Is it greedy to ask for foreplay?

Contributor: VanillaFreeSex VanillaFreeSex
speak up! pull him up! Maybe give him a striptease and focus on putting your breasts in/on his face, etc. then tell him how good it feels. Basically just get him there, and then rave about it. Maybe start playing with them yourself to hint.
12/09/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by VanillaFreeSex
speak up! pull him up! Maybe give him a striptease and focus on putting your breasts in/on his face, etc. then tell him how good it feels. Basically just get him there, and then rave about it. Maybe start playing with them yourself to hint.
I've gotten way better at this. I've bought nipple clamps, and a few sets of lingerie that are cupless. And asking doesn't hurt at all!
12/09/2010
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
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Originally posted by MattBryant
when he's going to town grab his hands and put them on your breast.. or mention, hey i love it when you go down on me, i also LOVE it when you play with my nipples.. its not rocket science..
That's pretty much what I was going to say. Does he touch your nipples at other times? Say to him while he's doing it, "I love it when you touch me there", gives him more confidence to wander around a little more during other times. Totally express how you feel. Once you open up about it, and aren't as shy, you'll be AMAZED at what your relationship can be like!
12/13/2010
Contributor: misslady misslady
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Originally posted by Illusional
My boyfriend spends a lot of time focusing on my clit, but I'm way way way more sensitive on my nipples, I hear a lot of women complaining that their men don't give oral in general, so should I be one to bitch about it not being the right ... more
Absolutely not greedy at all, in my opinion! I think men in general are actually happy when you communicate what you want because it means that they can do a better job of pleasing you. It just depends on how you ask -- I find that a good way to do so is "compliment" + "suggestion" + "compliment" + "emphasis" + (optional thank you or whatever). That may be laying it on a little thick, but it's probably the most cautious way to do it. For example:

It feels amazing when you focus on my clit + but I like it most when you focus on my nipples + and you're so good at it + that you make me just want it all the time. If you find this to be a little awkward for conversation, during sex it might play out like this:

Express enjoyment with clit play + suggest nipple play + express even MORE enjoyment with nipple play + suggest he do it more often + reward him with something that he really likes.

This is how I get my partner to learn what I like without him even realizing it.
12/14/2010
Contributor: Midway through Midway through
I don't consider that greedy at all. But you should definitely communicate it to your partner
12/14/2010
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by Illusional
My boyfriend spends a lot of time focusing on my clit, but I'm way way way more sensitive on my nipples, I hear a lot of women complaining that their men don't give oral in general, so should I be one to bitch about it not being the right ... more
Definitely not greedy to ask for it at all! Be direct!
12/21/2010
Contributor: sbon sbon
You should always communicate what you want with your partner. My boyfriend loves it when I tell him what I want and like.
12/22/2010
Contributor: The Awesome Penguin The Awesome Penguin
I always find it a huge turn on with my girlfriend asks me to do things to her!
12/23/2010
Contributor: satinlady550 satinlady550
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Originally posted by Illusional
My boyfriend spends a lot of time focusing on my clit, but I'm way way way more sensitive on my nipples, I hear a lot of women complaining that their men don't give oral in general, so should I be one to bitch about it not being the right ... more
No it isn't greedy it is part of the experience with your partner
09/17/2012
Contributor: Apirka Apirka
Just tell him what you like/what you'd like him to do. He can't read your mind.
09/17/2012
Contributor: AK Bunny AK Bunny
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Originally posted by Illusional
My boyfriend spends a lot of time focusing on my clit, but I'm way way way more sensitive on my nipples, I hear a lot of women complaining that their men don't give oral in general, so should I be one to bitch about it not being the right ... more
Talk to him! I haven't met a (straight) guy alive that would turn down playing with boobs.
09/17/2012
Contributor: VanillaFreeSex VanillaFreeSex
he should appreciate your candor and be even more turned on. I am highly aroused by nipple and breast play and often orgasm from it if the person is really into it. and as a giver... i enjoy both equally, and really whatever works for my partner is what turns me on.

and ya get some nipple toys as well just to mix it up a bit. it's so great to have both going on at the same time and unless u have a 3rd (or more) in the room toys really help
09/19/2012