. He likes to finger me and watch my face while he does it
Yep. same here. If the man could live there he would.
11/15/2010
ZenaidaMacroura ZenaidaMacroura
I'd be kinda ticked if my boyfriend stopped wanting to finger me. He doesn't exactly act like he wants to live there, but fingering is a regular part of foreplay for us. I agree, his cock is better, but I like fingers, too. They can move around a little more.
11/15/2010
Midway through Midway through
I'd be bothered if I wasn't getting fingered. I love the foreplay of it. Yeh your dick is great but, in order to be fully accepting of your dick, I need foreplay!!

I mean I guess it's whatever floats your boat, but that sucks that he's not a fan of it.
11/15/2010
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by alayamae
he says, he doesn't like it down there, and he doesn't need to because his dick is better, which is definitely true. lol
Sounds like he's unsure and insecure about not knowing how to please you by fingering you.. I could be wrong!
11/28/2010
southernhawtie southernhawtie
Quote:
Originally posted by alayamae
Is it unusual for your partner to not want to finger you?
That is a little unusual...
12/01/2010
mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
Quote:
Originally posted by LavenderSkies
Sounds like he's unsure and insecure about not knowing how to please you by fingering you.. I could be wrong!
i second this
12/01/2010
pinkzombie pinkzombie
Quote:
Originally posted by alayamae
Is it unusual for your partner to not want to finger you?
Some people like to do different things. Most men ive known love to finger. maybe ask your partner why? to get an idea..
12/01/2010
HoneyHoney HoneyHoney
Quote:
Originally posted by LavenderSkies
Sounds like he's unsure and insecure about not knowing how to please you by fingering you.. I could be wrong!
Seconded.
02/04/2011
ImABarbieGirl ImABarbieGirl
Quote:
Originally posted by alayamae
Is it unusual for your partner to not want to finger you?
Everyone is different. Personally, I don't like it, it doesn't do anything for me, not really.

What floats one persons boat, may sink anothers. We all like different things. If your husband/bf/partner wont finger you and you want it, ask them why they won't. Its best to talk about it. Maybe he is afraid to scratch you? maybe he doesn't like how his fingers feel in there? Who knows. Ask for details - it would be weird if it upset him when you asked too... Again, people are different.
02/20/2011
sbon sbon
Because you're asking the question in the first place, it seems like you would want him to start doing so. If you didn't want him to, you wouldn't worry about whether or not it's normal, in my opinion.

I agree with everyone else about the fact that everyone has different ideas about what they like and don't like. However, I also think there's also certain amount of sacrifice, or give and take, involved in sex and pleasure. Having a dick in my throat isn't my favorite thing in the world (I definitely don't dislike it, but I don't LOVE it either), but I do it because my partner enjoys it and I enjoy making him feel good.

Communication is the most important part of sex. If you want your guy to finger you as a part of foreplay or as a way to get off, tell him! If he's insecure about it, assure him that you'll help him figure it out. If he refuses simply because he doesn't want to and doesn't care if you like it, then maybe you should be thinking a bit more about your sexual compatibility.
02/22/2011
KnK KnK
Quote:
Originally posted by alayamae
Is it unusual for your partner to not want to finger you?
Not everyone likes it, and it can definitely make a difference on how gentle they are or well-groomed for that matter. First partner scratched me while fingering me and it hurt for days. The experience overall was pretty bad, but last partner definitely knew how to help me enjoy myself. I personally only like finger accompanied with oral
02/22/2011
oopsy oopsy
I think anything is normal as long as you both want it and are both comfortable and no one gets hurt. Personally I love being fingered and would think it was weird if my partner just stopped doing it though.
03/27/2011
~Brittany~ ~Brittany~
Mine hardly ever does.
04/01/2011
purplekidney purplekidney
I don't see it as an issue unless it bothers you. I'd be a little bummed out if he stopped wanting to finger me, but I'm sure a lot of people are happy taking care of that themselves or using a toy instead.

It all depends on what's important to you! If you want him to start, maybe masturbating for him to show him what works for you would help get him interested?
04/03/2011
Howells Howells
Why not.. It's sucha great feeling. Do they rather lick than stick a finger or two in? If none then there something is wring.
04/19/2011
froggiemoma froggiemoma
i was with a guy once who didnt use his hands much i eventually just asked him about it and he just didnt have much experience with it and wasnt what he prefered. didnt bother me to much because he was all about the oral
04/27/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by alayamae
Is it unusual for your partner to not want to finger you?
His fingers, tongue and sometimes toes (he has nice, manicured toes) go where ever they can go...whatever position they can reach...each and every time. Except if we play a game where we say "no hands"...and then you have to be creative. Him NOT wanting to finger me? Never happened.

If that IS happening to you, it may be something going on in his or her head. Ask them why? Be open, talk, ask. It may lead to a better experience for you both. Maybe they hurt someone accidentally doing that before...etc. Who knows unless you ask.
06/04/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by mrs.mckrakn
weve been married almost 3 yrs. so he doesnt go there very often. cant remember when was the last time he fingered me...
We've been married 32 years, and he fingers me a couple times a day...if after three years you "cannot remember" and you want him to do that, DO tell him. Most guys are THRILLED when their wives actually say "this turns me on". They are HAPPY to oblige. Guys love simple, clear, directions...no matter how brilliant or talented they may be.
06/04/2011
N&M N&M
I love to finger my wife, I guess there's probably some guys who don't do it though.
08/08/2011
Rossie Rossie
Maybe he doesn't have experience in fingering. You should talk to him and guide his fingers to do exactly what you want.
08/08/2011
<3BF <3BF
I find that a little strange because if I'm not willing to touch an area with my fingers I'm almost certainly not going to put my dick there either...
03/26/2012
Marcianpro Marcianpro
Quote:
Originally posted by alayamae
Is it unusual for your partner to not want to finger you?
I'd say very unusual
03/27/2012
Heatherbipoly Heatherbipoly
Quote:
Originally posted by alayamae
Is it unusual for your partner to not want to finger you?
yes the would be weird
07/05/2012
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