Non-penetrative sex

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Non-penetrative sex

hornypoet69 hornypoet69
What are your thoughts on non-penetrative sex? That is, complete sexual experiences that do not include penetration? Is this something you can enjoy? Is it worth it to you, to take your clothes off if there isn't going to be a phallus entering an anus or vagina? I'll chime in with my opinion on the matter, once I see some responses, but I'm curious to see what people think about this.
04/24/2011
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DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
I mean, I'm lesbian so perhaps my opinions will skew your survey, but...

Yes. I can have completely satisfying sex without penetration of any kind. Sex isn't a goal-oriented thing, it doesn't end when fingers are inserted, or even when climax is reached.
04/24/2011
toxie m toxie m
I adore penetration and I don't think I personally could have a fulfilling sex life without it. I definitely enjoy non-penetrative sex, but if that was the ONLY kind of sex I was ever having I think I'd go crazy.
04/24/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
When my girl is on her period she'll give me a nice HJ or BJ. Although we've done external only for her, she really prefers penetration, so I oblige whenever possible.
04/25/2011
Belleuma Slle Belleuma Slle
I personally don't mind not having penetration.. Foreplay can be very fun, even if it just ends up teasing your partner is all you do..
04/25/2011
indiglo indiglo
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Originally posted by toxie m
I adore penetration and I don't think I personally could have a fulfilling sex life without it. I definitely enjoy non-penetrative sex, but if that was the ONLY kind of sex I was ever having I think I'd go crazy.
Yeah, I've thought about this a lot, and I totally agree. If I could NEVER have penetrative sex, I might lose it... but I do enjoy non-penetrative sex sometimes.
04/25/2011
hornypoet69 hornypoet69
Okay, time for the OP to chime in with his opinion. I love non-penetrative sex. Though to be fair, I have never had penetrative sex. I am not in any particular hurry to lose my virginity, but I still enjoy getting naked and doing sexual things with guys.

Here's another question for the masses. If your partner had never had penetrative sex, and wanted to wait, would you be willing to have non-penetrative sex with that person until they felt ready? This is basically the situation I find myself in. It seems like most gay men would be unwilling to do this. But I am unwilling to have penetrative sex right away. So I find myself with no one to date/have sex with (okay there are exceptions, but its definitely a barrier to my dating/sex life)
04/25/2011
Coralbell Coralbell
My boyfriend was a virgin when we started dating so we spent a while on non-penetrative sex before he decided he was ready, and I didn't mind. We still have some nights that don't involve PIV sex just because there are so many other fun things to do.
04/25/2011
BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Hmmmm... this is a tough question for me. I love penetration. But I have had some very satisfying, orgasmic experiences that didn't involved any stimulation physically at all. I can't say that I only find satisfaction with penetration but holy hell I do love it.
04/25/2011
LadieWithSwagg LadieWithSwagg
I don't think you can call it real sex
04/25/2011
BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by LadieWithSwagg
I don't think you can call it real sex
How is it not real sex? It sure as hell felt real to me!

(Genuine question, by the way... not argumentative)
04/25/2011
markeagleone markeagleone
I think it is a form of sex because two people are sharing the experience together. Yes, it is just as enjoyable!
04/25/2011
GravyCakes GravyCakes
well, i don't think you can call it "sex," but i love it too. i'm also a virgin in no hurry to lose it. my bf is fine w/ it, as long as he gets to see & touch me naked. i just love being naked. but i do love fooling around & can cum & be completely satisfied w/out being penetrated.
05/27/2011
CAKES CAKES
I think sex without penetration can be enjoyable. Sometimes my man and I just give each other an orgasm through oral sex or touching, and no penetration is necessary. It is still very enjoyable.
05/27/2011
Dusk Dusk
I had a lot of sex without penetration! My partner and I only started having penetrative sex this year, and that was after a year and a half of dating. It's how I define my virginity and I didn't feel it was the right time to give it up until recently - I don't think there's anything wrong with having non-penetrative sex and choosing to wait. It's just as much fun! There are a few things you can't do with it (rape fantasies for example) but we don't use penetration every time, even now.
05/28/2011
ThoughtsAblaze ThoughtsAblaze
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
How is it not real sex? It sure as hell felt real to me!



(Genuine question, by the way... not argumentative)
I'm 25 and always thought of sex as penis-in-vagina. Any time I see the word, I immediately think of what I would've termed as "real sex" prior to now.

BUT I'm really fighting in my head to redefine sex as this forum has shown me how there really is no limit to sexual experience! I've considered defining it as an act where people are sexually aroused and reach climax, but then what of people who struggle with climax? And what of people who enjoy sexual experience without a penis or a vagina? This is hard!

I haven't had PIV sex, but I do love non-penetrative sex and think it's totally worth it.
06/11/2011
That Man from Mars That Man from Mars
If PIV were the only thing called 'sex', then that would mean gay/lesbian couples don't fuck.

That's very, very wrong, but it's also a common mentality amongst straight people, unfortunately.

I'm glad this topic has been brought up. Hopefully people will learn some things, which is always good.
06/11/2011
That Man from Mars That Man from Mars
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Originally posted by ThoughtsAblaze
I'm 25 and always thought of sex as penis-in-vagina. Any time I see the word, I immediately think of what I would've termed as "real sex" prior to now.

BUT I'm really fighting in my head to redefine sex as this forum has ...
Just think of it this way; would you call it making love?

If a woman who is with another woman is pleasuring her sexually, wouldn't that be making love, and isn't making love a form of sex?

So that, sexual pleasure = sex, to break it down to brass tacks.

Forgive me if I sound off, I'm experiencing insomnia and tend to slip into structuring my grammar in a non-english manner when I get out of it.
06/11/2011
Smitty Smitty
I enjoy oral sex and mutual masturbation just as much as penetrative sex. it just depends on the mood and the progression of things.
06/11/2011
N&M N&M
Works really well sometimes
08/08/2011
Rossie Rossie
I love oral, but it doesn't feel complete without penetrative sex.
08/08/2011
C-Rae C-Rae
I enjoy it. I'm a lesbian and I do like to be penetrated.. I just need to be penetrated in order to really get off.. Oral sex just gets my juices flowing
08/08/2011
ConiMarie ConiMarie
I actually had non-penetrative sex last night with my friend. It was really great, I enjoyed it a lot as did he.
10/02/2011
Kkay Kkay
PIV isn't necessary for me to be sexually satisfied.
10/02/2011
Ahatmadeofshoes12 Ahatmadeofshoes12
The first 5 years of my being sexually active involved non-penetrative sex and it was incredibly satisfying. I love penetrative sex but it is not necessary for sexual enjoyment.
02/13/2012
Gr8pumpkin Gr8pumpkin
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Originally posted by Ahatmadeofshoes12
The first 5 years of my being sexually active involved non-penetrative sex and it was incredibly satisfying. I love penetrative sex but it is not necessary for sexual enjoyment.
I love non penetrative sex. With my ex wife we did that a lot when we were dating. I liked to put my cock on top of her panties and rub it near her clit, it would get her off, then I would either shoot on the outside of her panties, or put my cock between her panties and her leg and cum there.
Otherwise we would get me off by rubbing on her bum and cum there, or between her breasts.
It was fine until we got married, sadly, we did not have PIV sex for eight years after the wedding...a long story.
06/22/2013
mailroomorder mailroomorder
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Originally posted by hornypoet69
What are your thoughts on non-penetrative sex? That is, complete sexual experiences that do not include penetration? Is this something you can enjoy? Is it worth it to you, to take your clothes off if there isn't going to be a phallus entering an ...
Penetration does not equal sex. You get to choose what sex is for yourself. And there are loads of way to have a fulfilling sex life without ever considering or following through with penetration.
06/22/2013
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