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My boyfriend spends a lot of time focusing on my clit, but I'm way way way more sensitive on my nipples, I hear a lot of women complaining that their men don't give oral in general, so should I be one to bitch about it not being the right
My boyfriend spends a lot of time focusing on my clit, but I'm way way way more sensitive on my nipples, I hear a lot of women complaining that their men don't give oral in general, so should I be one to bitch about it not being the right kind for me? I mean, I love having my clit played with and eaten out, but... my nipples are always ultra-sensitive and I'd love for him to play with them. I've been told maybe to invest in some nipple clamps and let him divert his attention elsewhere. Any ideas?
Illusional, honey, there's nothing wrong with asking for what you want, and EVERYTHING right about it. Good sex is about sharing and learning. None of this is selfish in the least!
It's OK to simply say, in the throes of passion "Suck my nipples, PLEASE! I love it!" My guess is he'd be happy to comply. It will also probably turn him on like nothing else. And no one says you can't have oral sex AND nipple play in the same session. Why not? It's all good fun.
When I was younger I rarely asked for things and just hoped my partner would "just know" well, it rarely works that way, so the two of you certainly can and should talk about what you want, the both of you. It is so strengthening to do this, My Man and I do this regularly now, after years of my NOT wanting to talk about sex (despite really liking to do it) and it is SO much better when we know what the other wants, and do it happily.
When I want something, I have learned to JUST ASK, or simply let him know I want something particular at that time. It can only strengthen your relationship, and make sex better.